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 Many people mistake freedom with a loss of control or discipline & often times people tell me they don’t trust themselves to make the “right” choice
But it’s all about intention… With an intention aligned with your values, you can see the benefit to your choices, protocols, & commitments It’s not so much about what you do or how you do it but WHY Freedom = choice = autonomy = deeper consideration & mindfulness = increase in self-esteem If we limit freedom, restrict choices, depend only on “shoulds” or what others tell us to do, & reduce awareness of choices then we become mindless Most of the people I work with who do not trust themselves have not developed proof that they can, exist in autopilot or “robot” mode, & have not produced results without the strict guidance of someone else or a protocol This is why some people think fall into the trap of yo-yo dieting or post show rebound to hopping into a prep to post-show rebound etc We need to develop a level of trust, acceptance, commitment, and understanding for every action we take so that we may become more intentional If we only do something because we were “told to” then we do not see the value or benefit in doing it Much like holding the door for someone because we are taught to is not as likely to persist as a behavior but holding the door for someone because it is considerate of their presence, shows them someone cares, allows them to not worry about putting all their stuff down etc would be a more meaningful reason to do it and more motivating When committing to any protocol I encourage you to consider: 1. Why am I really committing to this? 2. What are the benefits to this choice outside of aesthetics? (Or if it’s unrelated to physique you might say outside of money or status or title—-beyond the surface!) 3. How does this support me in the way I see myself & my life? These questions can support maintaining autonomy and strengthen the connection between choices & values as well as reasons to sustain efforts outside of 1 goal Restriction or pressure is not the same as discipline Discipline with commitments you feel confident you can sustain or build the esteem to is much more important
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 @nicoleferrierfitness is a special gem of a person and an awesome coach in the industry who shares a similar philosophy and journey to me
We have done some podcasts together and recently had the opportunity to meet in person and she’s even better in real life😍☀️ Which is why I am even more excited to be teaming up with her to host a LIVE webinar on January 11th at 6:30pm EST LEARN MORE & SIGN UP NOW: www.celestial.fit/macrosandmindset We are going to be covering how to make the most of your programming for any season with specific guidance from her on nutrition and a variety of mental health tools to support those goals from me! You can sign up for the webinar and if you can’t make it, you will still receive the slides, replay, and ability to ask us questions after for clarity Topics will include: ➡️ Macros, Balanced Meals, Managing Caloric Deficits, Reverse Dieting ➡️ Mindfulness Based Eating Practices, Fostering a Healthy Relationship with Food, Improving Body Image and Self-Esteem ➡️ How to Feel More Connected to Your Goals, Preventing Post-Show Rebound, How to Address Risks of Bodybuilding THIS IS FOR YOU IF •You’re wanting to improve your relationship with food and your body •Learn More about Macros •Want a Plan Post-Show/Post-Dieting that will support you in sustainability and peace moving forward •You struggle with adherence to a plan •It is hard to look at yourself in the mirror, step on the scale, or compare yourself •You are worried about competing or dieting again for mental or physical health reasons •Your why does not feel strong enough to support the how •Managing hunger, body cues, and macro planning has brought difficulties WHAT TO EXPECT: Time Frame: Please set aside 75 minutes for this online event. We will be letting everyone in from the zoom waiting room right at 630pm Eastern time so arrive early! Where: A zoom link will be provided upon receipt of your payment for registration What is Included: Access to the full LIVE event, copy of slides, Q&A time on the LIVE, replay delivery SIGN UP NOW: www.celestial.fit/macrosandmindset
It was on my heart to pursue even more perspective, insight, knowledge, and experience so that I could provide an even better experience for this community and all of my clients
When I wrote my essay to get into the masters program I was nervous to tell them about my vision thinking I might be judged or ridiculed but throughout the entire experience, the opposite was true I was supported for the work I had already done in my psychology bachelors program and then encouraged throughout my masters program to keep the focus on the mission It was really amazing how much support I got from fellow classmates and professors, especially with how often i challenged the norm of “diet culture…all in….body positivityâ€and interpretations of sport and psychology within the field that have been perpetuated for clinicians to promote to clients which I feel really went against the counseling ethical code and expectation of client autonomy… So the support and openness of colleagues really allowed me to fulfill my intention of bridging the gap I had classmates tell me that I helped them see bodybuilding differently and learn about it which was soooo rewarding to hear A big issue in the field is how often competitors and athletes have to defend or explain themselves which is why I do believe the service I offer, along with my personal experience and growth through competing, is unmatched I hope to continue bridging the gap and providing this space and service to the fitness community so that people can really see and know that you actually CAN achieve your fitness and physique goals while maintaining and improving your mental health If you’d like access to any of my free resources or to explore how we can work together CLICK HERE let’s #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY Clip from @nicoleferrierfitness podcast september 2022!  ❤️ consistent nourishment & movement of the body which provides your soul a home for this human experience
❤️ willingness to accept parts of yourself that are hard to look at and learn ways to communicate with those parts to support your whole being ❤️ dedication to feeling emotions and learning from them as they provide insight into values, needs, history, desire, and yourself ❤️ choosing to see your innate enoughness even when you make mistakes, are hurt, have let yourself down or not met a standard, and don’t feel valuable ❤️ letting yourself be loved by others ❤️ expressing yourself fully and openly even at the risk of loss or pain because you know you’re worthy of the potential for and inevitability of love, support, community ❤️ making time for yourself on a daily, weekly, biweekly, etc basis ❤️ recognition and celebration of unique gifts that are all you without titles, statistics, or labels…celebrating you for being you ❤️ following through on goals when difficult and also knowing there are times to adjust goals in an effort to support consistency & achievement ❤️ prioritizing your peace of mind over your pace of growth, status development, outcome achievement ❤️ deciding every day that you deserve time with yourself and space from external sources because you know your relationship with self is as sacred as one with a higher power that made you ❤️ setting boundaries and communicating with love and consideration for self and others ❤️ making an effort to connect even when you just want to isolate ❤️ proactively preparing for a time when a less than best version of you may become dominant & need extra support ❤️ acknowledging that even though others may be commended for being a certain way or doing certain things it does not mean you must emulate that to be worthy or valid ❤️ taking time to recognize & repair past wounds, unhealthy beliefs, disordered behaviors, & stinkin thinkin even when these things can be providing comfort or coping for us in many ways ❤️ trusting your gut & honoring internal nudges What are some others? Comment below! I’m out of caption space 😜
Are you ready for the next Build More than Just a Body Live Event?!
You can sign up at www.buildmorethanjustabody.com I know I am!!! It’s going to be amazing!! I am so looking forward to another opportunity to connect with and support other competitors to see they can maintain and build their mental health without giving up their physique goals🙌🻠It’ll be during the Olympia week and the plan is to keep this event nice and intimate with a smaller amount of women to finish the year and make the most out of the time we are together as it’ll be more limited I cannot wait to have the full day and the VIP experience back to back as the last time I did an event in Vegas we had the best time growing together in so many ways! As of right now there are 3 VIP tickets left and 5 Regular Tickets left. The VIP ticket is for both december 14th and 15th and the regular ticket is for the full day on December 14th. Where: @contestprepcenter @teamelitephysique on december 14 and VIP day is at the Linq hotel (exact room details to be provided to attendees only of course) When: December 14 1pm-6pm, December 15 9am-5pm TOPICS TO BE COVERED: - food relationship - body image - mindset, identity, & personal development for goal setting, planning, and achievement - standards and expectations for all seasons - and the VIP day will include an immersive food experience, group self concept work & confidence building, goal & value exploration and more to be surprised by hehehehe Everyone will walk away with a fully bound spiral notebook that they’ll have used to support their work at the event🎉 and a pdf copy will be provided for future download or use too :) You can learn more and sign up at www.BuildMorethanJustaBody.com  finishing or trashing all the 'treats' in your house so they are out of sight out of mind
making people hide certain foods from you not buying food for your kids, significant other, or others because you don't trust yourself avoiding settings where food will be abundant because it gives you anxiety to consider passing it up, missing out, or having to explain yourself always having to 'make the most' out of your macros, refeeds, cheats because you don't know when you’ll get it again waiting until everyone leaves the room, goes to bed, or isn’t home to finally eat everything macro hoarding or food restriction forcing yourself to stay out of the kitchen during the day because you can't stop grabbing food doing 'perfect' all day but then losing it beating yourself up for going from 'on point all prep' to 'no discipline or willpower or control now' fixating on food & planning for when you will 'get' to eat them These are some common signs of disordered thinking about food, behavior with eating, & maladaptive coping, avoidance, & inconsiderate approaches that are indicative of a person's beliefs I used to believe it was not possible to have a healthy relationship with food while working toward my goals I was always anxious with food not just in choices I was making but how I spoke about it, handled when others would bring it up, & felt around it I lived with an all or nothing mentality that led me down sad unhealthy behaviors that were so unkind to my body for years It wasn’t until I focused on the inner work that I was able to make peace with food & my body & prove I could have this positive relationship with myself while also being fit It’s become my mission to help others #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY by combining psychology, mindfulness based eating practices, personal development, & counseling experience to support you in having your most fulfilling & empowering approach to your goals If you’d like to work with me you can visit www.celestial.fit/foodfreedom or start with my free food relationship coaching series at www.celestial.fit/foodseries both linked in bio @celestial_fit Ps chocolate is my love language  If you want to be resilient then subject yourself to stress every day
If you want to feel free then practice releasing control in some way every day If you want to receive then start giving every day If you want to believe in yourself then prove yourself wrong every day If you want to release comparison then compliment & cheer others on every day Many of us want to change or want something better but we are so resistant to doing the “hard” things They’re not that hard afterall When you expose yourself in controlled and calculated ways each day you’ll be more prepared to face challenges that feel out of your control or impossible to overcome You don’t have to go through hardship or hit rock bottom and fight your way to the top to develop strength But staying comfortable in the status quo won’t change your reality either Shifting your perception of challenges to see them as opportunities comes when you associate the two which is something you can do through repeated exposure I love that bodybuilding allows me to overcome something every day and expose myself to challenges in the now and in the always and in every season and all they each season brings to me and brings out of me I can celebrate challenges and obstacles because I’ve seen how much these have supported me in becoming who I am Whether they were set forth by me or by some higher power or will, it’s provided me the type of resilience I need to continue confidently through fire, rain, and of course sunshine 🙂 . How will you subject yourself to stress today so you can begin proving to yourself you’re capable of overcoming and facing it? What will you shift about your perception of stress or hardship to support you in celebrating it more than resisting it? #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY . Also, can we talk about this outfit🔥 @prozis @prozisusa my fav outfit yet😍 very on brand with my business colors purple n blue🥹. So comfy, functional, and flattering. Link in bio to get yours! These are the peach perfect leggings (small) and straight shooter sports bra (medium)  I changed my life in so many ways in the last year. I did things for myself that were scary & would change my “norm” but that my soul knew was best for me
I reflected on how much had to shift in me in order to make these shifts in my life I made scary decisions, took leaps of faith, had huge commitments I stuck to, & major moments of really tuning in to my soul & trusting in a higher power that I could make these choices & would be okay Something bodybuilding has taught me which has contributed to this is the inevitability of impermanence (the body is never the same, seasons come & go with expectations, standards…) I’ve come to realize & embrace that nothing is permanent as everything is always evolving in some way. Even energy, which cannot be destroyed, takes on new forms I myself have taken on a new form My life opened up when I decided it was time I honor & value myself in EVERY area I developed a more secure attachment with myself which allowed me to act on the calling to liberate myself from the things which were keeping me stuck in undesirable patterns I faced betrayal, anxiety, confusion, doubt, denial…but felt more prepared to stand up for myself & my needs because: 1- Taking hit after hit in my life with pain & suffering that was unimaginable gave me more endurance & resilience to face difficult realities I lived in 2- I felt comfortable with the idea of letting go because I knew I could support, comfort, & validate myself. Plus, I have a strong support system 3- I consistently live with my values in mind & when they were being deprioritized/ sacrificed due to fears that were coming from other deep rooted beliefs or experiences…I recognized this & ask if I would rather live life as it is & likely continue to feel worse or endure a short sharp & potentially nagging pain that’d ultimately free me once processed 4- I evaluated my needs, desires, & beliefs about myself & I repeated, “I am worthy of what I want & deserve what I desire” so when I wasn’t acting accordingly, it was glaringly obvious The mission is always to #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY ONE decision can change your entire life & provide space to receive all that you truly desire❤️I changed my life in so many ways in the last year. I did things for myself that were scary & would change my “norm” but that my soul knew was best for me  On a flight yesterday, I spoke with someone about how unfortunate it is to see people fall prey to the convenience & comforts readily available to us all the time as I believe it stunts the opportunity to learn in difficulty
They asked if I have fallen into a trap of comfort before & I realized I haven’t let myself get stuck in one I love my life & all parts of myself but I haven’t always had it easy I’ve been blessed with security, love, & support that not everyone gets & I was given opportunities with the wherewithal to take ones that came or to make some But I have also faced incredible challenges…things I’d never wish on anyone even for the lessons I’ve learned I’ve created the ability to indulge in comforts & experiences for myself through the growth I incurred in pushing my limits each day I express gratitude every day when I wake up; I am taken care of, loved, healthy, & doing what I love to do without extreme worry anymore This gratitude comes with respect for the difficult times I’ve endured I told the person on the flight that every day I subject myself to discomfort Whether it be exercise, business, inner work, going the extra mile in some way, doing the thing I don’t want to do, exploring the emotions I am scared of, putting my heart on the line risking hurt for the potential of deep love & connection, delaying gratification, making efforts to push my thresholds in some way And this, I believe, after years of finding ways to challenge myself or being encouraged to, has supported me in embracing the storms when they have come Not “embracing” them as in loving & wishing others could go through these storms but more so embracing them as a part of Gods plan for me to become the woman I am & am meant to be…to live purposefully, with intention, in support of others, & in my mission We all face tragedy & adversity… Things can happen that you never imagined you’d ever go through You might be stripped of life as you know it, but know that these highs & lows allow you to live a FULL life with ALL the human experiences which wouldn’t be possible if you always run from discomfort or the unknown #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY  It’s okay to miss being shredded as long as it doesn’t prevent you from making improvements...
A lot of athletes become afraid after a show that they’ve gained fat or have let go “too much” I’ve been there. Sometimes it still comes up in the process! But the thought can be addressed easily once you have a system for doing so which I’ve personally been able to establish for myself The dangerous part is if the thoughts take over & start controling your actions in ways that are not conducive to your goals This could manifest in multiple ways: Maybe.... 🚫An unnecessary mini cut 🚫Not increasing calories fast enough or following through on your coach’s reverse diet 🚫Restricting food intake & falling into all or nothing cycles or doing excess cardio out of fear of fat gain 🚫Being harsh & critical of your body growing despite knowing it’s necessary 🚫Sacrificing health & recovery In Bodybuilding...we spend so much time admiring the stage look which is actually built in the growth season Yet, when we go into our improvement season, it can take some time to accept that this is what it’s all about! We might get hit with the post-show blues, poor food relationship, negative body image, or a disconnect between our goals & our identity as the demands & focus shifts Getting caught up in staying super lean could mean your improvements for your next show may not be what you or the judges expected/needed If the goal is to bring an epic & BETTER package, then you better start eating & training to grow into & set yourself up for that! Because when the reality of staying the same (getting worse IMO) hits, especially in relation to your core values, you’ll see the benefit to the changes SO! If you know you want to grow but fear the fat gain or feel uncomfortable in your own skin & get anxious over it Then I urge you to ask yourself: What happens if you don’t, what happens when you do, & what reminders do you need to get through it in a positive way? Respect all parts of the journey, they’re part of it for a reason💪🏻 |
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