Do you trust yourself?

This is a topic that has come up repeatedly this week with clients.

It is fairly easy to assume that someone who doesn’t trust themselves to show up and do what they say they’re going to do, including yourself, just doesn’t have the discipline.

While this is “technically” true & a major contributing factor as well as helpful solution, it’s not always the whole picture & we have to work to set up the person and system to be able to adhere, structure, & feel committed to the expectation beyond just because they “should”.

We can evaluate why someone isn’t showing up for themselves…

I tend to find it can be due to reasons including but not limited to:

- having a schedule or routine they don’t actually like / want to follow

- nagging “should” mentality

- all or nothing thinking that reduces tolerance to imperfection

- past or recent trauma which could be impeding on beliefs, mental health, and worldview especially around trust or life’s meaning

- too many negative reinforcements and not enough positive recognition

- detachment from intrinsic values and motivators

- limiting beliefs that they are not worthy, deserving, or capable of achieving the results they desire so why bother anyways

- past experience with showing up, not getting the expected result, and choosing to believe that means the effort was meaningless

- unfair expectations

- difficulty with boundary setting or saying no to adding more to their responsibilities

- lack of support from micro, macro, and mesosystems

- no positive or consistent example of what a trustworthy relationship might look like so limited insight in self-application and development or reinforcement when present

And I’ll leave it at those for now because I can assume that you or someone you’re trying to help is likely able to identify with at least one of those and can start there.

Once you determine what is likely keeping you from trusting yourself, identify one way to combat / support yourself through this.

Need help with this? DM me, I’m happy to help!

Let’s #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY 🤗
📸: @rainyboyphoto back in 2020🤯

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