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I write a new blog almost daily! Feel free to comment, share, and connect with me! I love hearing from my readers!
Losing and Winning both Reveal your True Character.
When you lose, you’re tested.
When you win, you’re tested.
Regardless of the outcome the BEST champions:
🏆Take what they got and go back to the drawing board.
🏆Show respect to those they competed with.
🏆Honor and acknowledge their hard work without comparing it to others.
🏆Express gratitude to the sport, rules, judges, and competitors for the opportunity to do what they love.
🏆Go out of their way to congratulate and support other athletes on and off the stage.
An athlete doesn’t have to have a crown, a sword, or a top placing to be a true champion
They are champions for themselves.
They are champions for the sport.
They are champions for others.
“I ATE X FOOD & DRANK X AMOUNT OF WATER BEFORE THIS!!”
You might be wondering WHY you or others do this!!
Why do so many of us feel the need to justify everything?
Why do we feel the need to say why our body looks the way it does in the picture instead of just being like:
“okay ya this is me now and you don’t need to know if I just ate chicken and veg with a carbonated drink or a gallon of water and asparagus”
I was inspired to write this because I used to do this all the time and then did it recently on my story!😱
I was immediately reminded of the fact that I used to do this because I felt like I had to prove myself all the time.❌
I thought that I always had to present myself a certain way as a trainer or competitor or coach or whatever it might be!
It’s amazing how much ‘image’ can impact our actions! As though we have to share exactly WHY we are doing things.
When really, we should share because we genuinely feel it will help others, not to prove anything to ourselves or justify our actions or our body or status!
It happens all the time, not just online!
Think of all the times you have complimented or confronted someone and they come up w/ a justification for why they are the way they are rather than just taking responsibility/owning it!
I found in the past that I did this when I felt my portrayal may lead others to question my identity.
So if I said “oh this pic is after x meals and x water”
It was a protection mechanism due to fear that someone might think I look bloated or fluffier and then think I’m less of a trainer or coach.
But I was able to release a lot of these old behavior patterns of explaining myself, justifying my actions, or validating who I was/ how I was by addressing the root of where the pattern came from usually beliefs I think others will have of me (usually just my own!)
Which means, I had to adjust the beliefs I have about myself & who I am!
This is where a lot of my deeper work, healing practices, & self love comes in which I‘m excited to teach on my free online self-love & body acceptance workshop in 1 WEEK
Click the button below and register to join us😍
3:45am wake up calls don’t phase you as much when you have goals and love what you’re doing.
I took this picture before hitting fasted cardio early on one of my many prep mornings.
I never complained about the workouts, meals, or posing I needed to do. I always found a way to fit everything into my day.
When you want something bad enough, and you have the proper guidance to achieve it, you should be HAPPY to do what needs to be done.
When you aren’t truly passionate or excited about goals, you’ll find yourself complaining more.
Maybe it’s not about what you are doing, but what you should pursue instead.
If you don’t like crunching numbers, you wouldn’t pursue accounting.
If you don’t like painting, you wouldn’t become a painter.
So if you don’t like the grind of competing, you shouldn’t be a competitor.
There’s a difference between being someone who loves to workout and nourish your body properly and being a competitor.
Your life, your choices, your goals should all be aligned with you and what makes you feel most fulfilled.
If it’s not fulfilling you, it’s killing you.
Choose what makes you happy regardless of expectations, pressures, ‘shoulds’, and anything else external.
Only you know what is best for yourself, be okay with that.
Choosing what makes you happiest starts with self love! Need some support? Apply for my 1:1 Self-Love and Personal Development Coaching HERE
1 DAY POST-SHOW vs. 4 MONTHS POST-SHOW
Very happy with;
I have grown to really love my body even more this improvement season!
There’s a reason for both of these looks and everything I do/have done has been INTENTIONAL
We have to recognize our intentions and accept them
I actually love the ‘extremes’ of competing even though it’s really just an ongoing lifestyle!
But I also like where I’m at.
I can embrace both bodies because both require commitment
The competitor life is different than most.
We can’t just eat whatever we want & expect our body to look stage lean
We can’t come out of a show & eat whatever we want & not expect to gain fat.
We can’t even come out of a show & do a proper reverse & not expect to gain some fat!
The demands we place on our bodies are different than average people.
Which means a lot of average advice won’t cut it for a competitor
It’s really important to have people who GET it that you can learn from
Your closest friends and family want what’s best for you but they might not fully know what it’s like...
Eating for a specific goal day in and day out
Being meticulous with your nutrition and training
Scheduling things to the dot because there’s no way you’re risking missing a cardio session or a meal!
Slowly increasing calories or doing more cardio
Eating the same things more days out of the year than not or trackin
Eating the same things more days out of the year than not or tracking everything
Seeing your body as a result of your actions not just as a physical vehicle for your soul (even though you know it is!)
You’re not just a competitor but it plays a huge role in who you are...
It impacts your lifestyle & your daily choices
Habits begin to influence your thoughts, actions, & beliefs
Your identity can change one day to the next.
One day on stage glammed up after months of prep and the next day no show in mind looking like a Cheeto and wondering what the heck is next?!
Not everyone can understand why coming off of prep can be challenging.
But I’ve been through it & have come out of it!
So, I created a 7 day coaching series to help you through this transition...
Click HERE for access❤️💪🏻
A real fear I have had to work through this offseason is being ‘forgotten’ about.
With the health struggles I’ve been facing after my last show I really feared losing all my momentum
I fought so hard for over a year to continue being better & better, then it felt like it all came crashing down around me. (Sometimes even still!)
I really thought that if I didn’t compete again in February or within at least 6 months my dreams were going to be stolen from me and all my hard work would be lost.
This fear was making me feel even more anxious and stressed which wasn’t helping my problems!
After talking to many of the pros in my podcast, “Confessions of a Bikini Pro” I quickly learned I wasn’t the only one who has felt this way
But I also learned how irrational of a fear it really is
To overcome this, I did what I guide my clients through! I discovered where the limiting belief that was driving the fear was coming from and worked through it!!
Turns out, I thought that I could only be successful if I kept going as hard as possible with show after show. I thought my success was from my momentum not from my consistency, shape, hard work, and improvements!
Bodybuilding requires BUILDING.
Instead of seeing this extended time off as a setback, roadblock, or momentum killer...
I’m refocusing my attention on what it is giving me!
It’s providing me the opportunity to GROW so much more.
The judge’s feedback was that I have a great shape for bikini division but I need more muscle EVERYWHERE!
I’m not afraid anymore
The judges are real people who I have a lot of respect for & to not do my due diligence in building on their feedback would be disrespectful to them, the sport, and my own goals!
My coaches invest so much time and energy into me. To not take their advice to recomp my health and have consistent cycles before even thinking about competing again, would be an insult to the care they provide to me to reach my goals
I’ll come back better than ever because of this
“The comeback is always stronger than the setback”
Goal/Affirmation: improve so much that even if anyone did forget me, I’d become unforgettable💪🏻
You’ll never win if you’re uncomfortable with the idea of being at the top
You say you want to win, you have the will to win, and you even think you should win
But then when the moment comes, you fall short
If you can’t fathom the idea of being on top, taking others coveted goals and dreams, and being ranked as the best
You’re not going to be a true winner
I know many people, including myself, have turned down their greatness so others could shine
Sometimes feeling like;
I can’t be x, y, AND z because then people who are only x will feel bad
But fuck that
You wanna be the best?
Show up and make it known that you are fully aware that being the best means believing you deserve the best.
Telling someone else, “aw you should totally win, you look amazing”, isn’t going to send the vibration that you believe you are the winner (THERE IS ONLY ONE)
Shutting up because you don’t want others to feel like they have nothing to say, is not going to make you an award winning speaker
Erasing your words because you don’t want others to feel like they’re incapable of writing, is not going to make you a best-selling author
Hiding your relationship, body, money, or brain because you can’t be someone who ‘has it all’ is not going to bring more of that into your life
Taking this out of competing or basics of life, since so many of us are so emotionally attached to it, here’s what I’m saying...
Imagine if a baker walked into a baking championship and said, “oh, shit I’m the worst baker here” and then the best baker said “oh, nooo honey I’m sorry here let me help you by not pre-heating my oven”
NEITHER OF THEM WILL WIN
Because the worst one was still not prepared to be on top and the best one felt guilty for being the best despite her previous efforts that got her in the running for the top spot
WINNING COMES TO THE PEOPLE WHO RESPECT THE GAME, RESPECT THE OUTCOME, & RESPECT THEMSELVES
Don’t expect to win if you’re not even ready to step up on the podium and own it, wear the crown, or take a picture by yourself center stage
You’ll win when you’re ready, prepared, and cable of receiving the win
And even when you think you are, someone else might still end up on top, can you accept that, and congratulate them for their win?!
While also being prideful of your wins in the journey, and use it as more fuel for your fire?
Winning doesn’t just come to the people who show up every day, kill it, and then make it known by showtime that they can’t be beat
Plenty of people who have cheated on their programs, didn’t practice much, and slacked a few more times than the person who placed last have WON
Plenty of people who have given everything and more, looked in peak shape, and presented their best, have placed DEAD LAST
Winning something like a bikini competition is not always about who was the most disciplined, positive, recovered, motivated, or symmetrical
You can win every day leading up to the competition and walk away with nothing
But, is that enough for you?
Is it enough to know that you have given everything you could?
Can you mentally handle the fact that someone who told you they didn’t, or were just trying it out, or isn’t even sure they are going to compete again; WON
Despite your deep love and passion for the sport?
Is it fulfilling enough for you to just do what you love and commit to yourself day in and day out?
Does someone else’s win make you feel like a loser?
In order to be a winner, we must not only be able to recognize our wins and celebrate them as they come, but we must also be humble enough to know when we did not deserve the top spot despite our own top conditioning and commitment.
For info on my online mindset, self-love, and confidence coaching; send me a Message and we will talk about your goals to see what will be the best action plan for you!
Yesterday, I was on the phone with my mentors & I couldn’t stop myself from crying
I have such a clear vision but many hurdles to jump through and They were giving me the hard (necessary) truths
But I never give up on myself, therefore I’ll never give up on the people I’m committed to serving.
Since really focusing on the bikini competitor niche I find myself more emotional about making real changes in the industry
BEFORE girls start resenting the sport, rebounding, leaving competing forever, or feeling totally uncomfortable around food, in their body, or around others
It breaks my heart to know that many women struggle with their body image, relationship to food, or with self-acceptance
But haven’t received the full support needed to CHANGE this (not just get through it)
A reverse diet isn’t going to solve your relationship with food
A competition prep isn’t going to solve your relationship with your body
And a trophy or pro card is not going to validate you as a person if you have not yet found validation for who you are within
I’m taking a stand for competitors. I’m willing to put in my sweat equity to make a real difference.
I want competitors to know they can be 110% in competing and 110% at peace with their body, food, & themselves as a whole.
WE ARE ALL WORTHY OF TRUE INNER PEACE AND SELF-LOVE
I’m committed to doing the work to be of greatest service to the people I love to see shine, the people I feel connected to
I have invested over $34,000 of my own money into personal development
I’m worth all the time, energy, & effort it takes to reap the return as well (Never in debt)
Even though I am always going to be my main priority.
I don’t do this just to be my best me & sit around twiddling my thumbs like “ok ya I feel good”
I INVEST IN MYSELF SO I CAN BE MORE INVESTED IN YOU
What do you see as the biggest struggle that competitors have? (On or off of prep!)
I’d love to hear your thoughts as I work diligently to bring my solutions to these people I love❤️
PS This picture means so much to me as it was taken the day I truly fell in love with this sport at Musclecontest August 2017 TheFitExpo show with my Team EDGE
Sometimes competitors get so caught up in the numbers.
Number of weeks till showday, number of pounds, number of inches, number of trophies, number of grams, number of macros (you get the point)
But during the off season, we have an opportunity to learn more about our body, give ourselves more time and grace, and have purpose without a destination.
We can focus on building our weaknesses without focusing on not being good enough by x time.
We can focus on improving our health without focusing on not looking lean enough.
We can focus on our life outside of the tunnel vision of prep mode without focusing on not being ready.
I’m not an advocate for slacking! But sometimes a break is the best thing we can do for our mind and body.
In work, business, school, and especially competing we tend to get so focused on “arriving” that we can end up with a ‘less than our best’ result.
It would be crazy to never give kids a recess, pilots a co-pilot, long distance drivers a rest stop, swimmers a breath...and so on.
Resting and resetting allows for better performance.
They never stop moving in the right direction, they just recognize the value in taking a moment to breathe!
In this off season, I had no show dates in mind (and still don’t)
I just have health restoration and balance of hormones as my main goal.
And so far, so good in this goal of mine. It hasn’t been a necessarily “smooth” process but it’s been an expansive one that has opened me up to so much more in my business and life!
If you haven’t listened to my latest podcast with Jacky Gomez that came out today, we talk about some of her own struggles post show with her health after competing so many times so closely (sounds familiar!)
You can listen to “Confessions of a Bikini Pro” on any podcast streaming platform you like or HERE!
I also share some of the practices, beliefs, and shifts I made to make the off season more enjoyable and fulfilling for me while seeing my body change;
In my free 7 day post show personal development coaching series. Want access?
Click HERE 🙂
“110% All or Nothing” should never just be about following a plan
The only way you can give everything & more is when you spend just as much time on the inner work as you do the physical results
You may be the judge every day, and your check-ins with your coach may be all positive, and things might look good on the surface...
But when it’s time to step on stage, in front of the panel of judges making the decisions...
your energy, poise, peace, excitement, identity, and inner transformation is going to do the most of the talking
If you can’t get up there and show how much you have given and OWN your awesome with this undeniable energy that you gave your ALL to:
Every minute of cardio, every back ache from posing, every meal, every recovery session, every physical execution of the process...
Then your chances of winning plummet
Not only will you feel a loss within yourself because you didn’t do everything you could
But also because the judges will smell your fear, see your doubt, and be distracted by negative energy before anything else
If you really want to set yourself apart on stage...do what most won’t.
Make time to align your inner state to the physical results you desire.
Do the mindset, personal development, energy, and identity work
If you don’t know how, but want a good place to start, contact me letting me know you so this blog and I’ll hook you up with a powerful exercise I use for tapping into the energetic frequencies of my higher self and my goals
Aside from killin the physical work, These mental practices have helped me place top 3 or top 5 in every show too.
Can’t wait to see who takes it beyond surface level and works on the stage presence that starts within!
BEING ON PREP IS NOT AN EXCUSE FOR BEING AN ASSHOLE
Just because you were able to create a competition body doesn’t make your life and yourself amazing or even successful!
So many people say competing requires a TON of sacrifice. But I just don’t see it that way... hear me out
I see a lot of choices and new proper prioritization to reach goals yes.
But it’s still possible to have fun with friends & family, be kind, leave your ego or hunger outside of your personal life, go to school or go to work, and just be an overall good person.
If prepping and competing means you turn into a crazy bitch who doesn’t care about anyone accept herself and can’t be nice, have fun, or recognize when they need to chill...then you’re nothing but a person with a good body (maybe!!!)
If you’re going to prep, recognize that it doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice people and fun or good energy....
It means you have to use allll the energy you’re putting into yourself and your goals to step up and be even more present for the world around you
Competing should never take away from your life.
Competing should never make you a worse person.
Competing should not be a drag.
If it’s any of those things,
You either should not compete
You need to learn how to maintain a level head, soft heart, and peaceful soul
Regardless of any ‘sacrifices’ you need to make.
NONE of them have to be family, friends, or YOU
It can be tough sometimes, trust me I know!
But take the time to be more aware, take the time to express love and care if you can’t do/go/be somewhere, recognize the way others feel and take the time to speak truth instead of being harsh
To do any of this;
You need to love yourself above all else and love the lifestyle.
Click HERE to find and to download an 18 ways to love yourself printable!!
Or you can even up a free breakthrough strategy coaching call to chat with me for 20 minutes on a struggle you’re having with self love or mindset!
*this photo was taken a few days after one of my competitions this is not me now. I really need to schedule a photo shoot!!*