Decide that it is time to change something. You might be the gym rat or you might be someone who has no idea where to start. Either way, something has to change in order to see growth. Don't ever forget that. Change your routine or start a routine.
2. Look Inside
You know who doesn't know what you want? Your best friend. Your parents. Your family. Your special someone. Your neighbor. The media. The cookie-cutter diet. The BS fitness scams. You know who knows what you want? YOU! I am not talking about the want of "a better body" or "weight loss" or "muscles". I am talking about that WHY, the one deep inside your body screaming, "Do this for me, please, we need this". Is it the happiness you haven't found? or the confidence you want when you are standing in front of the mirror naked? Or the way you feel driving over bumps? Tying your shoes? A heartbreak of any sort not just relationship wise? WHY DO YOU WANT TO CHANGE?! You are the only one who knows so, look inside, there is always a deeper reason or meaning.
3. Change your mind
Actions follow thoughts. If you think about all the great benefits to doing something, chances are you will do it. If you think about how good it feels, chances are you will feel good about it. Consider the placebo affect. Tell yourself it is working, tell yourself you are happy, tell yourself you kick ass, tell yourself you are the most awesome person you know, because well aren't you? You should be. If you aren't yet, then tell yourself you are because you do that then you start making choices that create and mold you to become that.
You do not have to go cold turkey on your diet. You do not have to jump into the gym full force performing movements you have never done. You need to work at your own pace. For me, I started making what I thought were "healthier" choices, a LONG time ago, before I became a fitness enthusiast and body transformation expert. I worked out from home until I could afford a gym membership, I got a job to afford one. I made it happen. You can too. Once I realized I needed something more, I dove in full force. I adopted my super clean eating and kick ass in the gym lifestyle, and I have never looked back. Decide what you need and do that. Do not do something you cannot form a habit with and commit to for years to come. You have to immerse yourself completely eventually though. Never half ass anything, especially not your health.
Trust the process. You may not see results in your first 2 weeks, a month comes around, you review progress pictures and WHAT?!! you have changed!! Now can you stay the course for the next 3 months? ahhh that is the question. Never give up. I always say SLOW progress is better than NO progress. Most healthy regimens will give you slow and steady results because they are not placing your body under extreme measures or weird yo-yo diets that don't last. Trust the process, remember you deserve to feel better everyday, enjoy it.
6. "Accentuate the positive, Eliminate the Negative, Latch on to the Affirmative, don't mess with Mr. In-between"
This is pretty self explanatory but, if you can learn to do this, dramatic changes will occur. You may think that you will be lonely or lost if you rid of all the hurtful, negative people in your life but isn't that better than hurting yourself everyday with negative vibes around you? Once you begin flowing positive energy out, it will come to you. This is relative to number 3. Just remember, it is okay to be alone for awhile if it means you are happier and in a better state of mind, if you can grow in your own presence and your own company, eventually you will be able to be comfortable with yourself, be comfortable with only allowing the greatest into your life, and being okay with ridding of the things you don't want. Ultimately, you will be comfortable with making the choices you have always wanted to make.
7. Work out
Now that you have exercised your mind, exercise your body. If you do not know where to start, ask. If you need help, ask. Closing yourself off will LIMIT your success. SO seek guidance. Start slowly with fitness, you must develop your muscles properly to avoid injuries and imbalances. Our bodies have different types of muscles, we must learn to grow them all as they work together to help us function properly. You will need to use your stabilizers, learn the movements, create mind muscle connections, and feel confident. Don't jump into anything crazy before you learn your bodies abilities. If you already know, but just don't know where to start, again ask for help. :) You can always apply to one of my specialized programs, I am the best ;).
8. Eat Nutritious Foods
Whole. Healthy. Colorful. Natural. Un-processed junk. Download my free grocery list for some ideas. Eat consistently healthy and have treats in moderation. Nearly everyone says it because, it is true. Give your body food it can function with. Personally, I cannot function as well after a box of oreos as I can after a protein, a complex carb, a fat, vitamins, and minerals. Serve your body, literally.
hERE'S WHY YOU ARE STILL TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH THOSE FITNESS GOALS AND hERE'S hOW YOU CAN!
1. yOU THINK YOU CAN DO IT ALONE
I get it, the motivation and the positive vibes we feel heading into the new year can make us feel invincible. Our friends promise not to bail, our family says they want to do it too. But the truth is, the best thing we can do is admit our weakness and ask for help, do this for YOU!
2. You fell into a fad diet
3. You only use workout printables or things you have seen online or on tv
This can be great for getting the body moving, don't get me wrong. But the key thing is, EVERYONE is different. You have specific goals to train for and you have to train the right way. Your body may be different than celebrity x's (chances are celeb x is doing more than the magazine says). The pinterest workouts are NOT going to get you the body of your dreams, neither will the other pre-written, non-customized plans. YOU NEED A CUSTOMIZED PLAN TO REACH YOUR GOALS!
4. You make excuses
First week goes excellent!! First month feels great!! Second month you "have to..." or "can't because..." Third month you are wondering "why can't I see results?" "why can't I stick to this program?" "why isn't this workout printable working for me?"
5. You give up hope, trying, and making time for your health
You allow yourself to devote your time to other things, you figure you will never get the results you want, and ''NOTHING works". (it does not work because it is not built FOR YOU). You did not develop a healthy habit and now you want to quit.
6. You gained all the weight back or lost all your muscle mass, you begin another fad diet and random workout routine
Ahhh, another yo-yo diet. You're up, then down, you never find the consistency for your body that it needs. You feel good about your choices one day then you are bored the next. You are tired of having 7 shakes a day, but hey at least you can have the "snickers" flavor with additives!!! (WRONG!!!!)
7. You do not know what to do, You revert back to old ways, December comes around, and "Oh sh*+, I swear I will do it this year..."
Then you repeat the same cycle.
SO, here is what you need to do:
1. Set smart goals that will challenge you to work hard but not push you past the breaking point. Seek constant growth and work your way into it.
2. Seek guidance.
3. Find accountability and motivation to continue
4. DO NOT start another fad or yo yo diet, get a diet that works FOR YOU and helps you develop healthy habits going forward in life.
5. You saw this coming, Apply for my New Year's Challenge, receive a customized plan with everything my full plan offers and start the year off right so next year you will be setting NEW goals, NOT recycled ones. Feel free to contact me for more info! Would love to chat about your goals :)
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Suicide Is Not As Easy as a Facebook Post: A more in depth look at my personal History with Depression
I saw this photo on a facebook post and had to share my Thoughts...
I want to talk about my own personal experience with depression. I do not want to go into all the details because I am not completely comfortable with sharing them yet. What I can tell you though, there was nothing better than getting help from a therapist.
I ignored my friends who told me it would be a good option. It took them basically reporting me before action was taken. Why? Because when I was at this point of my life, it was EXTREMELY difficult to think rationally and want to get help.
I thought, it's not going to be as bad as it was, I won't hurt myself again, I won't listen to my negative thoughts that come out of thin air. I will believe that it is not treatable and I can't change this. It will always haunt me. These were all things I thought about when I went through these mental setbacks.
Once it was brought to the attention in a way I would have NEVER wanted (but obviously needed), I was able to finally get the help I really needed. Deep down I knew therapy would be good, but I was not sure how easy it would be to discuss this. I always felt like a burden or like my problems were so small and just causing myself pain. I did not think it was humanly possible for someone to EVER understand how I could feel so much, without cause, reason, or explanation. But I went. It was the best thing I have done for my mental health.
I will always recommend therapy to anyone who needs it because it provided me with a completely different mindset and approach to my setbacks. I would never wish what I went through in my head on anyone. But I also would never tell someone experiencing it that "it will be okay" or "we all go through it". I would tell them to turn their life around, ask for the help they need, pay for it, and implement it, because even if you don't think you are valuable enough or worthy enough to feel better or even live, you at least owe it to yourself to try to feel better, live, and find your worth and value that everyone says you have.
It's time to stop running from it, and it is time to start dealing with it and making the most of it.
This Is not a very long list, but these are a few of my least favorite things. If you agree, Let me know, if you disagree, hmmm?? ;)
Remember, to always have the back story, or gain understanding before bashing, commenting, or questioning people on the internet. I always see people saying their piece before all their questions are answered. Talk about it before you TAAALKKKK about it!
Using 'bad days' to be a bad ass
Never forget to embrace yourself in times of pain or hardship. You deserve your full attention to build instead of break. Listen to your heart and souls just as you would listen to your body in the gym. Reflect and recover my friends. You are a bad ass so build on this and know that it is okay to not automatically feel positive after an event that makes you upset, but recognize that to dwell over things that have the capability to BUILD YOU more than break you is not what you deserve.
This week has been interesting to say the least. I can look at it in a few different ways:
1. It's been terrible
2. It didn't go as planned
3. The losing out of certain opportunities has reminded me to continue to work hard, make positive changes in people's health, confidence, and happiness in my own unique and powerful way and most importantly KEEP PUSHING.
I will be completely honest with you, the first day I chose the first option.
The second day I chose the second option. All three days the third option came to mind. But not until the third day was it an absolute.
If this resonated with you please share this with your family and friends.
We will constantly be faced with these events that can either break us or make us. It is important to always remember your why! Why are you doing what you do? Why is your life and the things you want to fill it with so important?
Like I always say, What do you DESERVE? Don't give yourself less because someone or something made you feel a certain way. Take a day for yourself, reflect, and wake up as even more of a badass. 💪🏻👊🏻