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I write a new blog almost daily! Feel free to comment, share, and connect with me! I love hearing from my readers!
.If it even crosses your mind that you want to or should improve in an area of your life, it means that a part of you is waking up
Honor that version of yourself and step it up!
As that higher version of yourself is awakening you’ll be faced with many challenges.
You’ll question if it’s really for you, if you’re actually capable, and if it will last at all
But when you can see those challenges as a test you’ll be more likely to face them with ease
Afterall, It is testing you to see how serious you are about becoming a better version of yourself
That’s when it’s even more important to believe that NO MATTER WHAT, you are ALL IN
There will be times when the old version of you wants to come out and try to pull you back
Love that version of yourself because she showed you there’s more for you
But then remember that you are constantly evolving and it is safe to let her go
Those old stories, behaviors, and thoughts only come up as a result of fear
And when we are scared our brain tells us “GO BACK, WRONG WAY, it’s not safe here!”
But we know, sooo deeply, that this is the change that’s necessary to bring us even closer to the life we desire
It doesn’t mean you have to change everything all at once
But before you choose to do something ask yourself;
“is this in alignment with the next level version of me?”
“what would the best version of me do right now?”
You’ll know to Only move forward if the answer is YES! And You’ll have the next best step!
Whether that’s becoming a pro athlete, letting go of people, going to an event, quitting a job, writing a book, starting a business, or literally just becoming a person who makes their bed everyday and never leaves a laundry basket full for more than 2 days...
This all applies
So, what’s the next level version of you doing right now?
While you’re here, the pre-sale tickets for my next live event (August 28th 2021 with a VIP extended experience available the 29th) are available for purchase! The prices will be raised next month if spots are still available
You can buy now at www.buildmorethanjustabody.com or DM me to reserve your spot @celestial_fit
I AM SO EXCITED!!
From the beginning to now, this has been the best decision of my life. Thank you for making it so!
Happy 3rd year anniversary to my podcast, Confessions of a Bikini Pro! I started the podcast on May 9, 2018 and it has been a beautiful journey of connection, heart, discipline, and commitment to the mission ever since.
Wouldn’t be where it is without the incredible athletes I’ve had the pleasure of interviewing who have come on with open hearts and to the amazing listeners for not just tuning in but also for sharing with teammates and socials and encouraging me with kind words, messages, story tags, and reviews
I remember one not so great review said I say awesome too much which is funny because it’s true and I’ve noticed myself say it and when hosting I start to realize when I am repeating a word and it bugs me but hey, I'm growing!
And side note, I’m literally in “awe” most of the time and there’s only so many ways to express that🤣😛
It just Means the world to me that I am still running this podcast 3 years later with episodes every week!! 🎉🎈
I worked relentlessly to make this podcast happen and I remember my first guest, Tamara Haddad, really made me see how much potential the show could have because she kicked off the pod by being so open and real with us and I couldn’t hardly believe she said yes to coming on and being the first guest before it was launched!
Along with Marie Acosta, Riley Worth, Michelle Hurst, and Kate Abate if it wasn’t for you 5 women all believing and saying yes to the vision without hesitation, I may not have as confidently pursued the dream, thank you for making it possible💗💗💗💗
While the intention behind encouraging someone to take a macro counting approach to their diet or lifestyle is normally with GREAT intentions,
it’s not enough to heal someone’s relationship with food which has likely been harmed by constant reinforcement of the good v bad food mentality, connection to body image and self-worth, perpetuation of what’s deemed necessary for success,
and even beyond that you could be looking at past experiences, stress, inability to cope, resistance to letting go of behaviors that while sabotaging also serve them in some way, and of course the overwhelm that can come from shifting from following a meal plan to suddenly having to figure out what to eat to meet xyz requirements
But sure, slap a bandage on it
I’m not here to shit on macro counting
It’s helped me quite a bit in my own journey with food as it allowed me to normalize so many foods I once demonized which IS A MAJOR BENEFIT and I won’t deny that
But what if I told you that I’ve worked with more macro tracking clients in my food relationship program than meal plan followers?
Not to say meal plan followers don’t have their issues...that’s for another day
But obsessive fixation on numbers, food, perfection... no matter how you slice it, can present issues
Benefits of macro counting are abundant
Benefits of meal plans are abundant
Benefits of combined approaches and intuitive eating and mindful eating...abundant
Reasons for unhealthy relationships with food and body outside of food itself...abundant
It’s not fair to say macros “should” solve someone’s relationship with food because then when it doesn’t for them, they’ll only feel more defeated and hopeless
Trust me, I wish it was THAT easy
I’d like to be out of my job due to macros or meal plans or intuition
But for some reason, I’m not👀
Want to work with me?
Start with my free food relationship program at: www.celestial.fit/foodseries
Or hop straight in and learn about my food relationship healing & discovery coaching program: www.celestial.fit/foodfreedom
If I can help you, I’ll let you know. If I can’t, I’ll point you in the direction of someone who may be a better fit
We want sustainable change which is why I take an intensive approach.
I look at change as something that can happen in any period of time and at any pace.
It is highly dependent on the individual, their unique situation, and their experiences, beliefs, and commitment.
While you may not think the change you seek is possible, waiting can make it harder.
In this case, Jessica put off joining my program until she had had enough and realized things weren’t going to change on their own despite her best efforts.
Like all things, having a mentor can keep you from reinventing the wheel or trying to figure it all out on your own.
Similar to how you might hire a prep or posing coach or purchase a bikini from a suit maker.
The path of least resistance, in the case of your mental game, can sometimes be that which you feel the most resistant to.
But asking for help is a huge first step and sends the signal to yourself that you’re not just wanting change but you’re ready to commit to it.
It’s time to #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY and make peace with food, embrace what you see in the mirror in every season, and create a strong yet sustainable focus on your goals.
Not sure if I can help you? Checkout my program page www.celestial.for/foodfreedom or inquire with me directly for more info!
Body checking is such an interesting thing for competitors
We know we must focus on what needs to improve for the stage, and this behavior is consistently reinforced
Body checking is not just looking in the mirror and evaluating your body, it’s also compulsive weighing and measuring of your body, and feeling and touching your body parts (like checking how a muscle or bone feels or how far you can wrap one body part around another)
While body checking can be seen as highly productive in the bodybuilding world, it’s likely due to the fact that bodybuilding is a sport where our physiques are being judged
This is comparable to criteria related to social physique anxiety whereby a person is worried about their body being judged by others
You may not be actively “worrying” about it in the same way, and rather pursuing your best physique which is awesome
I find it sometimes difficult as a helping professional when the lines can be blurred between productive behavior for the sport and unproductive behavior that is negative to long term mental health
Considering researchers have found, repeatedly, that body checking —whether positive or critical, has led to decreased body satisfaction
This means, even if you’re hyping yourself up, over time your body satisfaction could go down :(
So how do we work around this?
I like to apply the principles of operant conditioning
To avoid reinforcing or associating the scale, measurements, or shape with self-affect we need to separate them
This could look like celebrating your efforts, not the measurable result
Example: a person who checks the scale every day, looking for it to go down or stay the same, will only celebrate when that result happens and then they will use this method of weighing in as protection against their anxiety or fear of the weight increasing which could mean worse judgment or negative progress in their mind. Then weighing in becomes compulsive, happening multiple times a day, to control their behaviors
If we can remove the need for the scale to affirm or deny effort and instead focus on the effort itself, we may mitigate developing a detrimentally strong attachment to the scale
As a bodybuilder, it’s nearly impossible not to care about measurable data
But how you care and measure that data matters and can make the difference in your behaviors for improvement in every season over time
I encourage you to consider celebrating your amazing shoulder workout and effort before checking the mirror for validation of how hard you pushed
It’s “did I execute?” Rather than “do I look like I executed?”
When you ask if you look like you did, you could enter dangerous behavior territory like over manipulation of food or energy output
But when you focus on execution alone, you may find your self-affect increase and the reliance on an external display or measurement to decrease
I also believe trusting in the time and enjoying the process without rushing or trying to speed it up will help long term as you won’t have as much pressure to meet a standard or criteria on you because you’ll be detached from “exactly when”
Stay focused on your physique goals, judging criteria, and feedback, but protect yourself from hyper fixation on measurements, feels, or looks by celebrating your execution before the result
Want more insight into specific strategies I use with my clients and members for reducing body checking? Email me email@example.com saying “body checking” and I’ll send you something you can try.
I was on the phone with a client the other day and she said something I think we can all learn from...
She told me that she decided to join my program toward the end of her prep because she was developing a negative pattern with food (hoarding macros for the end of the night and starving throughout the day, day dreaming about food, then worrying about going off her macros and feeling disappointed in herself) and felt that if she didn’t get ahead of it now she just kept seeing a huge disaster post show
Respect to her for this.
It takes courage to recognize a potential sabotage and do something about it.
Especially when it is coming from within you.
It feels sometimes like we have to defend or justify ourselves, even at our worst, to uphold this ideal standard we wish to live by.
But in doing so we then stunt our growth and produce the very sabotage we were so afraid of.
The post-show experiences I had that were my worst were the ones where I had gone on autopilot on prep or justified behaviors I knew were not healthy for my mind long term even if they didn’t derail my prep (like eating all my meals distracted or quickly, taking on the “have to” mentality, day dreaming about other foods...).
What I’ve found in my personal journey and in helping 100s of other women is that if bodybuilding is truly going to be something you commit to, like any other sport, you have to capitalize on strengths to support your weakness.
And stop apologizing to yourself or others for identifying a weakness.
If you want to get better, you can’t be delusional and detached from reality to protect yourself.
You’re not going to succeed as a snowflake so step up and treat yourself like iron; strong but malleable.
Being unafraid of what you may find in the dark is ultimately going to be what allows you to succeed (whatever that means for you).
You can go through the motions all prep or all improvement season, waiting until it’s a “better time” to address the problem.
Or you can live in congruency and accept that if you believe your behaviors, habits, and commitments matter for getting better then they can also contribute to your downfall.
My client has been proactive, she no longer hoards her macros, worries about post-show binging, or questions her choices. She has found a rhythm that will serve her this peak week and next week.
She didn’t want to do what she was doing anymore because even if it was “working” she knew it would be short lived or she would be constantly consumed with anxiety.
It’s up to you to say “I deserve better” and begin making those improvements.
If you’re committed to the mental game but need that next level support and guidance in your relationship with food, your body, and your goals, then I invite you to work with me 1:1. You can apply for my food relationship program or email me for my other mindset mentorship options🙌🏻
HAVE YOU HEARD?!
I have joined @theshoefairy_#pinkboxsquad and we are kicking off this collaboration with mindset videos every Monday in May
#mindsetmonday goin to a whole otha level
Perfect timing too with May being #mentalhealthawarenessmonth so naturally we gotta look out for our competitor friends.
I am super grateful for the opportunity to collab with a top company in the industry like this who prioritizes their customerâs comfort and experience as a competitor
The first video of the series is officially LIVE on their IGTV and I would love to hear which of the 3 tips you plan to apply?
I had so much fun recording these and hope you find value in them.
It is super exciting for me to know that the mission to help competitors #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY is expanding and reaching more athletes!
To celebrate and support the production of Confessions of a Bikini Pro and to of courses support me as an athlete, you can also use my code âcelesteâ at checkout on shoefairyofficial.com which I have linked in the discounts section of my bio link @celestial_fit
Thank you all for your support! It has been so fun to grow together !
Celebrate your body with movement.
Appreciate your body with rest.
Support your body with comfort.
Encourage your body with kindness.
Engage your body with mindfulness.
Sustain your body with nourishment.
I have come to notice a major difference between winners and losers, the greats and the average, the fulfilled and the unfulfilled...it's knowing the fine line between perfectionism and execution for excellence.
You can show up for your craft every day trying to be so perfect that you avoid the risks that can support you in upleveling.
Perfectionism is not just some buzz word, it is synonymous with the cognitive distortion called 'All or Nothing' whereby grey area does not exist.
You may be thinking about the incredible people who have appeared to be perfect on their journey to excellence, maybe athletes you think have never slipped up or business owners you think have always made the best decisions.
Truthfully though, your potential cannot be met if you are unable to make clear decisions, take a leap of faith, try new things, address obstacles, and in reality take responsibility for yourself and your life.
The problem is not that YOU are a perfectionist. The problem is that YOU have chosen to subscribe to the fallacy that perfectionism is discipline, hard work, and commitment to being the best.
But what if you asked yourself what this mentality is costing you?
Sure, it may be more beneficial to take awhile to make a decision even if it means losing your shot at an opportunity because 'at least then it will be the best choice', or maybe it feels more beneficial to play it safe with what has 'always worked'.
Now imagine a business you love or admire or use daily. Even just consider the business of groceries. If they had stopped when it was 'perfectly fine as is' they would have either been eaten alive by some bigger monster or they would have failed to provide and give more on a local and global scale.
When you strive for perfection, you impede greatness. Not because you don't want to be great but because the thought of not being great for even a moment feels unfathomably more crushing than the potential of overcoming the weight of this better than ever.
If you find yourself with the all or nothing mentality, identify how it has served you and how it is no longer serving you. Then let's begin exploring ways we can transform the distortion and tap into far greater (and more empowering) ways of pursuing greatness.
Need support? feel free to reach out to me directly.
Sent my dad off to his new home in South Carolina this morning!
Grateful to have been attached at his hip since I was born. My dad is the greatest man I’ve known.
He has taught me many of the most valuable lessons of my life. He taught me to go after what I love, always follow through, overdeliver, take risks, and be prepared to pivot (among many others).
I feel so blessed to know I’ve always had and always will have his support.
My dad has always given me unconditional time, energy, and support.
He has been a positive example for me my entire life and I look up to him!
I’m so sad to see him go but also very happy for him. I’ll miss him, our walks, hikes, weirdness, very interesting and in depth talks, and various shenanigans.
It is so hard for me to be so far from my dad and sister but I also know the closeness and communication won’t just stop and my commitment to upholding the value of love in my life will persist.
Life is going to be sooo full of adventures and this is just one for us all!