​Life is happening all around us.


The more we look around the more we realize how much there is for us to experience.


From the three elements to your next Uber driver, find gratitude for the moment.


This is all part of the human experience.


All the emotions, all the views, all the creations, EVERYTHING.


We have the opportunity to connect more deeply every day and the thing that keeps us from doing that are the stories we tell ourselves.


Things like; I don’t have time to, I can’t do that, if I do that this bad thing will happen, I will lose *really important value* if I take time off, this person this this person that, and on and on


PRESENCE gives us PERSPECTIVE

There are many reasons for falling into binge-purge behaviors or eating disorders
 
These three psychological components are common causes for a bout of losing control around food and then wanting to purge through extra exercise, food restriction, or throwing up
 
Binge-purge behaviors are often associated with the eating disorder bulimia nervosa but not everyone who has these behavior patterns qualified to be diagnosed for the disorder
 
One or all three of these components are usually present regardless
 
However, you’re probably wondering what this means and how you can prevent it
 
I’m going to keep this super simple and providing an implementable solution for each
 
NEGATIVE AFFECT
 
Defined:
poor self-concept
 
How it might influence binge behavior:
EMA research shows that there are usually negative feelings about oneself (consider shame) preceding a binge by a few hours and then following a binge by 20 min or so
 
Simple action step:
Set a reminder on your phone every 2 hours to reconnect with yourself and affirm positive beliefs, thoughts, and truths about yourself. Find gratitude, love, and acceptance for yourself and your capabilities
 
NEGATIVE SOCIAL COMPARISONS:

Defined:
Comparing yourself to someone else. Making them out to be better or worse than you
 
How it might influence binge behavior:
More EMA studies have shown that people who participate in upward comparison more (meaning you scroll on your phone and think ‘she is better than me’) based on shape, size, eating behaviors like amount and healthiness end up engaging in more eating disorder thoughts, urges, and behaviors
 
Simple action step: 
When you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else, ask yourself to identify facts such as the details behind their body, behavior, or eating. I find meeting irrational thoughts with rational ones shakes us up to realize we are digging our own grave. Then go back to the last step I shared
 
EGO-THREATS:

Defined:
There’s some debate on if this is self induced threats to ones self-esteem and self-image or if it’s a threat to that based on how it influences others POV on us. Regardless, it’s a threat to our esteem and image
 
How it might influence binge behavior:
There’s a lot of different research on this one. What it all has boiled down to is that women with unhealthy eating attitudes eat more after a threat to their ego (such as ‘you are a failure’ or any other threat to the persons self) ate more than those with healthier eating attitudes. This was because eating became the stimulus by which people escape self-awareness. I’ve noticed this usually happens with women when they’ve gotten into a cycle of binging then they become less and less connected to themselves because they don’t have much of an identity anymore outside of being someone who binges which threatens their esteem as someone who is fit and healthy and in control or disciplined so the cycle continues
 
Simple action step:
Know your core values, or as I call them your core soul codes. Research shows that reaffirming your values strengthens self-control and weakens ego threats. (Which of course is because we have more strength rooting us in our values)
 
I fully believe that by having an understanding of the reasoning for our behaviors as well as implementing simple action steps such as these, we can begin to feel more at peace or find more relief.
 
However, in my experience as a coach, it’s not always this simple. We have to get to the ROOT of these causes, discover what’s most prominent for you (if any), and determined the best course of action for healing, overcoming, and proactively addressing
 
The work I do with my clients is detailed, in depth and extensive. I’d love to invite you to work with me
 
While I do accept 1:1 clients, I only take on 5 every month and can currently take on 2 more
 
I developed other programs as well such as my food freedom academy, my food freedom discovery and peace making journal specifically developed for people struggling with binging, food labeling, guilt, cravings, constant thoughts of food, etc. And I have my PTG program built to help competitors make peace with food, their body, and their goals
 
I’d love to figure out what is best suited for you and your current challenges, goals, and needs.

Email me or DM me on social media to determine the best course of action for you based on your current challenges, goals, and needs so we can see how we can work together to help you make peace with food, your body, and your goals
 
None of these require you to follow a meal or nutrition plan by me. All of these can be implemented while working with other coaches. These are specifically designed to aid you in reconnecting with your body, breaking down the barriers you have with food, and getting to the root of the pain you experience and giving you the exact tools necessary to overcome it with support and guidance along the way from myself

You can’t expect extraordinary results with mediocre actions


Ask yourself: “Who do I have to become in order to achieve what I desire?”


Often times we fail ourselves because the action we are taking is not fully aligned with who we want to become


Plenty of people can be mindful of what they eat, drink loads of water, & exercise but not everyone can take it to the extreme of show day shreds


The actions MUST be calculated according to your goals


If you want to be an expert you wouldn’t neglect studying


If you want to be well-known you wouldn’t hide


If you want to be a professional in anything you wouldn’t act like an amateur


Consistency plays a massive role in what results you achieve


But if you’re consistently off your game, you can’t expect to be on it come show time


If you’re consistently on point, committed, honest, all in, doing what you need to do to get where you want to go, it becomes a habit


It’s no surprise when we put one foot in front of the other over & over & end up getting to another destination


Same thing goes with action


Draw a line from where you are to where you want to be, then determine what it takes to stay on that path


You might waiver, fall, trip up, or get lost along the way but if you know where that line is you’re never too far


I say you can’t expect extraordinary results with mediocre behavior because to be mediocre is to be ordinary


So if you want more than that, you have to give extra


It’s a simple task when we have taken the time to:


1. Become aware of where we are & where we want to go


2. Acknowledge why we are where we are


3. Love ourselves now & love ourselves enough to make changes


4. Remain self-aware throughout the entire journey;


Aware of our thoughts, beliefs, things we resist or gravitate towards, habits, people, toxicity, fulfillment ALL of it


What are you doing to get closer to where you want to be?


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This pic is a throwback for extra motivation for me to keep moving in the direction of my goals💪🏻