Feeling Emotional? Ask Yourself These 4 Questions for Greater Understanding of Why and Discover What Really Needs to Be Addressed

We all can experience things differently

Sometimes what is sad for one person might be frustrating for someone else

Or what makes one person celebrate might make another person feel like a failure

Or what could be your biggest growth spurt could be someone’s worst nightmare

It’s important to allow yourself to FEEL the emotions but if you feel trapped by them, then reflecting is helpful bc it gives us perspective

There are common emotions that we can all share but their definitions by psychological standards are only what we call phenomenons

This is because they can’t be defined in such a way that everyone goes YEP
They aren’t laws, even the concept of emotion is theory based

We give power to everything we experience which is why I believe it is important to pay attention to why we are experiencing that specific emotion as a response to what’s happened

Asking these questions of myself have helped me to see deeper wounds that needed healing, thought patterns that needed shifting, lessons that needed learning, and beliefs that needed changing

The reason for each question:

Q1: helps you to even see if it requires much digging. Like getting interrupted over & over & being annoyed is pretty normal

Q2: This is to identify where the emotions might be being pulled from. If you’re feeling pissed off that someone showed up late to meet you & realize there were times in the past where your parents were always late to pick you up, you can see where the deeper attachment to anger & resentment could be coming from. Especially if it’s the other person’s first offense

Q3: Your values & beliefs drive many of your decisions and life. I get really upset when people do things that aren’t genuine because to me that’s a huge value of mine so naturally it makes sense I’d be upset

Q4: If you’ve brought your own ideals into interactions outside yourself. If you go into a meeting with an intention for positivity that’s one thing. But if your expectation is that everyone will love your idea but only some do. Then of course you’re going to have an emotional response
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Reflection is the only way to find the lesson really. I hope this helps! Let me know which you like best😊

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