Creating a New Normal; 10 Steps I Took and What Happens When you Change the Way you Think

If you created your current reality, you can create a new one
 
Your normal might consist of being unhappy, sad, ashamed, full of guilt, empty, hurt, angry, or numb
 
Your normal might be full of unsurprising events with some sort of lusting for a life that “could be but likely never will be”

Your normal might feel uneasy, unpredictable, scary
 
But it doesn’t always have to be this way and the only way it wouldn’t change is if you don’t
 
Your next normal could be entirely different from your current narrative
 
How?
 
Change the way you think
 
When you change the way your brain is wired, you’re inevitably going to be changing your actions, when you change your actions your results change and when your results change so does your experience of life
 
It’s no longer feeling like something so far out of reach but now like something you can always take hold of and steer any which way you desire
 
I don’t just say this as a psychology and personal development nerd
 
Despite literature of more reliable case studies, eons of anecdotal evidence, and the mere fact that our brain is literally the epicenter of our functions...

I’ve also witnessed it first hand
 
I haven’t been deeply depressed or suicidal (something I never thought I’d be able to rid myself of) in years
 
Because of this my anxiety has also decreased massively as I’m no longer fearful of myself or my thoughts
 
While I’ve always been a VERY optimistic person (sometimes too much for my own good they say)

My life has dramatically improved since making myself a priority
 
I always had goals and dreams and chased them relentlessly whether it was athletics or school or career
 
(Fun fact I even started my first business at 9 years old and carried on with the thought of pursuing that profession until junior year of high school! Can you guess what that was?)

But the difference is now I feel like ME and I love this me because she is such a pure light form of who I’ve always known I could be
 
When I would get depressed it scared me so much because I knew it “wasn’t me” I can remember being so enamored by the thought of death and yet feeling like I was just trapped in my own sad chemical ridden brain, I’d always give people support for their concern of me by saying “but it’s not me don’t worry it just comes over me, idk what it is”

Even though it wasn’t my fault that this would happen, I had a LOT of responsibility to take
 
And if I stopped EVERY positive thing I do for my mind now, I know it wouldn’t be long until I regressed to a dark and scary version of me
 
Want to know some of the things that made the biggest difference for me?
 
Here’s 10 just to scratch the surface:

1. Made a conscious effort every day to love myself through my thoughts & actions
2. Focused on doing more of what I loved to do from looking at the stars to drawing, I made joy more present than fear especially at night when my “norm” was to be sad like a bad habit
3. Saw a therapist, hired mentors, invested in my goals, made decisions that were solely for me in the present not me in the past
4. Developed a daily ritual
5. Discovered my values and made them the navigation system of my life as they’re meant to be—this made me feel much more fulfilled
6. Talked about my feelings more because they reminded me I was human too and didn’t have to be “perfect” just because I was the “happy & smiley one” all the time
7. Set boundaries
8. Gained trust with myself and my souls vehicle
9. Continued believing in ANY possibilities & shared them like I wasn’t crazy for believing it is possible despite the looks
10. Most important one for changing it all proactively so I wouldn’t always be running around in circles to maintain happiness. I challenged any normal narrative / pathway that was on repeat in my head but didn’t serve me

 
Happiness can be tapped into the same way sadness can. This doesn’t mean you never experience any other emotions, it just means your baseline is more content, at peace, happy :)

Imagine what will happen when you start chasing the idea of “being happy” and instead choose to simply become happiness

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