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💔Questioning yourself at Parties, Dinners, & in Dressing Rooms 💔Lack / Fear of Intimacy & Pleasure 💔Covering Up in Your New Outfit When you Wish you could Just Own It for Once 💔Dieting Down or Eating Till You’re Sick 💔Avoiding Shopping At All Costs Despite Really Wishing You Could Wear that New Bikini 💔Saying No to Going Out or Spending Time with Loved Ones Because it Might Make you Ruin The Diet that is Meant to Solve all Your Problems 💔Following Diets, Trends, & Fads that Make you Feel Like a Constant Failure 💔Fishing for Approval & Validation from External Sources 💔Living A Lifestyle Led by Criteria & Standards to Meet more than Passion and Fulfillment 💔Treating Your Body like a Garbage Can & Ignoring all her Cues 💔Abusive / Toxic Relationships / Friendships 💔Constant Self-Consciousness that is so Distracting it Keeps you from Excelling in Everything you Have Dreamt of Doing 💔Making Numbers on a Scale more Significant to Your Worth than Your Unique Contribution to the world 💔Turning Food into a Game of Restriction, Gorging, Purging, or Morality 💔Lowered Confidence in Your Work 💔Comparing yourself to Other Bodies When you could be Connecting to your Own 💔Lashing Out on Loved Ones 💔Fear of Mirrors 💔Constantly Feeling Like You Are Never Enough 💔Self-Destructive Behaviors 💔Avoidance of Being Seen 💔Skipping out on Booking a Vacation Because you don’t want anyone to see you in a bathing suit or a tank top 💔Working out Excessively 💔Using Clothing as a Shield Rather than as Expression or Comfort 💔Constantly Readjusting Clothing 💔Feeling Like You Can’t be Happy or Satisfied CAN YOU RELATE?😭 I am SO glad I found UNCONDITIONAL LOVE for my body & I want to share that with YOU🥰 Leave a ❤️ below if you’re ready to LOVE your body & put an end to these side effects once & for all If I get enough I’ll do a FULL video series on body image, confidence, & acceptance PS if you haven’t done my Killer Confidence Course yet, Contact me saying 'Killer Confidence' & I’ll give you free access😊💓
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Audra Shares Her Journey to Overcoming Post-Show Binging & Transforming her Relationship with Food10/29/2019 Audra has been facing binge-eating behavior related issues for years which surfaced even more post-show after her bikini competition this past July. After a couple of months of binge eating behaviors that spiraled out of control putting her in a dark place of frustration with herself, she finally decided to reach out to me for help. She has been competing for 6 years with a major passion for the sport and didn't want this to get in the way of her success. Audra wanted to know she could still be a competitor and have a healthy relationship with food.
Audra felt like she had gotten to the point where she felt so out of control where she wouldn't be able to stop eating when she would start and I remember her telling me how out of body it felt. At first, I was a little hesitant, I could tell she had a deep desire to change but there was reservation in her demeanor over if it was actually possible for her to make peace--which is usually how people feel when they come to me because these types of issues can and do feel all-consuming. She expressed to me that no matter what coping mechanisms she tried, they ran the course and never seemed to work anymore. She literally felt this overwhelming difficulty in shifting her reality that left her feeling hopeless. When we started working together, as she mentions in her experience video, there were some, what she calls 'slip ups' although I always see these as MILESTONES because they help her, and myself, to see what's REALLY happening, when it is happening, and helps me as a coach to identify patterns as well as immediately guide her through the situation since the girls in my program have 24/7 access to me. She says, "This program has dramatically improved my life. It's made me incredibly self-aware of why I had the problems, where they're coming from, how to combat them, how to think about them, and how to get a better relationship with food." As you continue to watch the video you will also hear her discuss what it was like to FINALLY let go of the 'good v bad' labels as well as the discontinuing of her post-binge punishments like excess cardio and restricting food. While myself and she have decided not to share EVERY facet of her experience, issues, and the journey she went on to overcome them, I felt so inspired that she would even share as much as she has to help motivate other women who are dealing with this, especially competitors, to finally take action for themselves. Imagine being able to finally understand and address the issues that swarm in your mind endlessly around food, eating, and decision making. What would it mean to you to be able to be so self-aware that before you resort to self-destructive habits you can pull out your toolbox of action steps to immediately combat the potential sabotage? How freeing would it be to know that even after months, or years, of struggling you actually can make peace like Audra has, when she thought she never would, to be able to enjoy all foods, feel a sense of control at family events, not feel bad about enjoying food, be able to be present in the moment without distractions of disordered thought patterns, to be able to go into situations with food and know that you won't have a cloud of darkness surrounding you? Picture yourself finally having hope and optimism for the future with a completely fresh outlook on your lifestyle, food, your body, your choices, your mindset, and no longer falling into the stigma that bodybuilding causes more problems than it solves. Yes, this is ALL possible, and these are the exact reasons Audra decided to share her experience and references each of these in her video to happily recommend the program to anyone who is struggling so that they, YOU, know that there IS something out there that DOES work and all it takes is reaching out for help. To apply to work with me in my 5 Week Food Relationship Healing and Discovery Journal & 1:1 Coaching Program please click HERE. I will personally respond to your inquiry within 24 hours with whether or not I feel I can help you or to clarify any questions I may have from reading your application Please Note--no one else reads them and they are entirely confidential. The only pieces of your journey I share with others are the pieces you give me permission to or publicly speak about yourself. All else is 100% confidential and private. I take pride in the work I do and will always put my clients privacy and peace of mind first. Disclaimer  Have you noticed that your happiness directly impacts every area of your life?
When your happiness supply is low, your relationships begin to feel tapped out too When your happiness supply is high, your time at work or doing the mundane seems to be much more joyful When you’re smiling, laughing, & radiating positivity you suddenly start attracting more of this When you’re down in the dumps you tend to feel like nothing you do matters Your family notices, coworkers, clients, friends, significant other...they all notice We are human, we can feel, perceive, & read each other’s energies thanks to mirror neurons One of my favorite compliments to receive is that I look genuinely happy, passionate, or *insert other positive emotion* . Because It reminds me how much our energy impacts others But how does this all happen? Why does this even matter? . Well, there’s the argument that our body will emit a lower frequency / vibration which changes how others feel near us There’s also the argument that we‘ll likely wear our emotions on our sleeve (more like our face) which others will respond to Then there’s the simple fact that negative emotions, specifically fixating on them, increases stress The more you think negative—the more you’ll think, see, & attract negativity This primes stimulus to find the negatives, which ultimately increases preoccupation on negativity & this triggers a “threat” response in our brain causing us to release not so great chemicals & has been proven to distract us from thinking clearly So communication, decision making, enjoyment, & homeostasis all become impaired It’s physiological as much as it is psychological Don’t worry though, the more frequently you: . 1. Recognize the emotion for what it is (This means you’re actually bringing it to surface) . 2. Replace negative thinking with positive thinking (CONSCIOUSLY IN THE MOMENT—IMPORTANT) . 3. Reward your positive actions, behaviors, thinking, & life with celebration (This is a form of conditioning positive action=pleasure=brain wants to keep doing it!) . Then the more you’ll be able to have happiness “on tap” ❤️😁 Share this blog with someone who needs to read this 👀🧠  This was one of the main reasons I started committing to myself more and more
I was in unhealthy relationships where I was cheated on, I felt my friendships were fleeting with people not upholding their word, I noticed I became extra sensitive to noticing when people said they’d do something and wouldn’t I always despised that But then I realized I was doing a decent amount of that to myself. Which sparked a change Because how could I expect from others what I was not willing to give to myself? Here are some things that can help; . Set one non-negotiable every day and do it When you say you’ll do something, do it right then and there If you notice something small like picking something up off the floor, just pick it up, don’t wait When you commit to doing something for someone, hold true to that commitment If you tell yourself it’s time to change something, take one step at a time to change it—hold onto your desire I see people make excuses to not do such small things and this always translates into BIGGER more impactful things in their life Some of the clients I have who have a history of making excuses for themselves have found some of what I listed above to be helpful for them and have noticed it immediately impact their willingness to commit to bigger things There’s a quote, “how you do anything is how you do everything” & I remember my very first mindset mentor told me this one time & it immediately shifted my perspective on that little piece of paper I’d walk by on the floor Or if I dropped something, or thought about doing something... I stopped waiting & started doing it immediately I set non-negotiable commitments & action steps every day that aligned to my higher self I just stepped it up SMALL changes can go a LONG way If you make an excuse to not do something so small as picking the towel up off the floor, it is going to be that much easier to make an excuse not to do something much more influential like go to the gym, meditate, call your friend, meal prep, etc It’s ALL connected & the more you say NO to yourself then the more you’re cheating your higher self & the more likely it is that you’ll continue those patterns Thoughts?⬇️ If You Have Time to Weigh Yourself, You Have Time to be Grateful and Loving Toward Your Body10/27/2019  If you have time to get up, walk to the bathroom, and weigh yourself first thing in the morning you sure as hell have time to think about what you’re grateful for, what you love about yourself, and what you’re looking forward to today
So, What’s your priority going to be? . Today I am doing a photoshoot with and I’m SO excited Finally doing a shoot outside of a “stage lean” or “competitor lean” body and embracing where I am now WHICH I LOVE BY THE WAY I’m doing and did absolutely nothing to “prepare” for this shoot. I’ve drunk my water, ate my food, have had some artificial sweeteners and definitely didn’t do any extra cardio I’m on prep right now and have been for a few months and no way would I jeapordize my progress or the way I feel for a shoot at this point I’ve done photoshoot a hungry and thirsty and they suck. You just have headaches and never feel good enough That’s why I’m excited for today!! To just have a shoot having fun and being me! To show others that you can feel AMAZING in your skin and transform your relationship with your body to the point where you just love and embrace her without any gimmicks or conditions Me and Daraja Hill just discussed this on her episode of confessions of a bikini pro (it comes out in November) and she shared how much doing a shoot like this boosted her confidence and how she also did Nothing special to prep for it I feel like it’s so easy to get caught up in where we “were” or “should be” or “will be” that we forget to be happy where we are right now Your body is your souls greatest asset. Why wouldn’t you love and embrace her at every phase!? Especially when you’re honoring her, putting the work in daily, and making conscious choices; what’s not to love!?  Struggling with putting these concepts into action? Reach out for help!
I absolutely LOVE and have a passion for helping women transform their relationship with food And the results of my methods and coaching speak for themselves (see my testimonials page so you’re not just taking my word for it 😉) YOU ARE NEVER A LOST CAUSE, THERE IS ALWAYS HOPE By implementing this into my own life I was able to finally make peace with ALL food and see that just because I’m “allowed” to eat it does not mean I HAVE to It came down to finally giving myself the OPPORTUNITY and TRUST to CHOOSE for myself, my body, my needs, and my goals! You’re no less of a “fit” person or “influencer” or “enthusiast” or “competitor” just because you eat foods that the mainstream industry labels as BAD In fact, I’d argue you are MORE fit and healthy because your MINDSET is in a ordered, healthy, loving, freeing, and sustainable place Oh, and by the way, you can compete with 1000000% discipline and effort and still have a healthy relationship with food . (Contrary to popular belief—you don’t have to quit to heal) . Just comes down to coming out of autopilot and into consciousness Like I said, reach out for help if you’re struggling! It’s never too late and if I can help you I will let you know, if I don’t believe I can then I will refer you to someone else As hard as it can be to admit what’s happening, it could be the step that changes everything for you I know it did for me Lots and lots of love 💓💓 Celeste Rains-Turk: Celestial_fit #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY  COMPARISON—something so many competitors struggle with especially on prep!
AKA- a major distraction from what matters most right now—which is prepping to create YOUR best for the show date you have chosen First, let’s get real about a few things 1. She might not be the same height as you so why bother trying to figure that out or creep through her page or looking her up on NPC for past looks, it’s a waste of time & energy 2. Her photo could be super edited, in amazing lighting, overly posed, after a pump, or even not current Plus, she isn’t going to be judged by her gym selfies. You have to practice your presentation & she has to practice hers The judges will judge you both on the same day. You have to control what you can Yes, this is a competition but the only way to compete is by bringing YOUR best You can’t change anything about her or her best on show day 3. What if she isn’t actually 15 weeks out from your show? 4. What is she ends up not being in the show at all after planning on it? Wouldn’t you be upset about being online looking at her forever? 5. It could jeopardize your ability to truly connect and make friends at the show If you go in with this beta mentality, putting others on a pedestal you now separate yourself from them Your time would be much more productive if spent cheering her on, connecting with her, making a friend, or just waiting till show day & seeing who you vibe well with Journaling/Thought Prompts on this topic: 1. What sets the urge for me to go look up other competitors or hashtags? 2. When I look, how do I feel? 3. After I look, how do I feel? 4. What does looking do for me? 5. What does looking NOT do for me? This is just a portion of what I provide in my On demand coaching platform. So if you want ALL the rest of it & more, you can join/see how it works by clicking HERE🙂 The platform digs into the common mindset struggles that competitors face on & off prep & I provide instant, implementable coaching based on what you’re going through in that moment🧠🙌🏻❤️💆🏻♀️ Photo from checkins this my coach SO excited about the progress I’m making💪🏻 finally seeing SHOULDERS and some lines👀  WHO AGREES?!! It’s time we STOP acting like we have to SUFFER in order to SUCCEED in bodybuilding
I see this happen ALL the time & it makes me sad that so many people think they can’t ask for or find an approach that works WITH their life My beliefs have shifted overtime with competing While I absolutely 100% believe you aren’t going to be stage ready doing the same damn thing you do in a “lifestyle” program I also 100% believe that expressing your needs & expectations to your coach before starting a prep or ANY plan is EXTREMELY important You can follow a plan your coach gives you to get ready in 12 weeks but if you’re miserable following it it may cause you to fall into self-destructive behaviors like going off plan, over eating, feeling guilty, etc Then when you step on stage that day, you haven’t had the experience you were hoping for (which isn’t that what this is reallllly supposed to be about?) . Even if you could be ready in 12 weeks, it may not be while following a plan that YOU enjoy or can realistically commit to given your life circumstances despite it seeming “normal” to other competitors So it’s better to take 20 weeks, enjoying the process, learning along the way if you truly want to live the lifestyle, & still being able to satisfy other needs you had while getting “ready” in time If you can’t workout 6 days/week then don’t try to cheat your way to the stage skipping workouts Just ask your coach for a new training split w/ less training days. So what if it takes you more time to get there? If you’re REALLY committed to this, then it shouldn’t be about the time anyways While what I have listed in the photo isn’t everyone’s experience, it’s definitely common for many Of course this sport is going to challenge you to change your ways & push out of your comfort zone If you’re not willing to do that, then you CANNOT expect to change (& probably shouldn’t commit to getting on stage) . HOWEVER That doesn’t mean you have to suffer for weeks on end If you have that mindset of “forced..suffering..miserable..have to” it’s either not the right plan for you OR you need to change your mindset to one of choice OR decide to live the lifestyle in a less extreme way w/o the stage right now & be okay with that But it’s up to you to be honest with your coach from the get-go, set expectations & express your needs, then TRUST your coach & be willing to challenge yourself It’s not all going to be sunshine & rainbows, otherwise we wouldn’t grow from competing, but “suffering” also won’t make you fall in love with this sport or sustain the healthy habits What do you think about this? Would love to hear your thoughts!⬇️  “If it’s white don’t bite”—food rule of my childhood
. Our brains are processing conversations, images, & other stimuli in our environment constantly consciously & subconsciously When presented with information by loved ones or people we trust, it gets even trickier Growing up in a house with parents that are always yo yo dieting, putting their body shape down or making comments about how you don’t live up to the ideal standard plays a MASSIVE role in shaping your beliefs, ideals, & self-concept When I was a kid I; Had my stomach fat pinched while watching biggest loser being told that could be me 1 day Did my first diet at 9 years old, the same one my dad did as a “chunky kid”-bananas & milk Was encouraged to EAT but also watched women in my life struggle with their weight & blame it on food or I’d be ridiculed for eating ‘too much’ at random Saw women with tiny waists on so many album covers, magazines, & stages that it was news worthy when a woman with a bigger frame was seen embracing her body or winning a show like American idol I developed thoughts & beliefs that I didn’t realize would influence me later in life While people in my life & the media are NOT to blame for my downfalls I give them lots of praise for my uprise I learned from all of it But unfortunately, for a large part of my young life I thought about calories, being too fat, never having a small enough stomach, having big legs, eating unhealthy & being judged because I was bigger, the list goes on! Rules of food, good v bad, fattening v fat burning, allowed v restricted; all of this dictated the start of my fitness journey, my disordered eating, exercise, & continued body image issues How grateful I am for all of it though as it led me to bodybuilding which forced me to shine a light on those dark places, heal my relationship with food & my body & led me to helping other women do the same What helped me? WORKING ON MY MINDSET Want a taste of what I did/do? Check out my On-Demand Mindset Coaching Platform for competitors HERE Can’t wait to see you in there improving your relationship with food, your body, and your goals in every season🧠  I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again!
The greatest concern we should have when it comes to what’s on our plate is the way we feel about it Rather than stressing over gaining fat, clothing fitting tighter, losing control, or looking fuller than before, you should be focusing your energy on healing the parts of you that are causing you to think this way Food is not the enemy, yet so often we treat it this way The worst part is that many people don’t even realize they are doing this Yet it is so common Maybe this is you even? Maybe you do realize that your relationship with food is unhealthy Rather than turning to a new diet, program, Coach, or lifestyle it’s important to address what’s going on up 🧠 here The thing is, your relationship with food won’t heal itself and it certainly won’t be resolved with more restriction, calorie counting, or meal plans Many women think that if they can’t control themselves around food then they shouldn’t be eating it—yet the food isn’t the issue Many women think that if they can’t stick to their plan then they need a new plan—yet the plan isn’t the issue Many women think if they eat something they normally wouldn’t allow themselves to eat then they will be full of guilt & regret so they consider it off limits—the off limits food isn’t the problem No matter what you do with your diet or training, the root of the problem still exists So even if your body changes or doesn’t change, the underlying issue you have with food should be of utmost importance to you Because this is going to impact you, your life, & your body MUCH more long term than choosing to eat or not eat something now Everything comes down to intention, reasoning, perspective, & choice Continue to force yourself to do things, the less control you actually end up having (Think of all the times you overate after saying you’d start a diet tomorrow or couldn’t stop thinking about a food after you said you wouldn’t eat it anymore) It’s all a mindset Ready to start taking steps to improve your relationship with food? Apply for my Food Relationship Healing & Discovery program now HERE |
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