Working with so many women on their relationship with food has reinforced many things in my mind; if you are going through this you're not the only one, you can't run from your problems, and the food is not the problem. Among many other things of course.
I want to share 2 common 'solutions' that I see many people resort to in an effort to support their relationship with food or 'gain control' back that nearly always leads to more unhealthy thought patterns, behaviors, and beliefs around food as well as body image.
If you think that locking yourself in a room far away from the kitchen will end the eating, you are probably right. But it won't work long term.
You will likely end up being more obsessive in your thinking and won't be able to focus as much on what you are doing because the thought of the foods you hide from will be swirling in your mind.
Or you will be able to distract yourself from the food only to find you have avoided it for so long, are so hungry, and get hit with the fixation of food like a freight train and find yourself in a flurry of stuffing your face.
Neither of these are a beneficial place to put yourself in.
The solution? Face the Food Fear and Quit Hiding.
Okay, now you might be thinking 'then I will just throw everything away and get it out of my house so I don't have to worry about it or deal with it'.
That's one way to go about it. But what does that really do for you?
It doesn't allow you to see the underlying cause for concern. It also doesn't give you the opportunity to work at developing a more positive and empowering relationship with food.
And it reinforces a limiting belief about food that you 'cannot have foods you enjoy without going overboard' which of course then increases anxiety and decreases any hope or belief in your ability to ever be able to have peanut butter, cookies, rice, or whatever it is you are so afraid of in the house or on a plan again.
These 2 common 'go-to' behaviors are avoidance patterns that only result in greater urges and desires which can often lead to bigger 'binges' or binge-like behavior.
It can also result in other issues like over obsession with 'healthy' food or negative restriction based rules that then influence future decisions around eating and food.
One of my favorite ways to help clients overcome their negative, unhealthy and 'out of control' relationship with food is by challenging the immediate solution (which only provides a veil of relief for you) and replace it with a lasting solution that provides autonomy, freedom, and new belief patterns that support you with your goals now AND moving forward.
Of course, you may hear me say this and think 'I have tried it all' or 'that won't work' or 'I don't even want to think about having any of these foods near me because it will completely derail me' or 'omg I can't do that, I wouldn't be able to!!'. And if you are thinking these things, I assure you it CAN be done, you CAN establish a healthier relationship with food WITHOUT sacrificing your goals in fitness and WITHOUT resorting to measures and avoidance patterns that NEVER end up working for you and haven't 'solved' the issues yet.
I'll say it again, it isn't about the food.
If you are ready to commit to establishing a healthier relationship with food so you can feel empowered in every decision you make, get the feeling of 'control' back in a new and enlightening way, as well as release the pressure, stress, and concern food is bringing to your life then I invite you to apply for my Food Relationship Healing & Discovery Program.
In this program I work with you side by side completely 1:1 and customize my PTG process to your situation, experiences, and needs.
We work together to get you to your ideal relationship with food and one which is healthier, more freeing, and rooted in love for yourself, your body, and your goals--never fear or judgement.
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There you will also see many testimonials, stories, and reviews from other women who have been through or have experienced what you are experiencing now.