I am looking for 10 bikini competitors who are currently in or starting their off-season and looking to feel comfortable in their body, around food, and with their new goals to be a part of my upcoming, 8-Week Post-Show Personal Development Program.
This is for the women who struggle with some or all of the following;
* An unhealthy relationship with food (binging, overeating, over-restricting, avoidance, punishment, guilt, not knowing how to find a balance, etc.)
* Body image (seeing their body differently than it really is—i.e. like a balloon)
* Feeling confident in your skin as you begin building muscle and getting your health back even when that means more fat begins to come back.
* Setting new goals and creating a new identity now that you are no longer on prep.
* Listening to Your Body and Trusting the Process Required in this Season of Growth
This is for you if you would like to connect with other like-minded individuals, develop friendships with other competitors, have a group to lean on and support, and be part of something that does not exist in the competition world yet but is so badly needed.
I am launching this program to truly help competitors in a time which many feel most helpless, alone, and like they are failing.
The post-show blues have hit me many times but with my background in personal development, mindset, self-love, behavior change, well-being, and now even more Psychology, I thought it was time to teach other competitors the tools, strategies, and processes I use to help me make peace with myself, food, and my body in a time where we are most sensitive, vulnerable, and lost.
I have climbed my way out of the hole countless times and I am ready to help 10 competitors do the same.
If you would like to be a part of the first-callouts round Send me an Email with the subject 'post show program' and I will send you the details.
We start on Monday, November 5th but will be connecting in the Private Group and you will be receiving some fun bonuses from me before we start so the earlier you jump on this the better!
Not for you but know someone who could benefit? Have a friend you want to do this with? Tag them below and Share the Love <3
POST-SHOW BLOG SERIES RECAP
I really hope you found the 5 day blog series about addressing post show struggles helpful.
Can you do me a favor and share some of your biggest takeaways from the posts this week? I would LOVE to hear them (Haven’t seen them all? They are all labeled on my IG feed if you go there or on my blog—link in bio).
Talking about things like body image, binging/poor food relationships, how our self-love impacts others, finding balance, creating a new identity, and setting new intentions is only a fraction of what happens after a competition but I also know it’s a HUGE thing for most competitors.
I was inspired to begin the series because I’ve been through a few off seasons now and have been able to develop strategies from my background in personal development, self-love, mindset, behavior change, and well-being coaching to overcome these battles and I wanted to share some of my tricks with you all.
I’m actually really excited to announce some BIG news tomorrow that will be perfect for competitors so the fun isn’t stopping here...I’ll be announcing it around noon pacific time tomorrow so stay tuned or put your post notifications ON!
Never lean enough, never muscular enough. There’s always a new standard & when you get off stage, you’re already seeing what needs improvement.
A few days after your show & your body looks different; Maybe like a balloon was blown up in your stomach? Months of work vanishing before your eyes. You begin doubting yourself.
Every time you look in the mirror your limiting beliefs repeat that you look fat, have no more lines, & definitely don’t look like you train as hard as you do/eat as well as you do; wtf happened? & Everyone around us thinks we are crazy...
Our body image can be verrry skewed after a show. We still aren’t our healthiest & yet we feel like we’ve over done it already. Or we become so used to our lean look that the moment a line or vein disappears it’s like we let ourselves go.
Eventhough we consciously know we need to get out of the deficit to make serious gains/changes to our body for next season. Squeezing the small amount of fat, questioning everything you’re doing, picking yourself apart, & restricting yourself again won’t help you achieve your Long term goals.
You’re not mentally healthy if you look in the mirror & see a skewed reflection. So, when you stand there feeling sad/disgusted w/ your body you’re reinforcing the deception. But how do we heal our body image? We have to become objective & see our body for what it really is.
Remember, you’re an athlete, a BUILDER of the body, you must be able to see yourself as a canvas & carry positive emotion into the creative process. You’re an artist. You may see your body like abstract when you look in the mirror but the more aware you are the more apparent it is that you are healthier, stronger, more free, & functioning.
You remember that your body loves you & cares for you on autopilot. The more you provide for her the more she shows up for you. We must evaluate our beliefs about our body. In prep, we focus so much on getting tighter/leaner.
When we transition to off season we MUST focus on new wins like growth, health, nutrition, efficiency, protection.
What would it mean for you if you could stand in front of the mirror, accept what you see for what it is, & still trust the process of growth?
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Everyone talks about the importance of “finding balance” after a show but what does this even mean? For many people, there is no desire, from the body, to eat things outside of the norm like cookies, chips, or even a burger. Sometimes we really do wanna stick to our bro diet not for the way it makes us look but how it makes us FEEL!
Just because your competition season has come to a close, doesn’t mean you haaavveeeeee to start eating all the processed or new foods in sight. Of course, if you actually want them and it’s not for filling some sort of emotional void or curing the ‘restriction’ you felt, then HAVE it and ENJOY it. The problem I’m referring to is this stigma that now that the shows are over, ‘you should eat more normal’. Your normal is likely VERY different than the friend of yours who doesn’t compete.
Personally, I LOVE the taste of sweets and savories but my body HATES me for eating it in excess. I recall sometimes feeling like I “had to order something fun” because I didn’t want to be asked why I was ordering the chicken breast meal instead of the nachos. And then I’d be so sad with myself because not only did my body tell me she did not want the nachos but I IGNORED her needs because I felt like I ‘had’ to.
It’s easy to fall into this trap but the best thing we can do is define balance for ourselves. To me, it means different types of cardio (lots more hiking), trying new exercises just because I feel like it, spending more time traveling, and oh yeah we were talking about food...listening to my body, staying on point with my meal plan (I actually love eating the same thing every day but if you don’t, then at least find a structure that works for you and keeps you in alignment with your goals), and I take bites of things when I want them.
Yesterday I wanted a cupcake, I bought some for everyone and I tried a piece of each. I don’t feel the need to binge on food because I see the quality being more important than the quantity. If I find myself feeling guilty for any reason other than knowing my body didn’t want it and having it anyways, then I do the internal work revolving where those issues stem from rather than hating myself for eating the food; though I’ve definitely been there.
The point is, we need to remove the pressure to be ‘balanced’ based on others definition and begin defining ALL of life, on our own terms. After a show we must; set new intentions, create new goals, and develop different perspectives. What do YOU want? How do YOU want to feel? What does YOUR body want/need?! Maybe you start eating more for your gut health, joints, skin, brain, sex, hair, or enjoyment.
Maybe you choose to eat 90% on plan and then give flexibility. Maybe you say eff it to alllll the numbers and do what feels good for you for awhile. Maybe you try fasting, eating way more, doing a ton less cardio, or going out with your loved ones and practicing tuning into what you really want.
BEING FLEXIBLE = MORE LONG TERM BENEFITS MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY.
So tune in, define your ‘flexible’ and your ‘balance’. Eat for fuel, muscle building, and FUNCTION. It’s not always about eating to achieve a shape in the here and now...especially when you’re in improvement season; trust the process, take mental check ins, and be comfortable with honoring your own needs
When our world evolves, we have to evolve with it.
With an abundance of food, we must be mindful of our nutrition.
With an abundance of transportation, we must choose to move our bodies everyday.
With an abundance of money, we must commit to improving our service/products.
With an abundance of industrialization, we must protect nature.
With an abundance of medicine, we must remember how to listen to our body.
With an abundance of progression, we have no choice but to also progress.
If we do not adapt, then we suffer.
Even if it appears that our life is becoming easier, we have to be aware of what we were built for.
We have come so far as a species. Our body, our brain, our whole being was built for the worst possible conditions.
You don’t have to withstand the worst but take responsibility for the vessel that’s allowing you to experience the best.
Want to find ways you can become your best self as our world grows and changes? I am giving away 10 free copies of my # 1 Best Selling book, Believe your Way to Badass, All you Have to do is Click HERE, fill out the form, and submit then take action from there.
YOU AREN’T THE SAME PERSON ON PREP AS YOU ARE IN YOUR IMPROVEMENT SEASON!
THE BIGGEST thing I’ve learned that separates a SUCCESSFUL improvement season from a rebound season is INTENTION. I’ve done 6 shows & about 5 FULL ‘off’ seasons, some of which I fell flat on my face w/, some where I frikkin killed it w/ building, feeling amazing about myself, & being healthy! Here’s the deal, wanting to fit in a box, follow a plan perfectly, & act like you did on prep bc that’s what you know & have been doing for months, JUST DOESN’T MAKE SENSE!
On prep, there’s an end date, we can see our body chiseling & we continuously envision revealing our build, we’re REQUIRED to be 110%, otherwise it isn’t worth it. But, when we’re in our improvement season, we look at things differently & our life goals change. If we act like we do on prep, growth becomes limited.
If you’re always restricting yourself, trying to stay as lean as possible, & therefore RARELY increasing your food, decreasing your cardio, lowering your stress levels or chasing other goals, how can you develop the muscle, metabolism, & MINDSET required to rock your next show/ take it to the next level?
For Example, Food; we have it, it’s there for us to enjoy, but then we think, “I can’t have too much bc then I’ll blow up, or I can’t increase my calories bc then I’ll be dying next prep if I gain, or I have to do more cardio bc I ate a little extra today.” We know we want/need to eat more food to grow & build & we crave more freedom.
But then we get uncomfortable w/ what’s required for the growth we know we need to improve; Questioning ourselves the moment we don’t look as lean as we did on stage, in peak week or when we see other competitors online only 3lbs up from stage weight, making you think that the 10 pounds you gained means you need to do another cut & ‘start over’ so you can ‘be competitive’. But, your story, goals, journey, body, needs, & struggles AREN’T THEIRS!
That’s why INTENTION IS EVERYTHING, set a new one; WHAT IS MY INTENTION FOR THIS IMPROVEMENT SEASON FOR MY PHYSIQUE, MIND, & PERSONAL LIFE TO FLOURISH WHILE MEETING MY NEW GOALS DURING THIS TIME OF MY LIFE?
Stay Tuned, Tomorrow we will discuss finding YOUR balance
WE NEED TO TALK...HOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF, FOOD, YOUR BODY, AND EXERCISE WILL REFLECT IN OTHER AREAS OF YOUR LIFE; POST SHOW BLOG SERIES #2
WE NEED TO TALK…
The relationship you have with yourself can & will show up in your other relationships…
If you cannot listen to, honor, love, and trust yourself, then others learn that this is the standard you set for how you see you are worthy of being treated.
Coming off the stage is a sensitive time as we begin to reevaluate our goals, plan for the next season, ease into building more muscle, and begin facing a new body in the mirror every day.
But have you ever noticed that your anxieties begin to show up in other parts of your life?
Like when you go out to eat with friends, family, or your love and can’t stop justifying/explaining every decision you make as to why you order what you do, when in reality, they never cared what you ordered, you are the only one judging yourself but now they do not know what to do around you because you are in your own world of panic and fear.
Or like when you go to the gym and someone makes a comment about how you are ‘getting bigger’ or ‘gaining weight’ and you take it so personally that it ruins your day and you can’t be the happy go-lucky person you normally are? When in reality, that person just doesn’t understand the sport or you and you are the one uncomfortable with ‘gains’ because it requires some fat too.
Or like when you don’t feel as sexy in your skin because you don’t have as many lines showing or as flat of a stomach as before, so you reject the possibility of sharing intimacy with your lover even though they miss you and you wish you could.
DO YOU SEE WHAT IS HAPPENING?
The chatter in your mind, the doubts, fears, and self-consciousness that stems as a result of your relationship with yourself, your needs, your actions, and your body all end up manifesting in your daily life and relationships.
Because, our energy is constantly sending out vibrational frequencies that repel and attract energies that it does not align with. If you are vibrating at a low frequency, guess what that means, you are going to keep attracting low frequency thoughts, people, things, and results versus if you were staying in a high vibe state and taking nothing less than the best into your own field!
What frequency are your thoughts and actions about your body, food, and exercise vibrating at and how is this impacting the rest of your life?
Stay tuned, tomorrow I will be discussing the dangers of being perfect and how being flexible creates more success in the long haul.
WHAT IF EDISON GAVE UP ON THE LIGHT BULB?!
Consider yourself a success from the moment you have an idea.
When I first learned what business / working was, I knew I wanted to work for myself doing what I love and nothing less, I always pursued these opportunities and only these, everything else I rejected considering.
Whether it was running the lemonade stand so I could have fun making cookies or playing with my sister and be paid to do it or organizing homes because I loved witnessing art transformations, or now competing, running my own business, publishing, and performing.
When I was a kid I knew I wanted to be a public speaker so I always found ways to get in front of crowds and audiences, and now, I still do it!
When I was a teenager I knew I wanted to be the best athlete I could be, put in the most court time, and kill the conditioning to outplay any of my competition, so I always went to practice early, stayed late, and went to the gym for more.
When I was in high school I knew I wanted to feel better in my own skin, so I committed to trying different things, working out from home, exercising, eating more mindfully, and choosing to put my goals above what others thought of me even if it meant eating chicken out of a bag in class, lugging around a gallon jug, or munching on chicken and sweet potatoes before the big game while everyone else had pasta and cookies.
I could tell you so many stories about moments or times in my life where I had a thought and knew it would be my reality.
The crazy thing is that so many of us want to achieve things or become something better for ourselves and yet, instead of thinking 'CONSIDER IT DONE' we think 'OMG THIS IS A GREAT IDEA BUTTTT.....*Insert limiting beliefs, doubts, and excuses*'
Real quick, think of all the times you have accomplished something you set out to achieve. Write it down on paper and hang this up on something you look at every day
Use that as your daily reminder that you are INCREDIBLE at making things happen and you CAN do this even if you think it is hard, daunting, or you have failed before.
YOU WILL ONLY FAIL IF YOU CONTINUE TO BELIEVE, ACT, AND CHOOSE TO.
The ones who get to the top of their game are the ones willing to play it even though they have been reminded that when you play games, many people lose, and when you place bets (in this case on yourself), you could wind up with less than you started, and when you swim in the ocean, you might hit rock bottom.
BE THE PERSON WHO;
PLAYS THE GAME
BETS ON HERSELF
SWIMS IN THE OCEAN
Reject any and all things, people, and beliefs that suggest that you are anything less than capable, worthy and deserving.
I have a very specific process I use to help me manifest even the 'craziest' desires and dreams I have.
It's the process that has helped me become a Nationally Qualified Bikini Competitor, Move through Depression & Anxiety, Set Boundaries with People, Write a Best Selling Book, Launch a Podcast, Speak in front of rooms with hundreds of people, Feel incredible about myself, and Root EVERYTHING in my life in LOVE...
Do you want to know the process?
I have put it all in one place just for you...
All you have to do is click HERE and take action from there.
I am not giving full details on the process in this post because I only want people who really want to take action in their life to change their circumstances and make their dreams reality.
What if you could enjoy your food without judging yourself for eating it?
I know how you feel, after a show, you can finally indulge & celebrate the end of another incredible prep. You begin tasting all the delicious foods you have said ‘no’ to for months. With all the restriction it feels so good to FINALLY remember what donuts taste like!
But then, you promise to get back on your reverse diet by Monday, & when the week rolls around you realize how many yummy options you have been ‘missing out’ on, saying no to, & avoiding. Now you don’t ‘have to’ & find yourself overeating/indulging, eating more cake, participating in the work bagel breakfast, or going out on a date with your besties/bf/husband, finally!
You mindlessly sneak into the kitchen, snacking on the goodies you saved for after your show, eating so quickly, hiding from others, & justifying it all in your head; promising to ‘do extra cardio’, ‘skip my next 5 meals that have a carb or fat in them’, ‘hit my macros’, etc. But, it doesn’t stop, even going back to a ‘restriction’ mindset won’t help like it does on prep.
Suddenly, there’s no more calendar date to ‘be ready’ for but you know you want to bring your best next season which means you need to build muscle, get healthy, & change your programming slowly. You feel so guilty for all those late night snacks, binge sessions, & eating yourself sick wondering ‘How did this happen?’…You feel like you will never be the best athlete, there’s no way you will become a pro in this sport, & you basically are the worst bikini competitor that ever lived & everyone on social media is perfect but you just plain suck! You see some people eat the burgers, fries, chocolate, & chips without seeming to gain even the slightest amount of fat, or feeling guilty at all.
You wish you could do that too, eat without feeling guilty, eat with peace of mind, eat & not feel like you have to punish yourself for it…well, YOU CAN! One of the BIGGEST keys to not feeling guilty after eating (there are many) is rewriting your story about food.
What do you need to believe about food in order to have a healthier relationship with it?
What new intentions can you set to feel better about eating, enjoying food, or having the chocolate?
I encourage you to dive into these questions & LMK what comes up…Stay tuned, tomorrow I’ll be talking about how your relationship w/ food is all a reflection of your relationship w/ yourself, others, & the world. P.S. I have something really cool planned at the end of the week so make sure you check my page each day or turn the post notifications on so you don’t miss this whole post-bikini competition blog series.
Lots of love!
Food Freedom Maker, Self-Love Coach, and Mindset Mentor
Self-Love Makes Everything Easier
When you love yourself you find that you begin to naturally;
Honor your body by fueling and moving it to support your life, goals, & soul having a human experience.
Why does self-love make this easier? Because you know you are worthy, capable, & deserving of living the lifestyle you love in a body that supports your mission as a soul.
Self-love is the cure, everything else is just a byproduct. Unless you have your self-love game turned all the way up and you are making a daily effort to connect with your body, your deepest missions, and your purposes throughout life...then you’re missing out on the healing power that is literally already within you.
I have created a self-love exercise for my clients that I am going to give to those of you who want it And message me saying “self-love body exercise”. This is a step by step process I have used and my clients use to get back into a state of love, gratitude, and connection to themselves.
As a result? They take more care of themselves without needed “will-power” or “force” and the people around them experience a higher version of them which means everyone wins.
Just Shoot me a message if you’d like access☺️🙌🏻.
Keep in mind, this is normally client exclusive but I’m offering it to you all right now because It’s been so transformative for not only my clients but me as well💪🏻😍
|Celeste Rains-Turk; Celestial_Fit International and Building More than Just a Body||