Letting go of limiting beliefs or behaviors isn’t always as easy as we’d like it to be.
A lot of times these self-sabotaging patterns actually serve us in some way, even if we wish they didn’t or don’t want to acknowledge that they do.
An example of this might be wanting to give up binge eating because it’s taking you away from mental peace, your physique goals, health, and making you feel sick but it serves you by giving you a means to have foods you don’t normally “get” to have, cope with emotions you aren’t wanting to look at directly, deal with trauma, self-fulfill a prophecy that you’re “a failure” thereby giving you congruency between actions and beliefs…and so on.
So despite the desire to stop binge eating, there’s a lot of ways it is serving you.
Therefore, if you want to change a thought or behavior pattern that is limiting you in one way, you must find other ways to address or fulfill the needs it IS meeting.
When finding new routes, it’s best to pick and try things that are convenient and bring meaning to your life.
We don’t want to go into it trying to be perfect, just aiming to make a small effort in a meeting direction, without expecting things to change all of a sudden and for no struggle to exist ever again.
Changing thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors can (not always) take time.
I recommend you get help from someone who understands and has productively helped others do this.
For example, you might hire a coach who specializes in plans for gut health if you’re struggling with this just like you would inquire about hiring me if you are struggling with your relationship with food, body image, and your goals and don’t want to give up your fitness goals to make peace in these areas.
Being compassionate, patient, and CONSISTENT are some of the key components to successful pattern changes.