There's something remarkable about being surrounded by incredible women who have journeyed through life, collecting invaluable experiences along the way
Today, I want to take a moment to express my gratitude for the extraordinary women who have had a profound impact on my life. 🙌✨
These women, with their abundant wisdom and unique perspectives, have become pillars of strength, inspiration, and guidance in my journey
I went to this retreat to speak about mental health and the #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODYways but I walked away with so much insight from them!
I admire them all so much. They remove fear from aging, show me anything is possible at any stage in life, and strength is an innate part of womanhood!
Their presence has been a catalyst for personal growth, boosting my confidence, & offering me a powerful lens through which to view the world 🌺💪
Through heartfelt conversations and shared stories, they have gifted me with insights that I can now apply in my own life
They have reinforced cherishing every moment, embracing challenges as opportunities for growth, & never settling for anything less than my dreams💫🌈
Their experiences have shown me that resilience knows no age limit, & that there is immeasurable strength in embracing the beauty of each stage of life
They showcased the importance of being yourself, embracing your sexy and femininity while owning their power, trusting their instincts, & striving for excellence, even in the face of adversity
In a world that often tells us that youth is the only measure of success, this tribe of inspiring women have shattered that notion
They represent the true measure of success in living a purposeful life, filled with love, kindness, & the pursuit of our passions💕✨
To all the incredible women who have uplifted me; thank you for your guidance, your love, & your belief in me
Your impact is immeasurable. I am grateful for the bonds we share
Let's continue to empower each other, & create a world where every woman can thrive!
@hollyfitatfifty_ifbbpro thank you for curating this experience, I’m ready for 2024!
#womenwithwisdom #mastersbikini#npcathlete #npcbikini
Prioritizing Your Purpose
Happy Monday! This is a question I like to ask myself when I’m feeling stressed & overwhelmed
We all wear a lot of hats and when you’re going after many goals it can sometimes feel hard to prioritize
It’s important to consider things like the deadlines, impact of that focus on your life, and resources needed (time, money, energy, etc)
Maybe you are working on your side hustle but you have a big project due at work. Outlining the big project needs and crafting a timeline could be the best next step so you can then see how much time you can realistically allocate to your side hustle and make business adjustments as needed
It could be that your family just went through something major and you gotta drop everything to be there for them, this doesn’t take away from your other purposes but it helps you focus energy on what needs you most right now
The reason it can even help to ask yourself about the impact it can make on your life is because, if you’re like me, sometimes you put off the thing that really needs your attention & would make the biggest dent/relief, for minor things like cleaning the vaccum🤷🏻♀️😂
I have to catch myself to redirect my focus and attention when this happens. It’s not to say we don’t still focus on those other projects, goals, or tasks but we just get more strategic about where we are needed
It’s also important to be mindful of not skipping steps and instead really think of things from if it was already done what would have had to happen leading up to it to bring that result to life?
That’s another question I ask myself often and actually it’s a big part of ‘Operation Badass’ in my book, Believe your way to Badass, which you can find on Amazon
I also have a goal prioritizing process I share with my on demand mindset coaching members & clients along with tons of other resources to support you in managing the mental demands of competing & LIFE
You can DM me for the info or visit the link in my bio @celestial_fit and if you read to this point and want the resource for free, dm me that you want the goal prioritization sheet for free and I’ll let you know how you can get it🤯
Love the Pursuit
Pursuing your dreams is a blessing every day. Sometimes it’s going to be very challenging and make us question WHY we put ourselves through it. It’s important to know if the challenge that comes with the pursuit is worth the person you have to be to embrace it as well as to create the desired outcome. Often when we are right on the verge of achievement or excellence we back down because it pushes our threshold of comfort but it is also in those moments we improve our abilities, perspective, and resilience. Keep going💖
All or Nothing
A theme I’ve found with many of my clients who struggle with all or nothing thinking with food is that it presents in most every other area of their life too
The past month I’ve heard:
I probably shouldn’t watch tv so I’m going to stop doing that and instead do _.
I don’t have a morning routine anymore but I’m going to do these 10 things from now on because right now I’m doing absolutely nothing and I used to do those 10
My husband and I haven’t spent much time together, I should stop doing this & just give him all my free time
I can’t stand how I look in my improvement season & I body check a lot so I’m just going to wear all my baggier clothing & not look in the mirror or workout in front of one
I don’t eat enough veggies & fruits I’ll meet all my carbs with just that
We are high achievers who want to do the very best and we often associate any lack in performance with extremes
We also criticize ourselves harshly because people see us as these above average go-getters
It is much easier to go to an extreme than to find a happy sustainable medium
Extremes are also much more promising and predictable and if you’re type A or like to be in control of things this will probably be very appealing to you
But when the pendulum swings the other way it creates this vicious back and forth and high and low of satisfied and proud to disappointed and ashamed
Our brains and bodies want us to find homeostasis, find the middle, the baseline, the set point, the place where we aren’t having to over adapt or react here to compensate for what’s happening over there
Mentally, this will likely be a challenge for you to overcome if you’ve always gone from one extreme to the next
But start with something simple in your day to day life such as cleaning 5 minutes per day instead of a super in depth long adhd triggered style cleaning rampage every weekend
Or attempt to read 1 page of a book every day instead of needing to finish a book by the end of the every week because an influencer said to do it
Test your ability to challenge all or nothing ways and see how it positively impacts your life, peace of mind, perspective, & habits
Let me know how it goes @celestial_fit 💓
When I first started my fitness journey, I had a quote on my mirror to read every day, “Good, Better, Best…Never let it rest, Until your good is better and your better is best”
What I love about these words is that no matter where you’re at in your journey there’s always going to be something that can improve
You will always have something that’s good, something that’s better, and something that’s your best but you’ll always be striving to be your best all around
It led to many questions like:
Am I truly giving my best?
What does my best look like now compared to before?
How do I know if I’m giving my best?
Is there ever a time when good or better is actually best?
Even in reflection almost a decade later I can see that that quote influenced me to always strive to give the best I can with what I have and know
The worst thing we can do is hold back giving our best because we let the belief that someone else out there is better so why bother or we’ve been better before so what’s the point now or good is fine and I’ll just settle here because it’s less scary
That’s where the never let it rest part comes in
I realize, our best version is ever evolving because we ourselves are evolving and so is our environment or demands and life circumstances
If you keep showing up with your best foot forward and you are honest with yourself when you don’t, you can grow through lessons learned
It’s not about PERFECTION— this is a limiting mindset since it is I achievable
It’s about consistent conscious effort and commitment to your goals
Respect, honor, trust, and listen to your body and mind so you can fulfill the desires of your spirit
What is Enoughness?
ENOUGHNESS- what does it mean? how do we move past & work with feelings of never being good enough?
Most people have subscribed to the belief that they’ll never be “enough” but have yet to explore what it means
I’ll share part of the process I’d use in a general sense (it can depend on the person, their background, other things I already know from the client etc) and I’ll share 3 journal prompts to support your reflection further
1) Determine where the belief/ need to be good enough is coming from. Some people want to be a good enough mom, competitor, client, friend, husband, entrepreneur… is the need then coming from acknowledgment of those who experience them in that role or is it coming from something they’ll recognize within themselves?
2) Shifting perspective from outcome orientation to process orientation (I did a full workshop for my members & clients on this, it’s available to all on-demand mindset coaching platform members— www.celestial.fit/ondemand @celestial_fit )
3) Identify if the comparison is occurring between who you are now & who you’ve been, who you think you should be, or who you truly aspire to be
4) Questions for Reflection:
4a. WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE GOOD ENOUGH? - expand on every aspect where you’re feeling like you’re not enough
4b. WHAT EVIDENCE DO YOU HAVE THAT YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH? —usually this is an emotional question. It can make you realize it’s not that you’re not good enough it’s that you seek to be better in some ways & are being hypercritical of where you’re at now that you’re stuck or it really brings up some areas where you’re letting yourself down
4c. HOW ARE YOU ENOUGH NOW? — this can enlighten us to where we don’t give ourselves credit & help you find ways to use your strengths for improvement
4d. WHAT EXPECTATIONS, COMMITMENTS, & STANDARDS DO YOU HOLD YOURSELF TO THAT ARE UNFAIR, UNREALISTIC, & CONTRIBUTING TO A FAILURE MENTALITY? HOW COULD THEY BE TRANSFORMED TO BRING UP CONFIDENCE & EFFICACY?— see where you’re setting yourself up for failure or reinforcement of the belief that you are not good enough so it can be retooled to your benefit
Feel free to reach out for feedback🏼🧠
Meeting the Criteria
Are you willing to change how you train to meet the criteria of a division?
When people ask why I train upper body so much I’ll show them this pic 😆
Bikini requires balance and as you can see, these legs are setting a standard that my upper body needs to catch up to
Doesn’t mean we never train legs but we are certainly being mindful about where our energy is going in this improvement season
We also aren’t training arms much because we want my shoulders to grow & pop more
I think one of the hardest things for people to wrap their head around is why competitors will give up training certain body parts or training in a way they LOVE to meet criteria
It can be hard to make these type of adjustments but the purpose of this sport is to get on stage & do your best to match the expectations of that division
You don’t HAVE to train a particular way to get ON stage but to excel on stage you have to accept that each division demands a certain look of your physique & if you don’t train to meet that criteria you will not be tangibly rewarded for it
As an athlete, you always have to remember that you CHOSE this
So you must accept what you can expect which is when you step on stage it’s not “who has the best body?” It’s “who has the body that best aligns with the criteria of this division & presents it in such a way that it sets them apart from the person next to them?”
I think this is part of the fun of the sport, it’s a challenge & it’s engaging & exciting to see what you can build
The payoff is never immediate either which creates an even more fulfilling experience when you peel back the layers & see the work that you put into your building season conditioned for the stage & then get feedback to go back to the drawing board & make more improvements
If you love the pursuit & embrace the grind of “a little more of this a little less of that a bit more here a bit less there don’t change anything with this but enhance this…” then you’ll appreciate the detail orientation of this sport
Donât miss out on the next LIVE event in Tampa, Florida on October 7th! @lexiemait and I are excited to see you all there as we cover psychological and physiological components to support you in having your best preps and improvement seasons! This event is for current and aspiring female competitors! Learn more & register NOW!
Competing Changes You
A note for the person considering competing; This journey is not just an evolution of your body but of how you see yourself, think, & live
It changes you
In the start of your journey, you think letâs see what happens and letâs go for it and youâre proud and then you hit some ups & downs & your mental health experiences some resistance
which is great actually because through those challenges you become more of the competitor you need to be to have longevity and sustain your efforts toward the dreams you have
you begin to realize what this really is all about for you
& youâll wake up with habits that once required conscious effort to remember to do or to execute well
& youâll see yourself as a masterpiece not just because you can morph your body but because of your growth in discipline, perspective, commitment, focus, outlook, patienceâ¦.
You realize that thereâs no point in rushing when you can relish in every moment & instead of fixating on an end result you find real joy in the daily rewards that come with living & pursuing this lifestyle
If I could go back & tell the version of me in the first video anything, it would just be that Iâm proud of her
In retrospect, I could discourage her & tell her she wasnât ready, she was too small, she should have waited, she shouldnât have developed disordered eating or distorted body image because it made things harder for some time (as if she knew she was forming any of those things as she thought the unhealthy behaviors were serving her as they protected her from many of her fears & doubts), & I could tell her she is in for a long journey ahead that goes well beyond a 16 week prepâ¦
But really, every journey has to have a beginning & you donât always know where it will lead you
Mine is one I wonât take for granted because it gave me so many opportunities to grow and become who I am to do what I do
I had no idea Iâd eventually be doing a podcast or events & serving other competitors in the industry or have my degrees in psychology & clinical mental health counseling because I was just a girl who wanted to push myself further than I had & get on stage
So, go for it! & #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY along the wayð«¶ð¼ð§
Remember the Big Picture
My grandpa always said, a job worth doing is worth doing right
This lesson has stuck with me throughout my life and often pops up exactly when I need it
This sentiment supports me in pushing when I want to pull back from a challenge, make changes even when it’s uncomfortable, and remind myself of the bigger picture
Sometimes we get the urge to rush or cut corners or hurry things up but it is so much more rewarding when we do things as intended or beyond expectations
I would much rather hold myself to a high standard than accept the bare minimum because I know that our bodies and minds are built to expand and grow and progress
There have been times I’ve questioned myself and the standards I’ve set but every time I’ve done this, I feel worse because I know I can do better and be better and because I value freedom, impact, and love it is unacceptable to do anything less than my best
This is not to say we don’t need breaks or standards to change with circumstance or to remove compassion, it’s just to say that in everything you do, do your best and do it right because anything worth doing truly is worth doing right…
It’s hard to take inventory of where we are not showing up fully and be honest with ourselves about it but when we take responsibility we free ourselves from the challenges that come with a lack of integrity
Consider what areas of your life you might be craving greater congruency or need to set yourself up to follow through better or differently
If you’re looking for support and guidance with stepping up in your life, check out my book, “Believe your way to Badass” on Amazon. I wrote this interactive guide 7 years ago but the message and prompts stand true…
Hope you enjoy it❤️😊