Welcome to my Blog
I write a new blog almost daily! Feel free to comment, share, and connect with me! I love hearing from my readers!
Welcome to my Blog
I write a new blog almost daily! Feel free to comment, share, and connect with me! I love hearing from my readers!
5 Deeper Reasons you are Binge Eating or Overeating + How to Understand & Overcome It! [video included]
Binging and Overeating...
This can happen to anyone and I’ve see it happen to people who never saw it coming
Unfortunately, this is all too common for #bikinicompetitors and usually begins after a season or set show is complete
But why does it happen?
It’s not always because you followed a clean eating meal plan
It’s not always because you didn’t eat x,y,z foods for months on end
It’s not always even because you have “no more willpower”
This happens as a result of the psyche
No meal plan can save you from this
I mean, some people even say “I won’t do it again! Tomorrow, no more binging, or late night snacking, or eating everything in sight”
Which in and of itself is a meal plan
A plan for your meals
Here’s the deal.
Many of the things I listed can cause that or make it worse 100% the stats will even tell you that.
The more you restrict the more you build up the desire to binge
Hellooooo making a list on your phone of all the places or treats you’re gunna eat #postshow
Something I see a lot of girls do is try to attack the problem where they can see it
Like playing whack a mole. Instead of turning off the machine they hit the mole Only when it rears it’s head
So what’s the root of this unfortunate cycle?
I made an acronym highlighting 5 key components to overeating/“binging” (not always the same thing!!!)
Beliefs: the truths we hold/live by with regard to ourselves and the world around us
Identity: how we have defined and determined ourselves to be along with the behaviors, actions, and rules that fit that mold
Naming: how we label foods, behaviors, and timelines of our life or expectations
Gaps: the pieces of ourselves or our lives that feel void or have a disconnect to where we want to be
Energy: the power we give to everything around us
Now I could leave it at:
the way we think/ things we believe about ourselves is going to impact our behaviors and our behaviors will either create a positive feeling (if it aligns with our identity and naming while usually closing the gaps) or a negative one (if it doesn’t align with our identity or naming and actually widens the gaps all of which creates guilt)
I could also share that we have reinforcement of behavior that happens with our neurotransmitters by which when we perform a natural task, like eating, a reward is provided (such as energy, comfort, happiness, life) that is motivating enough to keep doing it.
This happens with a release of dopamine when we eat
When we eat meals heavy in carbohydrates we actually even release serotonin just from ANTICIPATING the meal itself and then it spikes even more when eating (hence why we feel like la la la la this is all good while we are doing it and then like poop after)
It’s a literal high
But, I can’t walk into your brain with you and turn these natural faucets off
What I can do though, is work with you to eliminate these urges, behavior patterns, and the action provoking beliefs that trigger overeating or binges
I’m not your therapist, or a recovery specialist and am not going to claim to ‘cure’ an eating disorder
HOWEVER, it is undeniable that many of my clients have significantly transformed their relationship with food while working with me in my food freedom, post-show PTG process based programs, and mindset + self love consulting.
Many of whom have actually experienced a massive shift within the first two weeks that they find themselves capable of sustaining with great freedom and ease
Want to experience a complete shift in your relationship with food, your body, and your goals?
Don’t know where to start?
Fear that most programs won’t allow you to continue with your current coaching programs/meal plan?
I would love to invite you to work with me
My programs work in conjunction with your current meal plan and coaching. Everything provided is solely based on the inner work from your mindset, beliefs, identity, gaps, naming, and relationship to yourself and your body. I do not write meal plans for this
This is a transformation of within that will naturally allow for the physical applications of work and knowledge to emerge and support you in a beautiful way.
It’s not about putting up more barriers, it’s about taking them down and building peace of mind, greater sense of control, and ultimate freedom of mind around / about food
Want to find out how we can work together?
Send me a message now or contact me HERE or on Instagram @celestial_fit and let me know you’re looking for help and we will see if or how I can help you!
Comment below with your main takeaways and share with someone you know who could benefit from this❤️
Ohhhh boy do I miss competing!
I’ve fallen in love with every aspect of this sport. It’s a commitment day in and day out to be better than before.
When I lift weights it’s not just to show up and workout.
It’s to be conscious about every movement, every contraction, every damn lift.
When I eat food it’s not just a matter of putting a meal together.
It’s being meticulous about how much, when, and why I need it
Every time I pose it’s not just about going through the motions.
It’s seeing the angles, learning more about my body, and allowing my posing to transform as I transform as a person.
Sleep is not just about hoping to get enough rest for the next day.
It’s finding ways to capitalize on it to grow and recover
Even drinking water isn’t to be taken lightly. It’s measured, specific, and has a purpose
And the most important of all? The mindset. Every thought about my body, my food, my goals matters.
Journaling, visualizing, and stepping into my highest identity every day is KEY to making everything else MEAN something deeper than surface level
Every supplement, every check in, every thought, every meal, every workout, every rest day, every nights sleep, EVERYTHING
It all works together to create a new version of ourselves.
And if we can’t commit to growth in every area, then we are shorting ourselves.
To execute perfectly on all the physical work without consistently building ourselves up as a soul, as a human, as a mind;
It would be like having a computer without a monitor; useless...
BUILD. MORE. THAN. JUST. A. BODY❤️💪🏻🧠
👆🏻That is my mission, my purpose, my commitment, To help other people do exactly that🧠
The ‘it’ factor doesn’t always come from a physique.
Many people even argue over who should have won or placed.
But at the end of the day, one person ends up on top, only a few end up with medals/trophies, & only the best choose to keep fighting for their goals regardless of challenges
How can you make sure you set yourself apart?
Commit to the inner work the way you commit to never missing a meal or a cardio sesh.
It will bring you into alignment with the physical actions and the physical result
That’s why I’m on a mission to help bikini competitors to Build More Than Just a Body
I never placed in shows until I addressed the relationship I had with food, my body, & my goals
When I returned to competing in 2017 after 1.5 years off, a 30lb+ rebound in 3 weeks, and a ton of mental healing, my intentions were finally pure
I loved myself more, so everything came from a beautiful loving space rather than a dark space of loathe for myself / body.
The inner work is what let me go detach from the outcome...
I wasn’t doing it for a look or a placing at first
I was doing it because I really wanted to do it for me & just give myself a chance to show myself that I could compete without sacrificing having a normal relationship with myself & food
If it wasn’t for the investments of time, energy, & money I made into expanding my mindset w/ various mentors, programs, & a psych degree then I don’t believe I would have won on my physique alone
The physique is a 100% necessity.
In order to develop a winning physique & presentation you need a mindset that aligns you to consistent positive actions to kill it regardless of how you feel🙅🏻♀️
I have developed tools, strategies, & practices that allow myself (& clients) to make peace with food & their body in the improvement season!
I fully know & believe that the women who commit to working on themselves year round on EVERY level will outlast those who don’t
Don’t put up w/ the Post-Show Blues anymore!
Get out of the funk, embrace your body, be comfortable around food, & transform your identity w/ my signature process by Signing up for my free post show blues coaching series HERE
Have you ever been self-conscious of your spleen?
Self-consciousness is an interesting thing.
We do not become self-conscious of our internal organs the way we might be self-conscious of our body shape.
So now the question is, why?
Well, our internal organs have no relation to others the way our physical body shape might.
Without others, there would be no self.
There is no reference to your spleen compared to someone else’s unless it wasn’t functioning well & you sought support from others.
As competitors this awareness of our body is heightened as its intertwined with our identity “I look strong...fit...lean...fluffy...bloated...”
Can only be a statement in reference to other people. But why?!
Because, as soon as we reference something in this way we bring it into the real world which then means we bring our self-consciousness into it.
Self-consciousness, is really just heightened awareness of the self as a unique individual
So, when your body becomes part of you, it becomes part of the world which means it becomes comparable to others “Oh, so I’ll just see my body like an organ”
Ah, if only it were that simple
When something becomes part of your self-consciousness, it takes on imaginative forms which guide us to feel GOOD or BAD emotions relative to it
The reflection in the mirror does not illicit gratification or disappointment.
It is the fact that we relate the reflection to the way we see ourselves in other people’s minds
We seek a mold to fit or an identity to be known for that embodies specific characteristics based on what we’ve seen or accepted as true
Bikini Competitors want to be seen as in shape, disciplined, in control, 1%ers, proportioned, relentless, etc
So, if you see yourself in the mirror, not fitting the expected form, you feel ashamed or inadequate
Thus, being self-conscious is a reflection of an identity disconnect expressed through shame, guilt, or other negative emotions.
Ready to overcome these heavy, limiting emotions & beliefs?
Let’s make that happen together.
Click HERE to send me an email and write me with the subject line "Self-Conscious" and then let me know you are interested in finding ways we can work together or I can help you. Even if I can't help you, I might be able to find someone who is a better fit for you or at least get you some resources :) Worth the reach out! Chat soon xx
No one came here to be mediocre.
So we find ways to be above average or do things we didn’t even know we ourselves were capable of.
One of those things for me is competing.
I’m a very competitive person, always have been and likely always will be.
Bodybuilding has given me the opportunity to compete with myself and only myself.
I know I’m the only one in control of my outcome.
I love that when I wake up I have a choice to do better or to make excuses.
I love that it’s a sport where we are judged and compared because it forces me to practice reconnecting to MY why or finding peace in the internal wins more than any trophy or placing
I love that this sport is an extreme of a lifestyle that I love
I love that you can’t always be stage lean and ready to step on stage in order to do well
I love that it requires literal growth phases
Currently I feel like I caterpillar in my chrysalis taking the time to make something even more magical
I look at my stage shots, prep photos, and show day pics like this and MISSSSS it!
But I also see someone I’ll never see again.
Because I’m growing, I’m changing, and my mental and emotional state will change with me!
This sport doesn’t allow anyone to be mediocre.
You either show up every day to give it your all even when you don’t want to or you lose
You lose because you quit on yourself not because you didn’t place.
In fact, you could place and be upset knowing you didn’t even give your all!
But like I said, I’m competitive, most of us are.
And even though the internal wins are most fulfilling, I have my heart set on some seriously big goals and achievements.
If I didn’t want to win on stage I would never stop and take the time to grow.
But there’s work to do in order to get to the top and I’m learning, growing, and pushing myself daily.
I keep reminding myself, a winning physique is built in the improvement season, fine tuned & chiseled during a prep, and exhibited on stage💪🏻
How do you show up for yourself and your goals every day?
Often times satisfying a craving feels goooood but when it’s done in a way that’s excessive or works against you & your goals it makes you feel guilty and ashamed😔
But what we really need to be more conscious of is where the cravings are actually coming from
That’s why I put together these 3 questions you can begin asking yourself when you get a craving.
Of course, we can’t ignore the physical reasons for a craving but we must not forget that a majority of the times it’s emotional or a mix!
Humans are so damn comorbid♾
But hey that’s part of why we are so intricately awesome in other ways 🤪
Anyways, when I say it’s emotional I don’t mean “oh I’m sad my boyfriend broke up with me so I’m going to sit on the couch and eat ice cream” type of thing.
That’s a justification & excuse not an ACTUAL reason🙅🏻♀️
When considering emotions we can learn a lot from looking back to pivotal moments in our life like our childhood or life changing decisions
Personally, I find that I crave hot chocolate with crackers a lot!
This is something I grew up drinking/eating with the women of my family
After a show one time, I found myself constantly craving it.
When I finally shined a light on where the craving was coming from, I could make peace with it!
Now that I know I’m likely truly craving joy, comfort, or connection with others I ask myself in what other ways I can create that for myself that’s more aligned to my identity & goals
Much easier than drinking it & being like “ah why did I do that?” Or mope around trying not to convince ourselves to work it off or restrict later
By giving into the craving we can only find peace in the moment.
But by going into the craving we can find peace with ourselves.
So, try out these 3 questions & see how they go.
Want to make peace with food? Check out my Food Freedom Academy HERE or if you are a competitor, I made the Free 7 Day Post-Show Coaching Series Just for you!
As a Competitor, you need more than a Physique Coach to Love Yourself and Make Peace with Food and Your Body
These things won’t make you love yourself...
When you love yourself you become naturally inspired to take loving action that serves your growth
When you love yourself, fueling, moving, & even thinking about your body is done with more conscious effort
Often times when we head into an improvement season or period of growth we struggle to adjust.
As our body, goals, & lifestyle changes we must too.
Whether you follow macros or a meal plan, the food / plan itself, is NEVER the problem, just like it’s not the solution!
Self-love cannot be made out of a reverse diet, competition prep, or new diet & workout plan.
Many competitors look to their physique coach to help them find peace.
Many coaches can reassure you, console you, or find a way to motivate you.
Which is awesome and I 100% believe we need coaches who can do this for us. I have one! 😊
But they are your physique coach!
Not your self love or mindset mentor.
They aren’t giving you the exact tools, step by step processes, healing modalities, mindset methods, or any other inner work to actually get to the root of the problem
I have taken the time to do a lot of research on competitors’ experiences & have heard really sad stories
A check-in with your coach of your body, weight, measurements, & how your plan went is not enough to bring you peace
Consistency & progress is rewarding!
But to find real peace, we have to get uncomfortable enough to shine a light on those dark places
That’s exactly what I have for the competition world
I developed my own unique system for competitors struggling to make peace with food, their body, & their new lifestyle.
It’s my “Peace Through Growth Process”
It’s not a diet plan or an exercise routine.
Those two things are important expressions of love & honoring your goals but inner peace comes from inner work
My process specifically works with you to address your relationship with your body, food & goals!
I put together a 7 day free coaching series to help you with the Post-Show Blues! You can get access to it by clicking HERE! 🙂
@idazapfitness made a post on her experience with this program see the photo below!
See you there!😍
#bikinicompetitor #improvementseason #buildmorethanjustabody
Believe it or not, most of the reasons why competitors end up going into what feels like a bingefests is due to food scarcity thought patterns!
The more you think about those things I listed...THE MORE YOU WANT TO GO AGAINST THEM!
It’s like a “one last hoorah!” to your mind
How many times have you told yourself something like this & it sends you off into a blind rampage of eating ALL the things?!
Think of last time you stepped off stage and just went ham on foods because it had been a long time & “reverse diet starts Monday!!!”
Next thing you know, It feels like it’s completely out of your control & you can’t even stop yourself!
Or you just constantly think about the food and hope you don’t “give in” again
Or you eat something off your plan or over your macros and can’t stop reaching for more, then feel meh about yourself?
The problem isn’t the food at all.
In fact, we are the ones who give the foods a label which gives it power over us!
A lot of what we think will help us actually ends up destroying our ability to just feel at peace around food or let the thoughts go!
The last supper mindset perpetuates this ‘all or nothing’ ness that’s usually only present when we are on prep. & as soon as we think of returning there we feel like we have to have it all!!!
The one thing that will ACTUALLY free you from all of this is the one thing most competitors won’t do...
LET GO OF CONTROL!!!!
Letting go of the rules, restrictions, & scarcity mindset & You’ll discover that:
👉🏻The cake & cookies doesn’t sound as appetizing when it’s always on the menu
👉🏻Foods she really wants.
👉🏻Listening to your body becomes easier
👉🏻”Over” eating/indulging/doing it becomes a thing of the past because you don’t have anything telling you you will “NEVER have this again”
👉🏻Guilt disappears as your identity is no longer driven by “can haves” or “can’t haves”
I still have 5 spots left for my new beta test program for bikini competitors who are struggling with their relationship to food.
If ANY of this resonated with you or is something you want to free yourself from then comment “BETA” below and I’ll send you the details💝
Diamonds shine brightest when cut just right💎✨
The precise proportions, symmetry, and finish is what makes them shine even brighter than ever!
The best part though? They have ALWAYS been diamonds.
They just went through even greater pressure and changes to become even more radiant!
YOU have ALWAYS been a diamond.
Regardless of how cut, proportioned, and symmetrical you are right now... YOU ARE STILL A DIAMOND!
Your worth is no different.
Your value is no different.
Your potential is no different.
Regardless of the surface, you are still a diamond, always, never ever forget it!
Because one thing is always for sure, you are here to withstand all sorts of pressure so you can SHINE😍
This pic sums up how my improvement season is going🤪😍💪🏻
🤗I am happy!
🍽I’m well fed!
😛I am having fun!
💪🏻I am making muscle & strength gains!
💆🏻♀️I’m at peace with my body and food 9.9/10!
My body loves me back and is functioning at a high level for me!
⌛️I have totally 100% accepted and embraced taking time off!
Phew! Last time I competed was September!🤯
I can’t even believe it’s been 5 months going on 6!
It feels so good to have everything in order.
Body, relationships, school, business, the works!
I feel like this is the period of time I will look back on and be like I am SO glad I did that!
I’m really really in full belief that time is on my side and you should all know by now I don’t plan to step on stage again unless I’m way better than I was!
Last season I gained a ton of experience and momentum and I improved sooo much in a healthy and fulfilling way!
But my body still wouldn’t have been highly competitive at a national level.
Dieting down / prepping more wouldn’t have gotten me there either.
Building and a beak was the most logical thing to do!
I thought maybe a few months but I finally prioritized my health and feel like now my body is functioning even better!
A body with balanced hormones is able to process, recover, and function way better then one without it!
And I’m feeling that!! It feels damn good too!
Especially when the super human woman strength kicks in around the period!
Just every day I am pushing it!
Focused on more compound movements throughout the week, going up in weight, challenging myself, and creating a solid base for when I consider another prep
(which I’ve basically mapped out the shows / game plan I’d like to do if my coach and body agree with me 😜)
Still eating very clean, mixing in some treats, allowing more freedom, trying new things, just livin!
ANYWAYS! I could go on forever.
Main thing is, YOU CAN FIND PEACE IN AN IMPROVEMENT SEASON!
Your peace may look different from others and that is A-OKAY!
As long as you feel confident, healthy, fulfilled, empowered, strong, and aligned with your goals and actions that’s all that matters!