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 Bodybuilders are hypercritical & focused on their bodies because it’s literally the way this sport works.
You step on stage, you get judged to meet appearance based criteria, you go home. And if you compete again or plan to, every day is really focused on how to be better. Being better in this sport is directly attached to how you eat, train, sleep…which is not the best, but it is the reality. Then, strong associations are formed between you & specific behavior. That’s where things like “I should” or “I shouldn’t” come up along with thoughts of not being “good enough”. I don’t think that these risk factors need to keep you from competing, they just need to be considered before & during competing. How you see food, bodies, exercise, etc will change. If you’re not prepared to address concerning perspectives or distorted views along the way, it will be harder. Establish your perspective early on & be willing to change with it. An example: Your perspective could be that even though you eat xyz foods closer to a show, it does not mean abc foods are bad, it just means xyz foods were beneficial in that time…This can help to keep you from associating morality, worth, or judgment to food. Another example: Your perspective could be that your body is only worthy or loved or admired or nice to look at when you’re stage lean or in prep mode. This is dangerous for reverse dieting, making improvements, and being a healthy functioning person & athlete. A perspective shift might sound like “even though I love my prep body and the lines and how I fit into my clothing, I recognize this sport requires building, therefore I can thank my prep body and honor her by doing my best in improvement season to grow while keeping her healthy” this supports health & longevity. Last example: Your perspective could be that being a competitor in this sport requires laser focus but by setting aside everything that matters to you outside of this sport, including your own mental or physical or emotional needs, you end up hurting your chances of sustaining your competing career so prioritizing other identities is necessary to your success. Has your perspective on anything changed since competing?⬇️
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This video is from the VIP day of my event in August! The first of many…
I’m so grateful for the women who showed up, the bonds formed, and the growth that occurred on BOTH days of the event! I LOVE when girls from my events continue growing together. Some of them will text me that they’re getting coffee or they’ll dm me on IG or I see them supporting each other! These girls even sent me pics supporting Katie at her show! It was so awesome❤️🥺 Should I host an event in Arizona this year? If the demand is serious, I’ll put something new together 😍 In the future, likely after I complete my masters program (august 2022 baby!), my goal is to host group psychotherapy retreats, small multi-day masterminds, and an even bigger event like conference style…I can see it now You can always get your name on my live event update list and suggest locations at celestial.fit/liveevents I plan to be in the game for a very long time soooo, we have a lot to look forward to! By the way…you can now receive texts from me! I’ll be sending out little motivational inspos, coaching prompts, mental game hacks, tips, giveaways, first access to new things, events, and who knows what else!? It’s all for YOU! Just text the word ‘community’ to 866-716-0768 😍 Swipe through this post to read the answer!👀
Rather than shaming yourself for giving into excuses and denying yourself of the goals you say you want by self-sabotaging, try understanding where these limiting actions are stemming from.
When you get caught up in beating ourselves up and saying I am not good enough. I will never be a champion because of this. I am a failure. You are essentially perpetuating the self-sabotaging behavior because a person who thinks poorly of themselves often treats themselves poorly too. Step by Step: 1) recognize the pattern 2) identify when it comes up most frequently (this can lend insight into how you might break or predict the pattern) 3) address the root 4) try again but in a new way The only time anyone is ever a lost cause is when they have full heartedly decided it and would never even entertain the thought of being better. But most athletes live to be better. In fact, most people are fulfilled by striving. Have you listened to this full interview on @teamelitephysique and @ashleykfit Bikini and the Brain podcast? If not, you can find it on any streaming platform or watch it on YouTube! If you have, thank you for your support and I do hope you found it helpful #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY It can lead to disordered eating & exercising behaviors, self-judgement, & negative changes to self-esteem.
Last night I did a presentation for @teamfitwithme discussing & covering how to overcome this. I felt inspired to share some insights here! Our origin experiences were similar… Weighing in at middle school gym class, doctors not inquiring about why weight might be changing just making suggestions without forethought, coaches & people around us positively reinforcing/ celebrating or noticing only when the weight has gone down…& maybe even a discussion on generational standards played a role in our views. What stood out to me was an overall desire to end the fixation on the scale. I used to go to extremes for it…stopping my last meal super early, sauna only before weigh ins, no sodium and limited water, drinks that make u 💩 , and delaying first meal so my weight might go lower. Why?! I look back and think how inaccurate of a representation those weigh ins were of the whole picture & how much “weight” I was giving them (especially if I feared a change in my plan I wasn’t mentally prepared for). When I started paying attention to my execution, health, energy FIRST as well as implementing a pre weigh in ritual (my good ol 5,3,1 method that I’m happy to share with you-it’s in the guide titled “body image graphics” as “take care of yourself before you weigh yourself”) then I noticed my fixation on the scale no longer consumed me. I know that when I’m starting to focus more on weight it’s probably due to: - too much reinforcing of the weight change - too little focus on the other variables which matter more - not enough time reflecting on my efforts that are more important than anything bc they’ll lead to the result overtime I have come a long way with how I view it & remain aware of how I’m thinking, talking, & interacting with the scale or about it. Want to take part in a full workshop on this topic & discuss it with other people in similar boats as you (athletes, competitors)… Join the on demand mindset coaching platform to be part of our next group call covering this!  1) What is something you gain in an improvement season other than weight?
2) What is something you lose in prep other than weight? 3) What is something that never changes for you regardless of the season? My answers: 1. I gain more time (less cardio to do so more ways to spend the time). 2. I lose some of the flexibility I’ve given myself. 3. My value, worth, passions, & heart. And you? Join the conversation over at @celestial.fit! . . . #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY
Did you know that the time spent stressing about all the sprays you did not or could track could be better spent in literally any other way like oh, I dont know, your relationship with food, beliefs about food, few cool dance moves in the kitchen, a call to your bestie, stretching
Cmon now. This is 100 percent the type of advice I would have fallen victim to at the most vulnerable point of my disordered eating and body image. I would have seen these insanely fit people who seem to have their shit together telling me I need to be timing my sprays and would have grasped onto their words as another means to control. There is so much I wish I could go back and tell my past self. But instead, I will tell you, this is silly. This is harmful. If you or a client is using too much spray oil, just program in an oil to actually cook with and enjoy. Lets not overcomplicate these things. This goes for bodybuilders too. If this is what is determining you from getting your pro card or not or qualifying for nationals or whatever your goal is, you probably have bigger fish to fry than the one in your spray oil #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY When I first started my fitness journey I remember only really following people who looked how I wanted to look or had features like crazy abs or poppin shoulders or an insane glute to waist ratio or were crazy strong & athletic.
I thought that would “motivate” me. I think bodybuilding has desensitized me from fixating on following people for their physique. Honestly, lots of people look amazing & inspire me. But what I’ve come to realize in my own battle through mental struggles with food & body image and through helping so many athletes (female & male) after committing myself to studying & educating myself to support this community… Is that no matter what people look like, it doesn’t mean they have a method that when emulated would bring peace inside, & the best thing to do is what’s best for you. I now follow & engage with people for their stories, journey, experiences through this life-in & out of bodybuilding, & to see how they present themselves & their lifestyle among other reasons. I think this is where psych & mental health counseling education has skewed how I see what people share. I notice many things like their word choice, cadence, tone, eye movements, body language, things they’ve shared in the past that I can see informing their present. This is not to say I’m a mind reader or know everything about everyone (that’d suck!) Everything you or I share is guided by some sort of lens of experience, education, relationships, circumstance, etc and the same goes for the people you follow, they’re guided by a lens of their own. So when you follow someone consider where they’re coming from with what they promote or share or say they’re doing. There was a time when I didn’t know better and promoted behaviors I realize now are unhealthy because at the time that’s what I thought was best. I know I’m rambling in this post, I guess my sentiment here has multiple parts; are you desensitized from things due to exposure too?, do you take everything with a grain of salt?, has your experience of what motivates you shifted over time?, what lens are we all looking through?, do you notice this too? I’m curious to hear your thoughts as always! #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY Are we not to celebrate the body getting us to our goals the same way we celebrate the body that has “achieved” those goals?
No matter what season you’re in, your body is amazing! Believe in your ability to be & bring your best every day! To my current body, thank you for: - having normal hormones so I can have a healthy menstrual cycle, balanced moods, & to recover - giving me even better hunger & fullness cues - a fuller booty to fill out pants - letting me sleep through the night - giving me some extra cushion when I sit down - processing more food so I can lift heavier and build the muscle I need - having consistent digestion and energy To my body then, thank you for: - the endurance to run 5-8 miles nearly every day - making all clothing more comfortable - reminding me that I need food to live and function - sustaining me at the right times each day for work and workouts - making me sleep when I’m sleepy - making my hunger cues especially more noticeable To both, thank you for - giving me the peace of mind to know you’re responding to the plan- even if sometimes I question the way you respond - helping me push through workouts or long days - carrying me through challenging and amazing times - letting me experience life - giving me what I need to do every day tasks without 2nd thought - showing me unconditional love by doing the best you can with what I provide you - teaching me more about you through bodybuilding I am certainly not perfect in either body because I do not aim to be. I aim for sustainable efforts & the long-game vision. With this improvement season there’s been so much that’s been unpredictable or gone different than I expected or than I’d think but it’s taught me not to cling to results as though my life depends on it. Whether that’s a certain body size or shape, or how far I can run. These things matter to me but they don’t deserve to consume me. Instead I am focused on the way my passion for this life & the work I do & the daily efforts to getting where I want to go. I’m still learning, we always will learn in this sport, but that’s a gift. The more opportunities we have to learn, the better we get. #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY  The timeline of when you achieve a goal is never more important than how you feel while achieving it.
If you love the process, you lose track of time because you’re too busy enjoying each action that leads you to the life you want. Rather than worrying about the date of your show moving or the weight on the scale not dropping this week or the countdown to your post show treats… Use that time to work on your mind, resilience, gratitude, why, and how you really feel. #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY |
Celeste Rains-Turk
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