You don't owe anyone an apology for being true to yourself!

I was on the phone with a client the other day and she said something I think we can all learn from...

She told me that she decided to join my program toward the end of her prep because she was developing a negative pattern with food (hoarding macros for the end of the night and starving throughout the day, day dreaming about food, then worrying about going off her macros and feeling disappointed in herself) and felt that if she didn’t get ahead of it now she just kept seeing a huge disaster post show

Respect to her for this.

It takes courage to recognize a potential sabotage and do something about it.


Especially when it is coming from within you.


It feels sometimes like we have to defend or justify ourselves, even at our worst, to uphold this ideal standard we wish to live by.


But in doing so we then stunt our growth and produce the very sabotage we were so afraid of.


The post-show experiences I had that were my worst were the ones where I had gone on autopilot on prep or justified behaviors I knew were not healthy for my mind long term even if they didn’t derail my prep (like eating all my meals distracted or quickly, taking on the “have to” mentality, day dreaming about other foods...).

What I’ve found in my personal journey and in helping 100s of other women is that if bodybuilding is truly going to be something you commit to, like any other sport, you have to capitalize on strengths to support your weakness.


And stop apologizing to yourself or others for identifying a weakness.


If you want to get better, you can’t be delusional and detached from reality to protect yourself.


You’re not going to succeed as a snowflake so step up and treat yourself like iron; strong but malleable.


Being unafraid of what you may find in the dark is ultimately going to be what allows you to succeed (whatever that means for you).

You can go through the motions all prep or all improvement season, waiting until it’s a “better time” to address the problem.


Or you can live in congruency and accept that if you believe your behaviors, habits, and commitments matter for getting better then they can also contribute to your downfall.


My client has been proactive, she no longer hoards her macros, worries about post-show binging, or questions her choices. She has found a rhythm that will serve her this peak week and next week.


She didn’t want to do what she was doing anymore because even if it was “working” she knew it would be short lived or she would be constantly consumed with anxiety.


It’s up to you to say “I deserve better” and begin making those improvements.


If you’re committed to the mental game but need that next level support and guidance in your relationship with food, your body, and your goals, then I invite you to work with me 1:1. You can apply for my food relationship program or email me for my other mindset mentorship options🙌🏻

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