Let’s talk #healthyboundaries ⬇️
You’re not obligated to do ANYTHING!🙅🏻♀️
Yet many people say:
I have to eat because it’s rude not to...
I have to go out because if I cancel they won’t invite me again...
I have to go to the gym because if I don’t then I’ll be judged by that girl who’s #teamnodaysoff
I have to say, talk about, or show different things because that’s what everyone expects from me
I can’t say no because then they won’t think I’m capable!
And on and on
It’s really serious actually... How much we live our lives according to others even if on a subconscious level
But You have options. Do what’s best for you, do what’s best for them, &/or do what’s best for everyone.
If you don’t want to eat the birthday cake, you don’t have to explain yourself. “I’m on prep” is a nice excuse when you’re on prep.
But when it’s off season or you’re just living your life & don’t want the cake, you have to be able to set boundaries
This is true for all those examples
Boundaries are NOT effectively set with excuses or justification
The best boundaries are set without pressure to explain yourself
A healthy boundary allows everyone to feel honored & respected
Instead of “I don’t want your damn bday cake” (rude) or “I can’t eat that, I’ll get fat” (offensive & false).
We could go for something more reasonable like “wow looks great! No thank you though, I’m so happy to be here celebrating with you.!”
Everyone is taken care of without any explanation needed!
In this case, the only way feelings could be hurt is if someone is triggered by their own internal belief systems.
In order to set a healthy boundary though, we have to have a healthy relationship with ourselves & our beliefs
If we don’t fully honor ourselves as a person who tunes into our needs then we won’t be able to set a boundary that allows that to happen
We must give ourselves permission to express our needs while still effectively expressing the love & gratitude we have for the other opportunities/people.
Need help with this? Let's set up a mini boundary breakthrough session :) Send me an email with the subject line 'boundary' and we will set one up!