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I write a new blog almost daily! Feel free to comment, share, and connect with me! I love hearing from my readers!
We came together as strangers and left as sisters, gathering with hope in our hearts for inner transformation, knowledge and growth.
When I walked into the doors of the Bayside Conference Room to see a beautiful view of the water, boats, and warm sunshine peaking in, I knew magic was going to unfold.
Envisioning this event for years, going all in planning and promoting for it this summer, and seeing it come to life this fall was an absolute dream.
I set powerful intentions each day for my event, leading up to it I especially spent time visualizing transformations occcuring, breakthroughs ensuing, and connections forming.
As each woman walked in the doors I could feel the energy strengthen in the room; each and every person served a purpose there that I will always remember.
I was amazed by the ways that each individual held space for the others, how they listened to each other, honored one another, and supported each and everyone there.
I loved how they asked questions, spoke up about what they were going through, shared openly, and came with completely open minds.
We cried, we laughed (a lot actually), we meditated, we walked, we learned.
As much as I was the host and the leader of the workshop, this event taught me so much as well.
As we discussed self-love, body image, food relationships, and mindset related topics I could FEEL shifts happening in the room.
The energy in the room when we left it was even more beautiful than when we arrived.
I have an overwhelming feeling of joy, gratitude, and purpose welling within me not only when I reflect but as I write this.
Many of us didn't even want to leave!
I am so grateful, so happy, that people traveled near and far to come to the event. We had girls from Florida, South Carolina, and Arizona! We had people drive from different parts of California too. All to come together and BUILD MORE THAN JUST A BODY.
That my friends, is what wakes me up in the morning.
If I could express how I feel it would be in the form of art with a heart exploding colors and lights.
I have no other words to express what happened in that room other than, you really need to experience it for yourself to know.
Where should I bring the next Build More than Just a Body LIVE Event?!
I posted a poll on my story and have already received some great suggestions! Let me know where you want me to come next! :D
Thank you so much to EdgeSupps and Ingrid Romero for Giving us SO many amazing supplements, apparel, and even DVD workout videos to support my attendees in their journeys, there was absolutely NO edge supps left. They CLEANED UP! lol!
BamBody Nutrition and Stefanie Antorcha, Thank you so so much for providing us with your delicious Protein treats
Hydration Junkie for gifting us 2 transporter jugs that I was able to giveaway to two of my Attendees that LOVE them
OMG Custom Bikinis for so generously giving us TWO rental competition suits! SO Excited that two of the ladies are going to have suits for their next show
I APPRECIATE YOU ALL FOR BELIEVING IN ME, THE VISION, AND THESE WOMEN.
This event was even MORE of an experience because of all of YOU
and THANK YOU Robbie for being my rock and support system through it all. More to come on his amazingness later <3
CAN'T WAIT TO SHARE PHOTOS AND VIDEOS FROM CORY HAGEMAN WHO DOCUMENTED THE EVENT, I KNOW IT IS GOING TO BE AMAZING <3
Overcoming An Unhealthy, Reactive, Toxic Relationship with Food Without Punishment or Empty Promises
It’s not the chips that are triggering you, it’s you who is seeing the chips as a trigger
Rather than throwing all your nut butters, chocolate, candies, or even fruit away because you “can’t control yourself around it”
Challenge yourself to change the thoughts that are creating that pent up desire and urge to go crazy on them!
To say “I’ll never have xyz again” is like an automatic promise to struggle in the future
Make a more realistic commitment to YOURSELF and for your choices rather than forming negative thoughts about food or blaming it
When we have experiences with food, we take away a lesson, then that lesson impacts future decision making
Pay attention to the experiences you’re having with food and what you’re taking away from them
A healthy relationship with food is one that is conscious, not restrictive, shameful, or punishing
You can also work backwards, Pay attention to your behaviors and ask yourself, “where is this coming from, what is driving this?”
And from there you can shine light on the negative beliefs and thought patterns that don’t serve you and learn NEW lessons
If you’re struggling with your relationship with food YOU CAN GET THROUGH IT, YOU’RE NOT A LOST CAUSE, YOU CAN MAKE PEACE
Apply for my 5 Week Food Relationship Healing and Discovery Program HERE
En route to San Diego for my very first Build More Than Just a Body live event!
Feeling so full of gratitude and excitement!🤩
The event has completely sold out! (Even beyond expectations!) although it’s technically “free” I filled every seat with a reservation! Woo!
I even have workbooks for everyone and I can’t wait for them all to arrive and us to grow, connect, and transform together!
I am putting everything into this event and the some
Yesterday I got news that my venue location cancelled on me! What the heck right!? But luckily I was able to pull something together
I just put full trust in it being perfect the way it works out and the right people being in that room!
Been a tough week but I have so much love in my life, blessings, and how could I ever complain doing what I love with all of this too!?
Robbie Robbins is driving down with me and staying with me. I am so lucky to have such a positive supportive boyfriend who has literally been with me through ALL of the growth in my life
Last time we were in San Diego I was speaking in front of hundreds of people at someone else’s event
Now I am hosting my very own and I cannot wait 😭❤️
Let’s do this!
On world mental health day I’d like to announce I’m officially enrolled in Graduate School for a MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling
I AM SO EXCITED to be taking this next step in my education, knowledge, experience, and true expertise so I can continue serving my clients (current and future) at an even higher level
I kept having these persistent visions of me leading group therapy retreats, having my own eating disorder recovery center with extra emphasis on overall self-concept and body image, I kept seeing myself speaking on panels, being the go to expert in the fitness industry on this, especially for competitors, and shining light on the dark places that many sweep under the rug or keep hush hush
While I recognize the impact I am already making helping women worldwide truly transform their relationship with food, their body, and their goals
Imagine the impact I can make as I continue to develop more knowledge and skills?
The work I am passionate about doing is absolutely NOT to be taken lightly. Therefore, I’m ready to make my load a little heavier, dig deeper, and learn even more so I can continue supporting others in their journey
I am looking forward to seeing where this takes me and eventually my business and mission and overall service
What I’m doing is POWERFUL WORK but who says I can’t go after even MORE. Especially when it involves mental health, I want to be able to hit ALL the angles with my clients. No stone left unturned or up to someone else...
Love you all and appreciate the support in advance 😍🌟🌟😊
What do you think?
Do words really carry so much weight?
Is the way we speak to people really that important?
Do we need to be so mindful of the language we use?
How we say things, does that even matter?
Well of course it does!!! We are all human! And we developed language for a reason! To express ourselves!
Sometimes when someone is thinking these things themselves they don’t need someone else to come in and say it to them or remind them of it
It can worsen, create, or perpetuate an already unstable or unhealthy thinkers mind especially if they are working to mend that💜🧠
I really believe it is important to speak with intention, consideration, and love
What you say can be a reflection of what you believe so think before you speak and consider how someone else might feel
Of course, I’m definitely not perfect at this but I have come to understand better ways to communicate with people
Especially since I became more conscious of how others were speaking to me
Being aware of their situation, not making assumptions, and just genuinely caring about them goes a long way
In elementary school they used to repeat “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”
Which I think has always stuck with me!
Of course, we don’t always know how to talk to someone or we don’t think what we are saying is bad at all
Which is just a learning opportunity for you and a boundary setting opportunity for them
Which means both parties have to communicate with each other
I’m sure some competitors read this infographic and thought, “none of that has bothered me before??”
But I’m also sure there were many more competitors who thought, “OH MY GOSH THANK YOU YES SERIOUSLY”
So for them, I made this 🙂
If you’re a competitor who has dealt with this, speak up, share your thoughts with others, and be very clear with what you need
And that’s another thing IT IS OK TO ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED (I’ll save this for another day lol)
Would love to hear your thoughts!
Do you find these statement replacements more helpful and kind?
Would you prefer to hear what’s on the right side than the left?⬇️💓🙂
Just a little reminder to you, amazing soul💓🌞😊
Today is a GREAT day to focus on what makes you YOU and use that as your guide to establish a healthier self-concept!
While all of these things in this image can play a role in what we do, who we become, what we accomplish, how we feel, and the way we see ourselves...NONE of it truly defines YOU
Self-worth is such a wild concept
Most research concludes that basing self-worth on external factors is not conducive to improved mental health
It can be so difficult to disconnect from the external world and really look within
But the more time you spend with yourself, asking yourself questions, evaluating where your current programming is coming from, your core values, and choosing to focus on what makes you a unique soul in this world, you’ll find it gets easier and easier
Much of this doesn’t equate to a number and some weird statement of “I’m worth xyz $”
It’s more about cultivating a deeper sense of self that will help you in boundary setting, relationships, prioritization, communication, and overall life
It’s important to strip all of this away and ask ourselves things like what is left, how has this changed me, what is it about me that created these results, where am I really shining in life, what do I really care about without all of this, what am I doing anything for, what type of life do I desire, who do I have to become to be able to equate my worth to more than what I can tangibly experience?
Become inquisitive, become introspective, and of course... Build More than Just a Body 💜💙
Need some help with this? Contact me, let’s talk☕️🧠💜
How is it that my very first event that I’m hosting is 7 days away already?!!
I feel SO incredibly grateful, happy, and excited. I cannot contain myself😭❤️ Of course I have fears too but I’m not feeding them
I’m hyper focused on the intention of this event and making sure the attendees are left truly feeling like they have some of the best tools to Build More than Just a Body
I am so ready to greet the amazing competitors who are coming to learn about the personal development & psychology behind creating the most fulfilling & empowering improvement seasons and preps
We’ve got 5 hours of deep inner work, learning, growing, and most importantly IMPLEMENTATION
Anyone who knows me knows I’ve got lots of fun practices up my sleeves and you bet I’ll be sharing many at this event
I sometimes get caught up in exactly HOW things will go and this event has already taught me to detach from the outcomes and go with the flow
Anyone who knows me also knows I am a MASSIVE planner, down to a T & nothing less
But of course, this is a live event & what’s most important is connections, transformations, and the overall experience
I have decided that to celebrate being sold out, I’m going to sell 2 more seats
It sounds silly maybe but I’d rather know that not a single seat is wasted and what if someone doesn’t show up?! That’s taking away from someone else who wanted to be there
So I’m opening up 2 more seats, maybe you’re the reason for this? Maybe one of those seats is meant for you?
If you want to dig into self love, body image, food relationships, mindset & identity work, & all things making peace with food, your body, & your goals then send me a message
The event is on October 12th from 9am-2pm in San Diego
It is for female competitors or women who have an interest in competing & see how important 🧠 work is
If that’s you, Contact me to reserve your seat
The seat is $35 to reserve but I’ll be giving this money back to you at the event (for accountability purposes)
& to everyone coming, I CANNOT WAIT TO MEET YOU!!!😊
Research suggests that if we do not believe, or if we have limited belief, in our ability to do something, even if we know what to do, we will not be as effective in doing it
So if you know how to do something but you don’t believe in your ability to do it, you won’t be as successful as if you did believe
In other words, it’s not enough to just ‘do the do’
To fully benefit, you must believe you are capable and flex that #selfefficacy muscle
To clarify, this is not about ‘believing in yourself’ this is about ‘believing in your abilities’
Believing in yourself is powerful BUT not as powerful as believing in yourself, having the process, and believing you can implement it successfully
Want to start believing in your abilities?
Want to know what to do to get to your next best self?
Want to believe that it is not only possible for you but it is literally there for you to take right now?
When I committed to my personal development, I was able to see the action steps needed to step into my next level identity so much more clearly
The more I loved myself, the more my journey was fueled by love
And through all of this I became aware of some core principles for moving forward in any journey...Want to know what they are?
Order your own copy of my #1 Best Selling Book, ‘Believe your way to Badass, The interactive guide to redefining your beliefs, developing your self-love, and manifesting your way to your best, most badass self’ on Amazon today!
To find out 😊
Can’t wait to hear how this book helps you transform your life like hundreds of other readers / implementers globally
I love that people of all ages are diving in and applying the tools and exact step by step strategies I provide into their life every day
It has even been featured on various sites as a top recommendation😭❤️
Have a question? Shoot me a message!
🔥P.S. if you order, send me a screenshot of your receipt, I got something else you might like 😉
Sometimes we convince ourselves that we “just have to experience it ourselves” in order to really learn or grow or understand what we are going through
But there is so much power in being proactive, reaching out for help, and choosing to get ahead of our problems
Working with a mentor isn’t about them giving you all the answers anyways
The best mentors guide you to find the best solutions so you truly feel empowered
The best mentors know that if they handed you every answer, there’d be no true learning & therefore no true growth or healing afterall
It’s a fine balancing act between giving and guiding
They help you through what’s most challenging, pick up on things you might be hiding from our unaware of, and provide resources to grow through the struggles you’re facing or to create the growth you desire
Well, at least that’s all part of what I do 😉
Whether you’re dealing with the post-show blues, prep feels, never ending mental back & forths, or really just want to go even deeper into your personal development, mindset, & self-love journey
Know that it can be just as, if not more, productive to reach out for help along the way
If you struggled to perform an exercise in the gym, you’d seek help. Your mental struggles should not be an exception to this behavior
You actually don’t have to go at it alone❤️
I created some free resources to lend a helping hand to those who might be struggling and need some support along the way
Get Access to the free 7 day post-show blues coaching series
Download the free competitor card deck
My free Build More than Just a Body Bikini Mastermind LIVE event on October 12th in San Diego from 9am-2pm has room for one more person, click here to reserve it!
If you’re looking for more personalized support don’t hesitate to reach out, afterall, that’s what this post is all about. Knowing it is okay to ask for support❤️🧠😊 Send me a message on social media or click here to learn more.
Eating is Not Just About Willpower, Self-Control, and Discipline; Why we Need to STOP Thinking this Way
Eating isn’t always about how much self-discipline or control you do or don’t have
Sometimes it’s about taking steps to mend your relationship with all food and remove the rules and labels
Sometimes it’s about enjoying it because you want it and truly know that one thing isn’t going to ruin your progress or life
Sometimes it’s about learning how to make more conscious choices for your body
I notice a lot of people in the bodybuilding community want to pass off their decisions to how much ‘self-discipline, willpower and control’ they have
I can’t help but think this is an ignorant approach to food and eating
Eating something off plan or outside of your macros doesn’t always have to do with willpower or discipline
I work with competitors
Women who go months without even thinking of taking a lick of food off their plan
Women with so much willpower that you couldn’t even tempt them with extra peanut butter
Women with so much self-control that they eat what’s measured and move on despite tummy growls
Only to come out of a prep and suddenly “lose all control”
You want to tell me “they (or maybe even you) just don’t have the discipline”? Lol, that’s not the problem
I mean, it can be in some cases, but with a competitor like that, it’s probably not
Fixation mindset with new found ‘freedom’ mixing with the commitment to be ‘on point’ with their reverse?
Long term deficit & restrictions?
No more ‘tangible goal’ like a show in mind?
Feeling a sense of identity loss being off prep?
Having stressors or negative patterns of their life & within themselves revealed to them now that the distraction of prep has been taken away?
YES, all of this is MUCH more likely to be the reason for these “out of character” behaviors
But lack of willpower, discipline, and self-control...ehhhh probably not
The feeling of lacking those three things is usually just because that’s how it appears on surface level and how we are conditioned to define our behaviors
“She can’t say no to food so she has no self-control”
“Stuffing your face for weeks post show is just being irresponsible and shows a lack of willpower”
“Falling off your reverse diet shows how little discipline someone has, they have no respect for their coach”
MEANWHILE the competitor struggling with this is thinking;
“Why can’t I stop thinking about food?...How come I keep eating and can’t stop myself even when I followed macros all day?...I am so ashamed that I let my coach down too...”
This is why I believe Passing off VERY serious problems as a lack of discipline is just ignorant
Not to mention some women only follow their diet to the letter because they are so filled with fear of any fat gain, are craving freedom so badly but are too afraid to give it to themselves, have no control over anything else in their life and this is there only sense of it, would rather use a diet as an excuse for unhealthy beliefs about food than actually address what’s happening beyond surface level
WE JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON IN SOMEONE’S HEAD BASED ON HOW THEY EAT
SHAMING OTHER PEOPLE FOR THEIR CHOICES WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT THEY ARE GOING THROUGH OR NEED IS PART OF THE BIGGER PROBLEM
I am NOT saying competing doesn’t require discipline because it absolute does
But I AM saying that its not the only thing that gets tested or brought to the surface in this sport
Build More than Just a Body