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 Outside of competing, who are you?
What do you love to do? What lights you up? What do you spend time thinking about? What other goals do you have? What other roles do you play? Who are you? Even though competing is day in and day out and many would still live this lifestyle or one like it if the stage didn’t exist, I still find myself wondering who are these people?? I scroll online and see so many amazing women who share powerful messages for others and yet, I don’t know who THEY are This was one of the inspirations for starting my podcast “Confessions of a Bikini Pro” but I connect with so many of you every day and find that even online we stay wrapped up in our world and identities of “competitors” So share something with me about you! Maybe you’re an avid book reader, love making art, enjoy a specific subject, can’t get enough nature, love to dance, or you work outside of the industry or you flip houses or invest in the stock market or love going outside every morning or you have quirks about you I’d love to know😍😊 Comment something below and share Let’s remember together that we are so much more than this sport or this lifestyle And let’s be prepared to continue doing more outside of this sport and our passion for it Because if one day you couldn’t do it anymore, what would be left? It’s a strange thought It would be like a part of you dying And when we contemplate our own death, we tend to strive for even more in our life So this conversation might do just that😍 But my hope is really to just learn more about you guys and see what else is happening in your world We can love and live this while also loving and living so many other things It’s easy to forget that there’s more to other people we follow than this lifestyle Can’t wait to hear 😍! Got such awesome comments on this post on Instagram, be sure to check those out here: https://www.instagram.com/p/B2mxh_SD3fQ/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet
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Self-Love is Knowing You Have Improvements to Make and Honoring Yourself Enough to Make Them9/18/2019  Self love is knowing you have improvements to make, recognizing what needs to change so you can become better, and then honoring yourself by taking actions to grow into this higher version of you
All of course while understanding that just because you’re not where you want to be right now does not mean you will never get there Give yourself time, space, and energy to take these changes head on! Complicating things or putting extra pressure on yourself to grow faster doesn’t help anything I remember reading or hearing a great comparison that was something like; Would you yell at your garden to bloom? No, you just know that with the right care like water and sunlight, the flowers will bloom eventually There’s no need to rush the process when you know it will result in a flower garden So why can’t this be true for you too? If you implement the right personal growth tools, focus on your development daily, and care for yourself; blooming is likely inevitable for you too! I created a free 18 ways to love yourself printable to expand your self love and help you grow into a higher version of you with self care, healing, and actions fueled with positive energy You can get it by clicking here! Hope you love it 😊💜🌷🌸🍃  What do you think is the biggest thing holding you back right now?
I asked myself this recently as I have been contemplating some pretty big decisions Honestly, it was fear Fear of failure, trouble, having things taken from me, lack, not being able to manage, making the wrong choice... . Being immersed in personal development and having a degree in psychology is like a blessing and a curse Because I know where all these fears are coming from Rather than walking you through all my past experiences, social & environmental constructs, & more I’ll save you from that & narrow it down to one thing for you to apply to your own life as well IDENTITY Usually this is the root / cause of much of our angst When our identity is threatened or there is a proposed threat to it, we experience fear Our identity is how we define ourselves Usually if we have fear, it means it’s time for an Identity upgrade We get the nudge to do something or go for something & our brain is like DANGER THAT IS SCARY & NOT SAFE AT ALL ARE YOU INSANE?! . This is only because it really is easier to preserve energy than spend it on growth But overcoming fears & challenges have brought you to where you are, so it will likely continue to be that way So why not run towards it to accelerate our growth? Quickest way to get through all that fear & the stories you tell yourself is to put yourself in situations where no other version, except for the highest version of yourself can be demanded Creating an identity that says; . I am capable I’ve proved myself wrong before I am ready & excited for the challenges Is the kind of identity that embraces the fear as part of the growth & creates solutions It also helps to have innate beliefs & personal ‘truths’ to empower you through tough times For me, I asked myself “what’s the worst thing that could happen?” Which made me realize, hey that’s really not that bad I also have beliefs in abundance, trusting the nudges, taking immediate action with great urgency, going all in for my mission which is everything...& so on Comment below with something you feel is holding you back & then 1 solid belief you have that can help you ⬇️🧠👀❤️  Next time you’re sitting on a plane, watch what happens when the flight attendants go down the aisle
While not every airline hands out snacks, many still do I can remember once when I was becoming more conscious of my eating behaviors, a flight attendant offered me cookies or pretzels, mmm biscoff cookie yes please! I took some But I didn’t open the package. I checked in with myself & my body first. I wasn’t hungry at all & It wasn’t even time for my next meal based on clock standards Then I looked around at other passengers who all immediately tore into their bag & started eating I thought to myself, “no way they are ALL hungry right now” . Proceeded by, “So why do they just eat out of habit? Someone gives them free food & they eat it right away? How strange that we do this” . My thoughts persisted, quite a good conversation with myself actually Which led me to a lesson I use with some of my clients When food is put in front of you, or you are standing in your kitchen wanting to go back for more, or you get that overwhelming urge to eat Ask yourself, “is this airplane eating behavior?” . “Am I just eating it because it is here? Or do I really truly want it?” . Of course, this is a very simple question you can immediately ask yourself The majority of my clients going through my food relationship healing & discovery program have full rituals to help them truly move through what’s happening But in a pinch, at an event, or when you just need to slow down because you’re not sure how to ask for a 3rd chip bowl, this is a good analogy to consider Now, this is not to say you should only eat when you feel hungry or you should never eat when given food It’s just a way to bring more awareness / mindfulness to your choice If you have a hard time connecting to your intuition, don’t complicate things Just ask the simple question & pretend you’re on a plane & the flight attendant has just offered you this You can say yes & save it for later, you can enjoy it now as part of the experience, you can eat it because you’re hungry or know you will be, or you can even say no What do you think about this? Need more support? Contact me now, let’s chat about it🥨🥜🧠❤️  Something that changed my life and perspective years ago was journaling
Specifically journaling statements that started with “I am” Looking back it’s amazing how many of the things I wrote “I am” before have now literally become who I actually am You may feel uncomfortable with it at first, as though you might be lying to yourself or making up stories Sometimes you begin to believe it much faster that other things Sometimes you have to work through a LOT of resistance to believe and achieve it (which is why coaches and mentors can be so influential) But overtime, working through those mental blocks and continuing to commit to the identity I wanted, the person I wanted to be, and now the growth continues I can remember writing things down that I wanted to achieve as though I already had “I am so happy and grateful Xyz has happened because now I am able to abc” Doing this can be a game changer What do you want to achieve? Who do you need to become to achieve that? When you journal in this way you are priming your mind to see it as very achievable and already part of your present reality It creates new upper limits in your mind too Then you can even do mindset work on your mindset work like now that i have achieved xyz I am committed to achieving xyz For example: I am so happy and grateful I placed first in my national show and won my pro card! Now I am committed to bringing my absolute best to my pro career and get on that Olympia stage by next year What you think about and focus on will continue to Influence your actions Because if you have written “I am ___” Then you will create an identity. And going against that identity will cause your brain to think “wait that doesn’t make sense if you are ___” Just journaling about emotions and feelings isn’t the same or as effective as intentional mindset work Want to uplevel your mindset? Try this! Send me a photo of your journal if you wish 🙂 Getting stuck? Reach out, I’m happy to help Creating the life you love is possible when you become the person who creates the life they love and has the life they love  Have you seen it too?
Competitors Immediately going to the dessert table or digging into the bag of treats after finals? Girls posting food or the first bite of a donut before they even acknowledge the way the day went? Coaches standing backstage with their girls biting into huge cookies with them or teammates putting piles of accumulated treats together to all share? Maybe this has been you? Looking forward to that post-show cookie for weeks Dreaming about what the promoter will have backstage or hoping your friends surprise you with treats Maybe you’ve immediately taken a photo with your trophy while holding a piece of cake Or you’ve packed a big bag of treats to have after the show to pick from like a kid on Halloween Trust me, I get it. I’ve been there, done that But the shows I’ve not done this at, were the shows I felt so much more connected to MYSELF & the JOURNEY Because my mind wasn’t fixated on what I could fit in my mouth right after I got off stage The show days where I left thinking “I don’t really care what’s for dinner” or “I just want to go home & shower” or “I just want to celebrate this & have one nice meal with my loved ones” were the best Because every time I dove into the treats immediately, It wasn’t out of the decision to eat because I needed food & was hungry It was out of this feeling of finally satisfying what felt like an indulgence into freedom or fantasies When in reality, it had always been my choice. To eat the plan I was given, to do a prep, to compete & it damn sure wasn’t so I could obsess about eating a donut after That’s not why we get into competing but it so quickly can become ones’ focus Fixating on foods you can’t have or fit into your macros or your Coach has eliminated because “soon” you’ll “be able to have them” . It is NOT healthy . Calysta Upperman inspired this post today. We had a podcast interview a few months back on “Confessions of a Bikini Pro” touching on this and since then we have chatted and vented about it expressing our concerns and raising awareness to our audiences Since the work I do with competitors is heavily focused on their relationship with food, I pick up on a lot of these self-destructive thought patterns & behaviors quickly If you’re looking forward to the food more than you are the achievement, there’s an underlying issue that is more important to address than stepping on any stage You will get there! But don’t do it at the cost of allllll the commitments you’ve made your entire prep Yes, enjoy, indulge, and savor the moments after your show But don’t allow that to be your free pass to binge If it is, then again, there’s an underlying issue and it is going to rear its ugly head if you don’t get ahead of it I know this may seem like a rougher love nudge from me than usual, but it’s serious and important and chatting with Calysta gets me even more fired up about it! If you’re struggling with this or have been struggling with your relationship with food post-show or throughout your prep, send me a message. Let’s see if or how we can work together through this It could make all the difference in the way you feel about yourself, develop your physique, and create a lifestyle out of this Lots of love 💓💓💓 I witnessed one of the most important people in my life hang on to their life by a thread, revived back to life by doctors, only to continue fighting for weeks
I was looked in the eye by this person after asking if they were happy to be saved & they shook their head no I sat in a chair in a cold hospital while a person I loved so much was slipping away & couldn’t even speak So many tears, fear, and darkness The worst part about it honestly is how much shame surrounds this subject To the point where they don’t ever want anyone to know or to ever discuss it It isn’t my story to tell. But the way I was impacted, is my story A very small, protected, minuscule fraction of a horrible time in my life It is indescribable what it feels like to drive someone you love to the hospital after finding them in a distressed state It is indescribable to hear voice mails expressing ‘I love yous’ that were meant to be ‘goodbyes’ . It is indescribable to hear them admit to harming themselves when the nurse asks It is indescribable to hear crying screams echo in places you are used to having peace It is indescribable to know someone you love died & was brought back to life It is indescribable to express how suicide impacts the people around us Rather than sharing my own story and struggles with depression, suicidal ideation, my attempt, and the incredible transformation, mindset, and life shifts I’ve had since that dark time in my own life, I share the story of almost losing a loved one to suicide Because on Worldwide Suicide Prevention day, sometimes we need the reminder that it can hit anyone, at anytime, even the strongest people who have seemingly endured it all, they need to be checked in on too Show grace, love, and understanding to people or don’t show anything at all Releasing judgment and stigma is an important step no matter if it’s someone who has those thoughts, has had an attempt and recovered, or who has been battling for years ❤️❤️❤️ I witnessed one of the most important people in my life hang on to their life by a thread, revived back to life by doctors, only to continue fighting for weeks I was looked in the eye by this person after asking if they were happy to be saved & they shook their head no I sat in a chair in a cold hospital while a person I loved so much was slipping away & couldn’t even speak So many tears, fear, and darkness The worst part about it honestly is how much shame surrounds this subject To the point where they don’t ever want anyone to know or to ever discuss it It isn’t my story to tell. But the way I was impacted, is my story A very small, protected, minuscule fraction of a horrible time in my life It is indescribable what it feels like to drive someone you love to the hospital after finding them in a distressed state It is indescribable to hear voice mails expressing ‘I love yous’ that were meant to be ‘goodbyes’ . It is indescribable to hear them admit to harming themselves when the nurse asks It is indescribable to hear crying screams echo in places you are used to having peace It is indescribable to know someone you love died & was brought back to life It is indescribable to express how suicide impacts the people around us Rather than sharing my own story and struggles with depression, suicidal ideation, my attempt, and the incredible transformation, mindset, and life shifts I’ve had since that dark time in my own life, I share the story of almost losing a loved one to suicide Because on Worldwide Suicide Prevention day, sometimes we need the reminder that it can hit anyone, at anytime, even the strongest people who have seemingly endured it all, they need to be checked in on too Show grace, love, and understanding to people or don’t show anything at all Releasing judgment and stigma is an important step no matter if it’s someone who has those thoughts, has had an attempt and recovered, or who has been battling for years ❤️❤️❤️I witnessed one of the most important people in my life hang on to their life by a thread, revived back to life by doctors, only to continue fighting for weeks I was looked in the eye by this person after asking if they were happy to be saved & they shook their head no I sat in a chair in a cold hospital while a person I loved so much was slipping away & couldn’t even speak So many tears, fear, and darkness The worst part about it honestly is how much shame surrounds this subject To the point where they don’t ever want anyone to know or to ever discuss it It isn’t my story to tell. But the way I was impacted, is my story A very small, protected, minuscule fraction of a horrible time in my life It is indescribable what it feels like to drive someone you love to the hospital after finding them in a distressed state It is indescribable to hear voice mails expressing ‘I love yous’ that were meant to be ‘goodbyes’ . It is indescribable to hear them admit to harming themselves when the nurse asks It is indescribable to hear crying screams echo in places you are used to having peace It is indescribable to know someone you love died & was brought back to life It is indescribable to express how suicide impacts the people around us Rather than sharing my own story and struggles with depression, suicidal ideation, my attempt, and the incredible transformation, mindset, and life shifts I’ve had since that dark time in my own life, I share the story of almost losing a loved one to suicide Because on Worldwide Suicide Prevention day, sometimes we need the reminder that it can hit anyone, at anytime, even the strongest people who have seemingly endured it all, they need to be checked in on too Show grace, love, and understanding to people or don’t show anything at all Releasing judgment and stigma is an important step no matter if it’s someone who has those thoughts, has had an attempt and recovered, or who has been battling for years ❤️❤️❤️  WHICH TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP DO YOU WANT TO BE IN WITH YOUR BODY? {Comment Below}
DO you want it to be commensalism? This would be like your body shutting down on you while you read causing you to fall asleep. It doesn’t hurt you because you were already relaxing and reading but your body benefits from the extra rest she wanted No one got hurt, but the body was maybe a little selfish in taking away your reading time This is also similar to when you’re pushing your body past her comfort zone but not injuring or completely ignoring her Not the worst of them & likely inevitable as an athlete Or, you could have Parasitism. Like if you have an injury & decide to train anyways so you worsen the injured part of your body but satisfy your need for an aesthetic gain It could also be like when your body shuts down one of your cycles or organs to preserve your life, but it ends up taking away from another goal or outcome you wanted to go after Your body benefits from preservation but now you have to go through a lot of healing Or if you cause your body to go into preservation mode because you abused her, & she was done with being the host & wanted to then become the parasite Yeah, that’s not a very healthy relationship at all is it?? 🙅🏻♀️ So, what’s the best-case scenario? Mutualism. When both parties benefit You nourish your body, she transports nourishment throughout you, & you wake up with more energy or have more muscle definition at your next check in Or your body gets tired, so you rest Because you eat, your body can function, because you are functioning, you can move Because you stretched, your muscles can recover, so you can use your muscles more tomorrow See what I am getting at? WORK ON BUILDING THAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF Create a PARTNERSHIP Befriend your body, become her business partner, sign a contract, or get married I don’t really care what you do, But some sort of commitment must be made Even the simple question of, ‘Will this improve or worsen my relationship between me and my body?’ before you eat, move, think, or do anything can really help put things in perspective A mental check ✔️🧠 . What do you choose?❤️  Last time I was in San Diego I went to this beach & asked a random couple to take this photo of me I have a security screen Which makes it INCREDIBLY difficult to see anything on it in bright sunlight This is a pic of me laughing as they tell me they aren’t even sure if they are taking a pic This could also be a picture of me presently being so happy and excited that I have 8 women committed to coming to San Diego with me on October 12th to learn the psychology and personal development tools required to make competing more fulfilling and freeing At my Free event for competitors! And a few spots left to be taken by more amazing competitors (maybe even you?!) We will be diving into how to Build More than Just a Body, and truly make peace with food, your body, and your goals Whether you’re in your improvement season or prep, you won’t want to miss this event I’ll be sharing many of the tools behind my PTG Process I developed just for competitors I am so excited!!!!!!🥳 I would love to see you there It is my first event and you best believe I’m going ALL out (all in?) With it!!!😊💓😭 It’ll be one for the books! Scroll down to see a photo of the cute venue I booked where soo many internal shifts & transformations will take place It is in North Park just minutes away from the beach, convention center (& The Fit Expo is that weekend so you can kill two birds with one stone!), & the famous ‘The Gym’ I’m committed to generating results, sharing tools, & supporting all attendees in such a way that they leave feeling impacted for LIFE Going into topics like body image, food relationship, mindset, post-show blues, prep, goals & values, life satisfaction, & SO MUCH MORE It’ll be a close knit group 😍 . Of course we will also be making deep connections, having fun, & enjoying our time together! Want to join us? CLICK HERE TO RESERVE YOUR SPOT NOW The event is free w/ a $35 butt in seat fee that I will pay back to you upon your arrival 🙂 . 9-2pm on Sat. October 12th I can take on 2-3 more people given the venue I booked has a 12 person limit I know everyone who shows up is meant to be there & I can’t wait to meet YOU😍🧠😊   Contrary to popular belief that tells us we need to CUT OUT as many foods as possible or run from the peanut butter jar or hide all the junk food...
. Normalizing the foods you fear, crave, & think about all the time or end up “over” eating can reduce feelings of: . Restriction / Deprivation Fantasies / Food porn scrolling Obsession/Stocking up on food for “post diet” or “post show” . & Fixation mindset where you can’t stop thinking about it because it’s likely not on your plan or something you would normally “allow” . But when you actually allow it & say to yourself “I can have this whenever I want & as much of it as I want” . You now eliminate many of the mindsets that actually cause you to overeat, binge, punish yourself, feel guilty or ashamed . ‘But Celeste, I won’t be able to control myself around those foods’ . Valid argument if you have a history of feeling out of control with them But remember, that “out of control” behavior is not stemming from the food itself, it’s coming from your mindset & relationship to that food Remove the labels, superiority, & forbidden mindset so that it actually has no power over you THE ONLY REASON FOOD HAS POWER OVER YOU IS BECAUSE OF THE POWER YOU HAVE GIVEN IT . ‘But how is this going to help me?’ . When you know you can have any food any time in any amount (yes you read that right), then you change the mindset from; “I can’t eat that” To “I am choosing to eat that” . By giving yourself FREEDOM you actually gain back the control you felt you lost Your choices become conscious & because your mind is not clouded by obsessive fixation, you can now consider how eating the food will support your goals, your body, your life, your needs, your standards, etc Want to finally experience freedom with food? Give yourself that freedom Need help and don’t know where to start? Want to work with someone who GETS it & also has a process, tools, and coaching to support you in improving your relationship with food so you can continue improving as an athlete and individual? Click HERE to apply for my Food Relationship Healing & Discovery Program Let’s see if & how I can help you too💜 Click here to be inspired by more testimonials😊 |
Celeste Rains-Turk
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