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Competing is not the Reason or the Solution for Being Miserable or Being Happy

6/7/2019

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​I can’t be the only one who questions the integrity and intention behind posts that contrast ‘miserable while competing’ to ‘happy and thriving not competing’

This may ruffle some feathers but competing isn’t the reason someone is miserable just like not competing isn’t the reason someone is happy.

Literally, take out that factor of that person’s life and I guarantee you there was so much more going on for them.

I think it is really sad actually. To blame competing for the inner pains we have is like blaming your car for running out of gas.

Fill up the tank, you don’t run out of gas. Do the inner work and healing, don’t feel miserable (AT ANY TIME OF YOUR LIFE OR SEASONS OR WHATEVER!).

It is especially sad to me because I was actually once this person who couldn’t face my own demons and instead offloaded the heaviness of the pains I needed to overcome by just saying, competing created my problems.

Competing was a mask for me at first. A way for me to have a reason for my behaviors and thought patterns.

If I compete then it is okay to say I want to change my body, or that I won’t eat something, or that I have to workout more.
If I compete then I will be too distracted to face the real shit going on in my life.
If I compete then I won’t have to explain why I don’t want to go out, feel sad, or am hiding.

But now, competing has been a life changer for me. It truly opened my eyes to what needed to be healed, learned, and experienced.

How could there be such a contrast though? Because my mindset is different now.

I went back into competing with a healthy mindset and it acted as an addition to my growth journey, not a mask for the wounds I didn’t want to face or heal.

Its not their fault though.

I mean, I didn’t realize how much needed to be healed until after my first show. And even then, I BLAMED competing for my problems.

But then I turned my ego off and asked myself what was really going on. I let my guard down for myself, I opened up my mind, I actually went into the pains and it was only then that I took PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY.

No one forces you to be miserable on prep, chasing the approval of judges (which apparently many of these girls say was driving them crazy to which I say, there should have been a deeper reason), eat or train a certain way.

Literally no one except for you.

You chose to let your vehicle beep at you for miles and you ignored it until it crapped out on you and now you are pushing it up the damn hill blaming the town for not having a gas station closer, blaming the car for not having a bigger tank, or blaming anything you can to not have to admit that, ‘I should have seen what was needed, stopped, and refueled so I could keep going in whatever direction I need to’.

Competing is not the reason or the solution. It is simply a part of the equation.

If you are considering competing but scared because of those posts, take it as a warning to do more inner work BEFORE you commit to a show.

If you have competed and feel that competing made you miserable or sad or have a horrible relationship with your body or food, I urge you to do more inner work and healing. It’s safe to take responsibility, and it is freeing.

If you are competing or prepping right now and nervous that you are feeling miserable, find a new way, see if there is something else you are chasing, and be willing to take a new path or pull over for a second.
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If you are competing, on prep, or even in your improvement season and have taken responsibility for the way you feel but know you still need to do more inner work from what has been revealed to you, do it, you deserve to.
 
Regardless of where you are, inner peace is possible for you. Contact me now to find out what might be the next best step for you on your own inner growth and personal development journey. I have been there. I get it. You can come out of it too!
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