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Welcome to my Blog
I write a new blog almost daily! Feel free to comment, share, and connect with me! I love hearing from my readers!
If you don’t like the results you’re getting, and you’ve done the best you can to execute, change the process
Your habits make up your life and will be reflected in your results.
If you get too comfortable with choices you make, that don’t align with your goals, you’ll be more likely to continue making those choices.
Then, when you realize you want to change your behavior, you’ll usually experience some resistance because the behaviors are bringing some sort of value or benefit to your life.
Often times, I ask clients “what is the benefit to your self-sabotaging behaviors?” And they’ll say, “there’s no benefit that’s why I’m doing this with you!!” And then we dig deeper and we consider what those behaviors are bringing their life.
Usually we find things like comfort, relief, familiarity, community or connection, stability…
To which we then must explore how changing the behavior can illicit a similar benefit without too much change or risk.
It can be a bit of an experimental process but oooooey how satisfying it is when those patterns begin to shift!!
Personally a big pattern I had to shift was not pushing myself enough in my workouts and lifting…but I reverse engineered it and was able to find a way to change that to my benefit.
Working through associations that do not serve us can be hard but it is WORTH it
You can read tons of stories and testimonials about others who have accomplished their goals because of their shift in mentality and focus on personal development at www.celestial.fit.
The domino effect has to be one of the most rewarding parts of the work I do.
A negative relationship with food and your body image impacts every area of your life right? So wouldn’t healing it also then touch every area of your life?
Many of the athletes I work with find that in committing to themselves, they’re better able to show up for others.
Amber really doubted if this was possible for her, there were ups and downs in the journey, as expected, and she came out on top!! I couldn’t be happier for her!! 🤗🤗
Those who are willing to be in the discomfort, of any kind, will usually experience a rewarding result.
Much like working out, you have to be willing to get uncomfortable with the mental work to experience shifts.
Sometimes it feels worse before it gets better but then it clicks and you think, WHY did I wait so long to face this?!
I’ve been blessed with amazing clients and community members and people within the industry who refer my services to others and that always means soooo much to me!! So thank you to all of you who do! You are part of the domino effect!
You can learn more about the 5 week food relationship healing and discovery program and apply now at www.celestial.fit/foodfreedom
When you feel like giving up, what usually goes through your head?
maybe it is too hard, too unrealistic, too good to be true?
maybe it is that you are not worthy, deserving, or capable?
maybe it is that you have failed so many times before, so why bother now?
When that doubt kicks in, I encourage you to consider all the ways you have proven yourself wrong in the past, all the ways you are capable of achieving the results you desire, and all the ways you are prepared to keep advancing or improving now.
When you feel it is too hard or demanding, think of all the hard things you have made it through before that you didn't think you would be able to overcome.
When it feels unrealistic, set goals for the version of you that has already achieved this one. Creating a next level, a higher upper limit, you can see a future for the version of you who has accomplished the goal at hand.
If it feels too good to be true or like you are not worthy or deserving, I encourage you to think about what would make you more worthy or deserving? what makes you unworthy now? are these fair expectations? is there truth in these statements and beliefs?
If this is helpful for you, I hope you will share with me in the future how you overcame any of these. Of course, if you would like more support, feedback, insight, or guidance, you can learn ways to work with me HERE 🤗❤️
Feeling defeated post-show as you have fallen into binging, hating what you see in the mirror, feeling like you’ve “lost yourself”, and doubting your future as an athlete.
But I assure you it’s not the end for you.
Like this client here, you can achieve food freedom, let go of the all or nothing mentality, learn about yourself, embrace your body again, and reconnect to yourself.
Your life can change with one decision.
I’ve had people reach out to me, eager for change, hopeful for a better future, only to deny themselves of the help they know they need.
I understand it’s an investment of time, energy, effort, finances, and resources but the cost of not moving forward for yourself is usually far worse…
I find many people who have inquired about working with me in the past and opted not to, come back in the future, sign up, and regret not starting when they first reached out.
This is not to say it’s always the right time or circumstance for everyone but this is to say that you CAN experience change and that voice in your head or that feeling in your gut encouraging you to take action and trust that change is possible is worth listening to!
While I never make guarantees, because ultimately inner work is up to the individual, I know my process works.
With hundreds of people who have now gone through this program I have seen the power of even giving 60% effort let alone those that go above and beyond each day…
I know I can’t help everyone but the people who I can help and have had the absolute pleasure and opportunity to have been amazing and I’m so grateful to Valerie for sharing her experience in the program even months after completion.
It is stories like this and those of all my clients and members that remind me of the power of mental health in the bodybuilding community.
Every champion needs a champion mentality…
Let’s #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY together
To learn more & apply for this program visit: www.celestial.fit/foodfreedom.
I can’t wait to support you in your journey ❤️🧠🫂💪🏻
Ashley came to me post-show expressing how she nailed her prep to the T & had no issues at all with sticking to her plan but when prep ended, she found herself struggling with binging, purging, & not knowing how to stop herself from eating & consistently eating to extreme discomfort.
She was consumed with thoughts about food, worrying about holidays and meals out & vacations (all of which she ended up crushing during the program by the way), & eating in secret.
She told me she wants to become an IFBB pro one day & wanted to be an example to her daughter of what a healthy relationship with food could look like while pursuing her health & fitness goals.
We texted a few times through my free text message blasts & DMs & she had listened to my podcast for a long time and knew working with me would be her next best step.
I’m sooo glad she decided to reach out because by the end of the program she expressed to me that she felt like she had so many breakthroughs that her relationship with food was literally “night and day” as she can now trust and listen to herself as well as her body.
I remember one time I acknowledged how she was showing up for herself and that stuck with her because it became an ongoing mantra I’d see in her daily journals and we’d discuss personally too.
The journey is never perfect but her journey was full of lessons and opportunities for growth that she was willing to be honest about and address right off the bat!
I’m so amazed by her and can’t wait to see how she continues to progress in her journey from here.
Finding peace with food as a competitor is 100% possible and by having mental clarity, you’ll be able to have more longevity & patience because you have more insight.
Ashley is a champion!! I felt so fulfilled reading these kind words from her especially because I know what she had overcome.
If you’re interested in working with me in the 1:1 food relationship coaching program you can learn more at www.celestial.fit/foodfreedom.
Whether you’re in prep, improvement season, haven’t competed before, or are taking time off, you can apply to work with me :)
Making a commitment to yourself in one of the most challenging times of your life takes so much courage, vulnerability, and acceptance.
I am so grateful Amanda trusted me on her journey to a greater relationship with food, her body, and her goals.
When Amanda applied for my 1:1 food relationship program, she had just completed my 8 day free food relationship series so I knew she would be an action taker willing to do the work necessary to make major shifts in her mentality.
She had been struggling with binging multiple times a week that led to physical discomfort. This was concerning for her because she thought that she had gotten past this after other attempts with intuitive eating and habit based programs as well as therapy and reverse dieting.
It takes a lot to feel like you’ve tried so much and to still say I deserve to keep trying for myself! I admire that she signed up for my program and put her heart into it.
She showed up for herself every day and has committed to behaviors that will help sustain her personal development and progress.
Amanda is not a competitor but she knew she could use the support with respect to her fitness goals and lifestyle.
I am so proud of how far she came in such a short period of time.
I designed this 5 week program to illicit major changes and those who show up even 60% get great results, she showed up 100% and has reaped massive rewards.
In her post-program feedback form she said she only wished she implemented more of the resources sooner and more consistently which is so cool because the pace she went at and the arsenal she has now will only continue to serve her moving forward.
If you’re interested in working with me 1:1 in my food relationship coaching program and getting a taste of my signature PTG process, now is the time to learn more and apply.
I will be raising my prices in the first month of the year due to additional resources, education, support services, and other meaningful upgrades as a professional & service.
Helping hundreds of people globally to #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY is a daily privilege.
It is incredibly freeing to no longer have it feel like food is controlling you & your life.
When we turn to food to fill voids or support emotional needs, we lose out on the powerful lesson the emotions are there to teach us.
When we use food to comfort us we miss out on being present with life’s many comforts.
When we use food as punishment or as a way to control our body, we miss out on the innate knowledge that can come from truly loving and connecting to ourselves.
I’m super proud of Valerie. She showed up, applied all the action items provided throughout our work together, went above & beyond in going through bonus resources available to her, & sought help when needed while consistently applying each day’s lesson learned to the next.
I was always amazed when I’d get an email with attachments of various bonus PDFs & worksheets she completed & then how she told me in her spare time she would watch my YouTube videos & consume other content of mine.
When she said she was 10/10 committed in her application SHE MEANT IT👏🏻
I always want my clients or prospective clients to know that I don’t expect perfection at all.
I expect you to show up for yourself fully in the program and make the most of each day. We work intently and intensively for 5 weeks straight for a reason.
Those who maximize each day, maximize their results.
I’ll tell you I’ve had clients give 60% effort & walk away TRANSFORMED. I want you to give me as much as you can, of course, but you’re never a lost cause.
If you come in & are perfect or have no struggles, I would be shocked.
But if you come in & are honest, inquisitive, trusting, & committed to growth, I can guarantee that you’ll see an improvement from your initial reach out to me & the big discovery phase we go through before even starting our daily work together.
The only unsuccessful clients I have are the ones who ghost me 🤷🏻♀️😢🙍🏻♀️
I’m going to be there for you every step of the way every day, because it’s the service you’ve invested in, so long as you fulfill your obligation as a client🙌🏻
To learn more about the program visit: www.celestial.fit/foodfreedom
After this photoshoot in 2018, I drove to Krispy Kreme & bought 12 donuts that I didn’t even enjoy because I binged on them while driving home.
I was lucky I got home safe given how fixated I was on eating the donuts.
After I got through tasting 3 of them I remember feeling so embarrassed & thought if I eat more then no one would know how many I ordered.
I was so ashamed.
I felt I failed myself. I had been prepping since 2017 & couldn’t control myself in that moment.
I told myself it was my only chance because I had to keep diet super tight since I was working a booth at the Olympia the next weekend.
I didn’t want to look “bad” there.
This experience really woke me up though & was a really important shift in my life as an athlete, student, & business owner though…
I realized that I stopped doing all the work I had done to improve my body image & food relationship through my prep that was NECESSARY for success post show.
So I stepped it up for myself.
That’s also when I started focusing more of my research assignments & projects in school on subjects revolving around elite athletes, disordered eating, body image, mindfulness, self-concept & other related issues with application to bodybuilders & physique sport athletes (since there’s not much on bodybuilders).
I realized in this time, & through the conversations I was having on the 1st “season” of Confessions of a Bikini Pro Podcast, how needed the work I was doing in the personal development world would be in the bodybuilding world.
So I launched my first bodybuilder focused program (the post-show personal development program) by sharing the exact strategies I was using to overcome post-show struggles.
I felt this intense pull to put my energy into helping this industry.
2018 showed me, through my resurfaced pain, that my mission in helping people to #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY , was needed among body builders.
Since then my programs have developed further & I’ve helped 100s of athletes, and non athletes, globally.
You can learn more about how to work with me at www.celestial.fit.
Thank you to my clients & members past & present for trusting me. It’s an honor!
When Dani finished her first show, she fell into patterns of disordered eating.
In this video she expresses how glad she is that she reached out to me and completed my free eight day Food Relationship Haling and Discovery series, and through that, she realized her problem was more involved than she initially thought.
That's when we began working intensively one-on-one.
Some of the key focus areas for Dani were:
-How she labeled foods good or bad and ways we could work around those beliefs and normalize all foods especially because she wanted to make sure these beliefs didn't impact her children negatively.
-Best ways to capitalize on the improvement season before her next WBFF show
- Working through urges and tendencies to binge
- Managing emotions that would lead to wanting to turn to food
- Navigating negative thought patterns such as not being good enough that was perpetuating the behaviors she wanted to move away from
- And more...
I enjoyed working with Dani! Her excitement for the journey and commitment to it was really inspiring for me as her mentor! I loved hearing her joy when she celebrated her success and spoke kindly of herself and her efforts.
She also just brought me onto her podcast, 'Real Talk with Dani' which will be out this Sunday!
I love how eager she is to continue her journey with a healthy mindset and healthy relationship with food and I can't wait to see how she progresses moving forward!
When I get a new client in my food relationship program it is usually because they’re unhappy with how they’re eating.
Whether it’s binging, overeating, obsessing over every gram, going all or nothing, losing control around food, avoiding social situations, equating what they eat to their worth, not adhering to their plan…they’re not ok with their relationship with food.
& while the focus is on resolving this struggle…more often than not the “inner work” we do has little to do with food itself.
Often times it’s relationship to self, others, the world, their goals…
Sometimes what presents through food, starts elsewhere.
This is especially true in people who struggle with food but don’t feel “restricted”.
My process involves a complete deep dive into you as a whole.
People are often surprised that my initial questionnaire isn’t about food. Then, they go into the journal & really bring a magnifying glass to their food behaviors.
In Michelle’s case, we worked a lot on self-talk, confidence, intentionality, relationship with others & how this was influencing how she thought she “should” be or how those were leading to certain eating behaviors, mindfulness at every meal to create a deeper connection to her choices outside of her goal of stepping on stage, learning to work through negative emotions & past experiences, & more…
Look at the darkness, the voids, the struggles, the pain, the conditioning, the behaviors, the patterns….everything that contributes to who you are & work through that WHILE being intentional & mindful.
Some will say to ignore your relationship with food & just work on relationship with self, but doing both is best.
If we only resolve your relationship with self, but we spend no time creating a new association/ pattern with how you function around, approach, & think about food then you will likely resort to old ways because you know nothing else.
I built this program with people who are serious about their fitness goals in mind, it’s all about the mental work without judgment or interruption of your focus on your goals.
You can learn more & apply at www.celestial.fit/foodfreedom.