If you have been on social media lately I am sure there have been all sorts of videos from friends, family, celebrities, and influencers showing their toddler's fighting the urge to eat the candy, fruit snacks, or whatever other yummy 'treat' has been placed in front of them to wait to eat until the adult comes back in the room.
When I first saw a video of this I thought 'Oh my gosh this is so cute' and I laughed at a LOT of them
But there was also the psychology and food relationship mentor side of me that had a bit of a maniacle laugh in the background, 'muahaha if this doesn't teach them that restriction leads to fixation then nothing can!!!'
For a society that literally lives in dieter mentality I thought this challenge was exactly what everyone needed to see
When we restrict food intake, of any kind, especially from a place of 'I can't' or 'I am not allowed to' our brain is like 'hi, yes, excuse me I am gunna need to get me some of that, thanks!!!!'
This happens because of scarcity
Scarcity and restriction based mindsets increase fixation which increases the urge or desire for whatever is lacking
Of course, no fault to you
Just your brain lookin out for you
Kinda like how in COVID lockdown suddenly everyone needed toilet paper (especially when it was disappearing rapidly), all people could think about was the next time they could go to the gym (and many who have went so hard their first couple days back that they ran out of steam already--due to the restriction), or when they'd be able to travel, dine in, see a movie, perform, etc
It all works the same way
All you have to remember is: RFB
When the parent tells the kid to wait to eat the candy (that is already seen as forbidden fruit for most of these kids anyways). When you go on a diet that says NO to this and that (for negative & silly reasons especially) or when you can't have something for awhile because you forgot to pack it or you have fasted bloodwork coming up; it can show up in a lot of ways.
Parent has left and the candy is all the child can think about because it is the one thing the kid can't have right now. The toddler could go play with toys, ask to go with the parents, or walk away. But it isn't so simple because the restrictive mentality has already been created and amplified by the consistent reminder to the child to wait, wait, wait or you cannot have this until___ you cannot have this. Sound familiar yet?
Waiting is unbearable, restriction has reached max capacity for fixation trigger, child consumes candy before parents come in OR child waited for parent so long that the moment they see their parent's big toe enter the room or hear them say 'Okay you can eat it now' or 'good girl' they then dive head first into the food with no concern about how much they eat or the pace they eat it or how deeply they enjoy it but now it is just EAT THE FOOD because they can now. Now, I am using the word 'binge' to express an intense splurge and it pretty much can apply to anything (like the toilet paper or gym example I used earlier)
I encourage you to go watch one of these videos, listen to the words the parents use, pay attention to how the children respond, and take note of their surrounding environment. Be an observer of how the child's desire intensifies and watch what happens when they decide to dive in. It no longer is about the candy, as much as it is about having it
The same thing is happening all over the world with people dieting or just living in a constant state of dieter's mentality. It could be happening to you even.
If you don't want to get caught up in this cycle any longer, ask yourself what can I learn from the toddler challenge and apply to my approach to food?
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