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Welcome to my Blog
I write a new blog almost daily! Feel free to comment, share, and connect with me! I love hearing from my readers!
When you’re feeling MEH about the way your body looks, ask yourself these 2 questions
The first one will help you focus on function over form
The second one will help you reconnect to the importance of living in a way that supports you in having a body that functions optimally
Through nourishing, self-loving action steps we can change our body
Ever notice how the more you pick yourself apart the more of a downward spiral you fall into?
It’s like an evil trap that screams “I hate how I am & want to change but because I hate how I am I do not have the motive or desire to enact that change!”
So you self-sabotage or just wallow in shame and dread for the next time you have to look at your body and sometimes even face the truth that you may not be doing everything you can for her
Also important to note that when you are taking loving & positive actions for your body you’ll be more likely to appreciate and adore her because you are in a higher energy state & feel more autonomous with yourself
Another reason these two questions are some of my go tos?
Your body may not be supporting the way you live or want to live so you may need to change your habits or get help like see a doctor or fix your hormones to help support your body in supporting you
& if you’ve read this far I’ll give you some follow up questions to ponder on
Comment an emoji below when you’ve read them 😉
Is the lifestyle that comes with the body I’m longing for something I am interested in, capable of, or ready to commit to?
Are there other actions I need to take to prepare myself first?
If I committed in the mental space I am in now would I even be able to sustain it? (ie if you have a bad relationship with food you likely wouldn’t sustain an even stricter diet)
Who do I have to become in order to love and embrace my body while also LOVING and EMBRACING my body? (What beliefs, habits, behaviors, etc. would be required if you?)
Hope this helps you as much as it has helped myself and my clients
Need more support?
I’ll help you make peace with food, your body, and your goals with my 1:1 breakthrough mindset coaching
Contact Me to inquire now!
BUILD MORE THAN JUST A BODY
Today was such an amazing day! Celebrating 23 years of life and feel so so blessed!!😊🥳💜
I have so much to reflect on and am about to do my birthday reflection journaling but wanted to say thank you to everyone who has wished me a happy birthday 🙂
I am grateful for another year and look forward to seeing what 23 brings me!
Reminder!!! My next live Build More than Just a Body Event is happening on January 26th from 9am-2pm in Los Angeles
We get into all things mindset, personal development, self-love, and psychology so you can begin making peace with food, your body, and your goals
In celebration of my birthday I have reduced the prices from $35 to $23 for the next 24 hours only
To reserve your seat at the event please click HERE 🙂
Discounted tickets and spaces are limited
If you click the link and see it, it means it’s available, if you click the link and it’s not there, then discounted tickets have been sold out
Better jump on it 😊
Thank you again for all the amazing birthday love and also thank you to everyone tagging me in their Spotify year end round up to show that Confessions of a Bikini Pro was your most listened to!
Means SO SO much to me, I swear the podcast is my baby lol
Stay tuned on my stories and posts coming because I am putting together a year end special episode featuring YOU guys to celebrate over a year of weekly episodes (crazy to me how i even made it happen all this time tbh lol!)
Lots of love ❤️😊
I used to freak out about eating anything off my plan
When I got my first meal plan I thought it was ‘the only way’ and being someone with an already very control oriented and disciplined personality, you bet I wasn’t going to stray from it
I was always given 1 free meal a week though, mind you this was my pre-competing days
Literally just wanting to get more fit and have a real program to follow
I of course would do perfectly all week then as soon as it was time for my free meal I went HARD like I would eat enough for two days worth of food in one meal
Going wild on your free meal/cheat meal only to justify it by saying “I was on point all week”
Welp, that was my reality for far too long
Eventually I got into competing because I was “already living the lifestyle anyways” (eating chicken, rice, greens, ground turkey, eggs, etc and lifting 6x a week) I thought I should see how much further I could go
I knew something was off about my food relationship but didn’t think much of it because “this is the only way and how it’s supposed to be and how everyone else does it”
I prepped for my first show, didn’t place, got walked off stage with the other girls who didn’t place, and felt like all my hard work and commitment “wasn’t good enough”
I felt this way because I hadn’t primed my mindset to be one of success for the commitment regardless of a validating external outcome
I said “f it” and went full on eat whatever mode. My appetite was all over the place too so some days I would barely eat and others I would be like santa on Christmas
I realized there was a problem when I gained 30lbs in 2 weeks
Yep...you read that right
I blamed competing for awhile
Then I put my big girl panties on and realized that I did this. I hid from my binge cycles for too long, went on autopilot with a prep as my excuse to be able to say no to eating things, and I didn’t love myself very much (especially compared to the love I have for myself now whoaaa)
So I took responsibility
But I didn’t go on a diet or cardio myself to death because that hadn’t worked before and I was not trying to be insane on top of all of my food and body issues
So I let go of ALL the rules
I set new standards and expectations for my own health and body
I prioritized self-love and started doing all these different things to love myself which just felt right to me like locking eyes with myself in the mirror, identifying positive parts of my body, snapping rubber bands on my wrist when negative self talk arose and then rewriting them with positives, the list goes on
My business mission evolved with me
I realized that we need to Build More than Just a Body
I knew there had to be a way to compete with a healthy relationship with food and a positive body image
I set out to make that reality and be an example to others
Over the last couple years I’ve been able to accomplish that WITHOUT having to completely drop everything to do so
I’ve successfully competed in 5 shows since then and have overcome struggles with my relationship with food WITHOUT sacrificing my goals
Now, I help other competitors to make peace with food, their body, and their goals year round, in every season
I now can follow a competition prep diet WITH a healthy relationship with food AND WHILE developing a healthier relationship with food...and help you do the same
So if you’ve ever been told you have to drop everything to heal it, you’ve been lied to. In many cases, it’s not necessary and if you don’t believe me just look at my Testimonials Page to See
After going through my own internal battles I discussed, I was inspired to start studying psychology and earned my bachelors degree while becoming a #1 best selling self help author after immersing myself into the personal development world AND speaking on stages in various cities of the US
Now I’m getting my masters degree in clinical mental health counseling
So while my story is compelling and my “I overcame this and so can you” may be inspiring, I want you to know it’s not only something I LOVE to help others with, it is something I am truly passionate about, committed to, and invested in
I literally live, eat, sleep, and breathe this stuff
If you’re ready to Build More than just a Body and make peace with food, your body, and your goals using my signature PTG system I developed with competitors in mind, then Contact me now to inquire about if and how I can help you
If I feel I can help you I’ll give you some options that I think would be best based on what we discuss
If I don’t feel I can help you, I will refer you to someone else
Don’t let negative experiences caused by negative mental constructs hold you back from being a successful athlete and lover of the lifestyle
YOU CAN BE AN ATHLETE AND A CHAMPION WHO HAS A POSITIVE RELATIONSHIP WITH HERSELF, HER BODY, and FOOD
Why wait to see that version of you come to life? It’ll only get harder
Contact me now or visit my work with me page to get ahead of this and say no more to the viscous cycles of disordered thoughts, eating, and body image
Such an important part of being consistent is actually enjoying what you do
And in bodybuilding, that means mostly enjoying what you eat since that’s such an integral and necessary part of building your body and if you’re in this for the long run you’re going to be eating a LOT
Me and Maya Astabie talk about this on her upcoming episode for Confessions of a Bikini Pro and Casey Samsel also shares how she has been able to maintain longevity in the sport with consistency and enjoying food!
So I figured in the spirit of talking about adherence I would share one of the cards from my competitor card deck!
The deck consists of 45 cards;
15 Action/Coaching Prompt Cards (like this one)
15 Affirmation/I am statement cards
15 introspective question/ journal prompt cards
I made it with competitors in mind to have something they can use as a wallpaper or quickly pull up on their phone
I outline a few other ways you can use the card deck on the page where you can download them for free
Click here to download them 🙂
Super simple and you’ll get immediate access to the cards
Not gunna lie...I even have them on my safari tabs in my phone 😛
The feedback I’ve received from these have been AMAZING and I figured I’d let those of you who didn’t know they exist that they do!
Covering topics like food, body image, mindset, self-love, and more. You know, all my usual bread and butter topics 😉
Download them now and then tag me when you use! I LOVE seeing you guys implementing and taking action!
Which never surprises me because competitors are super dedicated and driven to improve and succeed 9x out of 10! 😋 (ok I don’t have the real stats but you feel me!)
Click here to get them now!
What is holding you back right now?
Could you be stopping yourself from pushing harder in the gym due to fear of injury?
Maybe you’re not eating food you enjoy so you keep going off plan?
Could you be talking down to yourself every day so much so that it creates a subconscious barrier between you and the actions you know will help you improve?
Are you allowing stress or overwhelm to weigh on you so much that it ends up messing with your sleep, recovery, digestion and focus?
Do you feel the need to impress others that when you’re anything less than perfect you hide and silence yourself?
Could you be overcome with emotions that it takes up space in your mind that could be focused on more productive things?
Are you overwhelmed with thoughts of food to the point where you can’t be present in other areas of your life?
Does being uncomfortable in your body force you to lack intimacy or constantly feel like you need to cover up or dress in a way you’re not comfortable or confident in?
I am not going to go on, because I’m sure you could name a few more too!
Here’s the thing...If nothing was holding you back then you’d be where you wanted to be right now
In this sport, anything holding you back can show up on stage and keep you from achieving your goals
Whether that’s looking your best, earning a trophy, or getting your pro card...we all know that you can’t leave any stone unturned
Self-awareness of what’s holding you back is a major “stone” that you can turn and address until it’s helping you move forward
Once you acknowledge what’s holding you back ask yourself what the next best step is to address it
If you don’t know what to do about it or it’s been going on for awhile and the things you’ve tried haven’t worked...
Contact someone who knows how to move through it and can support you in doing so
It’s much more efficient & productive to get help rather than stumble around carrying the weight of something constantly in your mind and holding you back
Click HERE to Learn more about and Join my On Demand Mindset Coaching Platform to uplevel your mindset helping you to become the best competitor you can be in every season🧠💜
1. It’s no different than any other day. Treat it this way and you’ll be okay
2. Working off or earning your food should never be a thing.
Plus studies have shown that your hunger levels increase with longer cardio sessions so why not use that time to spend with loved ones?
Earning your food perpetuates the belief that food is only meant to be eaten when “worked for” but we need food regardless of movement just to function. This creates a worse relationship with food
3. If you are feeling anxious about it evaluate why. Where is the anxiety coming from and what feels threatened?
This is where you need to focus your attention on relieving
4. One of my friends and fellow competitor Hana DeVore said it best, if you’re struggling with how to eat on one day, you need much more help than any infographic or even a video like this can give you.
You need to focus on developing a healthy relationship with food from the depths of where it begins, not just surface level solutions for “controlling” yourself on a day that we have been conditioned to believe is about feasting when it’s meant to be about gratitude
5. Stressing about what you’re eating is going to make your body struggle to use and digest it. So bring confidence to your decisions backed with strong core beliefs
6. You’re not a bad person for saying no but if you’re saying no make sure it’s coming from a positive self loving place and be prepared to lovingly accept questions from people who otherwise normally would expect you to eat
7. You’re not a bad person for saying yes. You’re no less fit, healthy, competitive, or influential for participating in a meal because simply put, it’s food and you’re going to eat anyways. No moral attachment belongs on your plate
8. Best thing you can do is be mindful. Not in the frilly way but genuinely consider how your body feels, where your head is at, and what’s driving your decision making.
Connect to your goals, your values, your standards, and your body. Listen, honor, and love them all
9. Make no justifications for your choices
10. All of this applies tomorrow too. Like I said, it’s no different.
The problem is the conditioning to be concerned about celebrating a holiday in fear of gaining fat, reversing all your progress, losing your next show, being a failure, blackout binging, never ending guilt, and desires to ghost your coach for weeks until you “work it off”.
Change your perspective.
Holidays are a time of high spirits and fun, I know how much it sucks to be consumed with neverending thoughts about the food and only being half present with the people who matter because I’ve been too consumed in consuming.
But it doesn’t have to be your reality forever or at all. Be proactive.
If you experience the distraction of disordered thought patterns...reach out for help. There’s no shame in it and you’ll be glad you did!
I can’t imagine having lived my life with the troubles I was experiencing forever.
I couldn’t imagine being that way at every holiday or for my future kids or every celebration or literally every day and every week being so obsessed with how to eat in an effort to achieve a look or body.
Now I am happy and still crushing my goals. Funny what we gain when we let go of control and choose love for ourselves above all else.
If you’d like to apply for my food relationship healing and discovery journal program then DM me or apply using the link in the comments below!
Happy thanksgiving!!! 😊🥳❤️
I am so grateful for you and for these platforms where we can all connect and learn from each other!
You’re not beautiful because of your body, but your body is beautiful because of you
Our bodies are responsible for carrying us around this life to give all of us unique individusouls a human experience?! How amazing is that?
How awesome to know that we can influence & change our body with thoughts, behaviors, & habits?!
The fact that our body has built in self-care signals to say when its time to eat, rest, move, express, literally everything we experience our body gives us the ability to crave more of it, protect ourselves from similar negative experiences, or even give opportunities to transcend the person we thought we were at any given moment is really quite amazing
We have brains going with us everywhere which we can literally tap into & change or can change alone based on experiences In the matter of a moment & impact the rest of our life
Yet we still always have the power to recreate ourselves or our life
WE ARE LITERALLY MAGIC
For the last 6+ years I’ve known that my mission is to increase the level of self-love on this planet
It deeply saddens me to see so many people walking around self-loathing & even creating realities for themselves that are not ideal at all just because on some level they don’t feel worthy, deserving, or capable of MORE
Perspective shifting, knowledge, practice, & a desire are what we each need to continuously grow & enact change in ourselves & as a byproduct, our lives
The days I obsess over how my body look are few & far between because I’m far more focused & committed to seeing & celebrating the unbelievableness that each of us are
It’s taken me time to heal my relationship with my body & it is of course a DAILY commitment
I’ve made conscious choices to shift my thought patterns & create new neural pathways that no longer say “body=not good enough” but now say “body=scarily undefinably more than enough”
I’ve shifted from being hyper focused on the look to being hyper aware of how I feel & the person I am becoming as I shape shift
Of all the ways I’ve freed myself from the wild capacities of my own mind, unconditionally loving my body is 1 of my most cherished ❤️💆🏻♀️
BUILD MORE THAN JUST A BODY
I have been asked by a lot of people how I have been able to be so patient after dealing with restoring my hormones, getting my period back, and of course building muscle in an 11 month improvement season and gaining more fat than what would have been 'ideal' for an off-season.
Many other competitors have expressed gratitude to me when I share my updates and tell me that my patience with the process is inspiring and brings them back to reality themselves.
I have been thinking a lot about this topic the past week as I have felt an overwhelming feeling of peace and presence in my prep this time around unlike any other I have had before.
This hasn't always been easy for me though. I used to be a much less patient competitor. When I competed from August 2017 to September 2018 I did not want to stop and I did not like the idea of anything taking longer than I expected.
I got a good wake up call though when my coach told me I just am not ready for a national stage yet and building and restoring my health should be my number one priority before prepping again.
This would be a good time to mention that I didn't have my period before I started prep for August 2017, it wasn't all bodybuilding's fault for my struggles but it definitely didn't help that I was putting constant stress on my body day in and day out while working a ton and going to school full time.
I found myself wanting to get to the next level and the next level and the next level over and over again like get to the next stage and the next show date and my next best.
Which is NOT a negative mindset to be in when under the right circumstances but mine was coming from a less than peaceful place of urgency.
Taking time off really taught me patience. Not that the year of prepping didn't in its own ways too but the time off was a great reminder to me of a couple of things.
1. I am going to live this lifestyle anyways so what is the rush?
2. I love this sport and competing so why would I want to rush it?
3. It is an art and to honor the sport the way it deserves to be I need to remember that building the body I needed to build to bring my best wasn't going to happen if I kept dieting and prepping and doing show after show.
Honestly though, when it came time to prep again, I was in my head a lot about how, "I have so much more fat to lose" and "It is going to take me sooo much time just to get even close to stage ready" or "If where I was wasn't enough will I even get where I need to be if I have already gotten so far from where I was" and other thoughts that sound similar to that.
However, I made it a priority to change this mindset around and step into a more positive place. The 11 months of improving went by SO fast and I know that now it is less about 'getting to the stage' and more about 'how I get to the stage'.
Since focusing on some of what I shared above, and some of the steps I am going to give you further in this post, I have found that I am truly relishing in every moment of this prep now. I am enjoying my cardio, giving thanks at every meal, getting excited about every lifting session and like every time before--just following the plan.
That's the biggest thing.
If you are following your plan, trusting and communicating with your coach, as well as being honest with yourself...YOU WILL GET WHERE YOU WANT TO GO EVENTUALLY.
It is pretty much inevitable that if you see a leaf 5 steps in front of you and you want to go step on that leaf so you decide to take 5 steps forward that you will get there if every step is taken. 4 steps, you are almost there. 6 steps, you have gone too far.
Bodybuilding is like that. You are going to have to take a lot of steps along the way, and they probably won't look all that different from each other since consistency is a massive part of this sport, and eventually you will get where you wanted to go.
When struggling to find patience in the process you can try these steps:
1. Look at today's wins rather than tomorrow's potential batttles
Rather than thinking, 'Oh no, I have 30 pounds of fat to lose, it is going to be so so hard'. Just focus on the tasks at hand today.
2. Find the Joy in Everything
If you feel like you have to suffer to get where you want to go, then why are you going? You should be enjoying this. If you are not enjoying it, find a new approach.
3. Ask yourself, 'Would I be living this way if I wasn't trying to step on stage?'
If the answer is no, then reevaluate your reason for committing to this. If the answer is yes, then just keep trucking because you will get there anyways.
4. Be conscious of why you are in such a rush
Are you trying to rush to the stage because you said you would? Because you don't want to wait until xyz time to compete? Since you have a deeper desire for validation? What is the rush?!
5. Make Mindset Work a Priority
I also repeated a mantra to myself that helped a lot, 'One breath, one rep, one meal at a time' which kept me present and less focused on "how long with this take" and more on "how much I appreciate and love the process"
Don't stand idly by while your mindset weakens and can no longer sustain the longevity you need to progress in the sport. If you have a long way to go, which let's be honest any competitor who wants to go beyond a bucket list show better be ready for the long run, you'll need to develop a mindset with the stamina to support those endeavors.
RELISHING means you are truly taking joy in what you are doing.
RUSHING means you you are doing what you are doing with an uncomfortable urgency.
THERE IS NO RUSH, SO WHY NOT RELISH?
You can even ask yourself every day, how can I relish in the opportunities and challenges of today?
The more you connect to the energies of peace and patience, the better!
I have a couple of modules on this in my On-Demand Mindset Coaching Platform for competitors who feel like 'it is going to take a long time to get where they want to go' and 'feel like the goals are too big' or even literally 'impatience on prep'.
The site includes over 45+ modules on mindset so I won't include them all here. It has been developed to address your specific needs using a system I created that digs deeper into what you are going through with a couple of question then immediately redirects you to a solution sheet with exercises, practices, and even some with video trainings on how to get through it.
You deserve to be at peace and in love with something that requires so much of your time and energy.
Enroll in my On-Demand Mindset Coaching Platform for Competitors Now By Clicking HERE
That bikini sparkle though👀🤩😍
So blessed to rock Ingrid Romero Bikinis on stage!
I love these suits and am so excited for the next one 😊
We are thinking about the kelly green one for me next time but who knows!😍👀
These suits are honestly the most comfortable I’ve worn and have the perfect shape / coverage
No awkward booty triangle or nipple scares lol
I like that the tops have room for lots of extra padding on top of what it comes with and the bottoms are beautifully cut to shape your glutes
And let’s be honest if anyone knows how to get that booty right it’s Ingrid Romero
I personally like the thicker connectors but you can always choose for yourself based on what you feel confident in and what suits you best when you order!
Ingrid is so proud of the work she does so you know you’re going to get a quality product
I am sold on her bikinis and love them!
The top also doesn’t slide around to the point of losing its original look and the crystals and connectors are SO easy to clean off backstage when tanning
Never heard one bad thing about them either, everyone agrees with me they are so beautiful on stage, fit comfortably, and always exceed expectations
Completely customizable and made to order
You can now save money at checkout on Ingridromerobikinis.com with my code ‘celeste’ which also supports me 😊
Plus you can buy now and pay later when you checkout with sezzle which is not only an easy way to pay for it but it’s also a great way to motivate yourself now if you’re prepping for a show in 2020
If you go on her site you can see how they look and she has TONS of pics on her website with examples of the different designs so it takes the confusion out of designing it
If you like this one or the blue one or any online you could likely also just ask what it is and she will take care of you!
Happy bikini shopping💜😍
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As a competitor, your mindset is tested & challenged in new ways daily in every season
To become a winner, feel amazing on stage, have successful reverse diets & therefore even more successful preps, as well as work your way up the ranks in the sport, you have to do what others aren't always willing to
So, imagine investing as much energy & time into your mindset as you do your workouts, nutrition, recovery, coaching, posing, & the shows themselves?
By focusing on your mindset, you would have the mental stamina to support your longevity in this sport!
&&, since your mindset wouldn't be sending you into self-destructive spirals with food, body image, discipline or any other challenges that come up as a competitor, you would have more time & energy to focus on becoming the elite level athlete you dream of being
You don't have to give up competing to 'get your mind right' & you certainly don't have to wait until you 'fail' a reverse diet before working on your relationship with food
I urge you, from competitor to competitor, don't wait until you NEED to work on your mindset to set yourself apart from the girls next to you
Be PROACTIVE so that EVERY time you step on stage you feel empowered, beautiful, proud, & fulfilled regardless of the outcome
This is the mindset that breeds champions
When I prioritized my mental health & came back to bodybuilding in 2017 after my very first show in 2015, I knew that my mindset shifts were the reason I was able to do well & bring a better physique, presentation, & commitment level day in and day out
I 100% know & believe that the reason I have now been able to present my best on stage, have incredibly fulfilling preps, & maintain a positive mindset post-show regardless of circumstance, is because I have the tools & knowledge in psychology & personal development to do so
I want to share them with other driven competitors so I created an On-Demand Mindset Coaching platform where you can get INSTANT access to mentorship & support at your fingertips to shutdown anything that isn’t serving your highest self
Click HERE to learn more & join for instant access at only $9.99/month 😍