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 Many of the things others JUDGE you for, your tribe will LOVE you for😍🌟
It’s amazing what happens when you stay committed to yourself and your vision. The right tribe always comes only when you are true to yourself. Otherwise you attract the wrong people and never feel like you “fit in” or are “understood” Never let other people tell you how to live your life or be yourself because the don’t truly know you and you are a GIFT because you are unique. Find the people who see that in you! I’ve been so lucky and grateful to have so many supportive uplifting people in my life. 😊 Many of whom saw my best side even when I couldn’t. But I’ve also had many people judge me, tell me the approach I have isn’t ‘good’ or ‘going to work’, questioned if I’d truly achieve what I set out to, and warn me I should do anything but the things I thought to do. Many of those times, I knew they were wrong. I knew they were wrong because I already had enough validation within me. Without truly believing in, trusting, honoring, and loving ourselves, other voices will win. To remove power of others over our emotions and thoughts we must first find peace and strength within ourselves Never let the doubts, fears, and limiting beliefs of others become your own. And if they do, have the courage to realize it and address the matter head on. Not just because the outcome will be better. But also because you deserve to have your own belief system that serves you, empowers you, and takes you places you never even knew you could go... Letting your higher self run the show and other incredible people will appear. I’ve met / connected with amazing people like all of you, the pros on my podcast, other athletes, amazing biz lovers and go getters because I’ve been myself and nothing less! Main message for the day? Own YOUR magic 😍🌟
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 Let’s talk #healthyboundaries ⬇️
You’re not obligated to do ANYTHING!🙅🏻♀️ Yet many people say: I have to eat because it’s rude not to... I have to go out because if I cancel they won’t invite me again... I have to go to the gym because if I don’t then I’ll be judged by that girl who’s #teamnodaysoff I have to say, talk about, or show different things because that’s what everyone expects from me I can’t say no because then they won’t think I’m capable! And on and on It’s really serious actually... How much we live our lives according to others even if on a subconscious level But You have options. Do what’s best for you, do what’s best for them, &/or do what’s best for everyone. If you don’t want to eat the birthday cake, you don’t have to explain yourself. “I’m on prep” is a nice excuse when you’re on prep. But when it’s off season or you’re just living your life & don’t want the cake, you have to be able to set boundaries This is true for all those examples Boundaries are NOT effectively set with excuses or justification The best boundaries are set without pressure to explain yourself A healthy boundary allows everyone to feel honored & respected Instead of “I don’t want your damn bday cake” (rude) or “I can’t eat that, I’ll get fat” (offensive & false). We could go for something more reasonable like “wow looks great! No thank you though, I’m so happy to be here celebrating with you.!” Everyone is taken care of without any explanation needed! In this case, the only way feelings could be hurt is if someone is triggered by their own internal belief systems. In order to set a healthy boundary though, we have to have a healthy relationship with ourselves & our beliefs If we don’t fully honor ourselves as a person who tunes into our needs then we won’t be able to set a boundary that allows that to happen We must give ourselves permission to express our needs while still effectively expressing the love & gratitude we have for the other opportunities/people. Need help with this? Let's set up a mini boundary breakthrough session :) Send me an email with the subject line 'boundary' and we will set one up!  Why Wouldn’t You Love Yourself?
Self-love is not always about looking for all these new reasons & ways to #loveyourself Sometimes it’s just realizing what’s not to love! When we see what we DON’T love, we shine light on the dark place. Think of yourself like a bookshelf, there could be a lot of books that you don’t love, but trying to squeeze in what you love or find alllll the things you do love would be a lot harder than just getting rid of what you don’t particularly love in the first place. We have to create space to let love in which means change is required! *brain screams in fear* Basically, if you want to love yourself more, become aware of what parts of you are NOT your ideal! This doesn’t mean you go: “Well, I hate all of me & the only thing I love are my lips so I’m never going to love myself” Let’s be real I used to be able to point out all these things I didn’t love about myself From physical characteristics to past mistakes or lil habits/quirks I had Next, I took note of why I wouldn’t or didn’t love those things. After that, I asked myself: “Of these things, what can I change or control?” Then, I let go of what I couldn’t change & I gained control of what I could. The things I could not change...I could learned to accept & love! This involved forgiveness, inner healing, rewriting belief systems, & a commitment to myself Much of what I used to loathe have now turned into things I love or have transformed! I have used my own experience, knowledge, practices, & processes with many other women & I know this is my purpose! I love love love working with women worldwide to increase their self love and make peace with themselves accept who they are, & see themselves worthy of all they truly desire I believe Self-love makes achieving our dreams easier as we become naturally inspired to take actions toward our goals as we see ourselves as worthy of it! Loving yourself should never be put off🥰🥰 Don’t wait on it, make yourself a priority and watch the rest of your life shift ❤️ . Ps I have a cute 18 ways to love yourself printable you can get HERE  When was the last time you felt absolutely amazed by yourself when you looked in the mirror?
What made you feel so amazing? How can you bring even more of that same energy to your current circumstances? For me, I always feel better about how I look when I know I’m taking positive actions toward my goals with the things I can absolutely control. Food I eat, intensity in training, mindset work, rest, & of course drinking water! I find that one of the quickest ways I get myself feeling more “awesome” is by drinking water & taking my vitamins! Such simple ways to set yourself up for success as you start off on the right foot! One little habit repeated over and over again becomes more like first nature. That’s why prepping my water and carrying my Hydration Junkie Transporter jug with me everywhere has become a non-negotiable! (Which if you want one of these jugs I have a link to it in my bio list of buttons just use my code celeste10 at https://hydrationjunkie.com/?aff=CELESTE10) Find what those things are for you and use them to get back to a state of feeling absolutely AMAZING about yourself! It could even be going for a massage or getting your hair done! Like Darah Diaz shared on my confessions of a bikini pro podcast! Sometimes it’s less about how you look and why you feel the way you do about how you look! Take care of yourself and set positive intentions for your day!  Have you ever been self-conscious of your spleen?
Self-consciousness is an interesting thing. We do not become self-conscious of our internal organs the way we might be self-conscious of our body shape. So now the question is, why? Well, our internal organs have no relation to others the way our physical body shape might. Without others, there would be no self. There is no reference to your spleen compared to someone else’s unless it wasn’t functioning well & you sought support from others. As competitors this awareness of our body is heightened as its intertwined with our identity “I look strong...fit...lean...fluffy...bloated...” Can only be a statement in reference to other people. But why?! Because, as soon as we reference something in this way we bring it into the real world which then means we bring our self-consciousness into it. Self-consciousness, is really just heightened awareness of the self as a unique individual So, when your body becomes part of you, it becomes part of the world which means it becomes comparable to others “Oh, so I’ll just see my body like an organ” Ah, if only it were that simple When something becomes part of your self-consciousness, it takes on imaginative forms which guide us to feel GOOD or BAD emotions relative to it The reflection in the mirror does not illicit gratification or disappointment. It is the fact that we relate the reflection to the way we see ourselves in other people’s minds We seek a mold to fit or an identity to be known for that embodies specific characteristics based on what we’ve seen or accepted as true Bikini Competitors want to be seen as in shape, disciplined, in control, 1%ers, proportioned, relentless, etc So, if you see yourself in the mirror, not fitting the expected form, you feel ashamed or inadequate Thus, being self-conscious is a reflection of an identity disconnect expressed through shame, guilt, or other negative emotions. Ready to overcome these heavy, limiting emotions & beliefs? Let’s make that happen together. Click HERE to send me an email and write me with the subject line "Self-Conscious" and then let me know you are interested in finding ways we can work together or I can help you. Even if I can't help you, I might be able to find someone who is a better fit for you or at least get you some resources :) Worth the reach out! Chat soon xx  MAKING HEALTHY COMPARISONS
There is a theory in social psychology called ‘Social Comparison Theory’ Which essentially suggests that we compare ourselves to other people as a way to evaluate our own abilities especially when we feel unsure of them! It’s used as a way to prove or disprove our concept of self This happens a lot in the fitness and competing world as well as business and entrepreneurship! With social media we can instantly conclude whether we are ‘good’ or ‘not so good’ at something Ever watch someone’s posing routine, lifts, professional photos, or even just their shape as a whole and compare yourself to see how you might stack up? Or compare your videos, bank account, speech invites, travel adventures, living situation, or clientele base to others? Sometimes, comparison is self-serving when we use it to our advantage. But for some people it tends to derail them. Like alllll the people who wanted to be great musicians but played their guitar 2x and decided they weren’t good enough, never would be like hendrix, and put it back in its case. So how do we make sure this comparison is healthy? Simply put, make sure our mind/self-concept is already in a healthy place before participating in comparison. Consider self-esteem, self-worth, & self-efficacy All three are different, all three matter. Many studies will show you that the people who have a high level of self-efficacy are more likely to persist after failure & be able to recover from the loss quicker which then contributes to higher self-worth & esteem! But like I said, this is just simplification of something which runs deeper than a blanket statement. I am known for completely transforming individuals’ relationship with themselves. From the way they think about themselves to the actions they take with directed self-introspection, growth, & healing. It’s systematic, & well thought out but also flexible & highly dependent on each individual client I’d love to invite you to apply to work with me 1:1 with breakthrough mindset coaching. Diving into self-love, mindset, and all things inner work to bring you fulfillment, peace, & empowerment! Click HERE to apply now! Have you ever just reflected on your life and seen all the ways you’ve actually proven yourself wrong?
This is something that has helped me tremendously to increase my self-efficacy which in return has contributed to my overall confidence and zest for life! There was a time in my life that I thought I would never be able to live without depression. This caused me so much anxiety in my life at the time! I got the help I needed, committed to personal development, and made positive self-loving changes in my life that have helped me to change this! Now a day with depression is so so so so rare for me and even when it comes up I am wayyyy more conscious awareness about it! Now when I find myself in fear or doubt or confusion i remind myself of times like that where I have proven myself wrong and dug my way out! Sometimes the best kept secret is the one we haven’t allowed ourselves to reveal At the deepest parts of us, from our pain and our glory we can find SO many lessons. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy I mean, at one point you couldn’t even read!!! Now look at you reading this post :’) I know that’s a bit silly but it’s true! Rather than focusing on what you “can’t” do or “may never” make happen... look at all that you’ve DONE and MADE HAPPEN! You may be surprised how often you prove yourself wrong. Now you know that as you grow you’ll continuously be faced with new challenges that will require you to bring the old levels of yourself as teachers and guides! Develop confidence in your abilities by seeing all the ways you have overcome challenges, faced your fears, or just kept going!! Want extra help with this? I wrote a book, “Believe your way to Badass” that’s all about redefining your beliefs, developing self-love, and manifesting your way to your best most badass self. It actually became a best seller globally! It’s on sale on amazon! Just click here to get your copy: http://amazon.com/author/celesterains-turk At the end of the day, our beliefs are driving everything. Let me know if you purchase it, or what you think of it if you’ve gone through it yourself 😊❤️ #trustyourpath  Are the demands being placed on you dehumanizing you?
Think of all the things you or others ask of you day in and day out. Complete x tasks Go x places Wear x clothing Do x thing Look x way Eat x foods It’s amazing to me that when we objectively look at society, so much of it is quite dehumanizing. Of course that’s not to say none of it is empowering! But people are literally dreading their days, maybe even you have or are! Then we create stories in our head to justify our lives as they are now even though we are DYING for more! What we really need to be doing is loving & honoring ourselves enough to set boundaries and choose things for OURSELVES. Define what being human means to you & take note of what allows you to feel most like YOURSELF😍 All too often people are wrapped up in the go go go that we don’t even take time to reflect on what we are really doing And when we do, we either don’t want to look because it’s not what we planned, we see the problem but don’t do anything to solve it, or we instantly choose growth! The work I do is really really amazing because I get to connect with people on such a deep level to improve their life. I literally watch them transform into the version of themselves who fulfills their needs, loves themselves, and attracts only the energy they want to call in! It’s so fulfilling for me because the work I do isn’t “easy” or something “anyone can do”. I really take pride in every single one of my clients and literally put so much time and attention to detail into what they’re going through It’s a culmination that occurs over months and months and growth is ALWAYS possible. I love watching them flourish! If you are looking for guidance, direction, or support in your life for making breakthroughs, sorting through the negative emotions in your head, and truly manifesting the life you desire...Apply for my 1:1 breakthrough coaching programs today and I will see if or how I can help you!. It’s not something I take lightly. And I honestly, not just saying this, can only work with 3-5 people per month because I’m THAT invested. Of course, you have to be invested too APPLY for one of my 1:1 breakthrough coaching spots HERE😊💝  Having an eating disorder is no joke and should never be taken lightly.
As a student of psychology and someone who has been through very toxic patterns with my relationship to food I have learned a great deal about these disorders. I am no expert but it is something I have invested a lot of time and energy into educating myself on and am truly passionate about expanding in. In a few of my psychology classes I made my entire focus to be only on reading about the diagnosis and treatment of eating disorders because this is something I know to be prevalent in the fitness community. There are very very specific criteria for a diagnosis for an eating disorder within the DSM-IV. Maybe you’ve never been diagnosed, you’ve never talked to anyone about your relationship with food, and you’ve never connected the emotions you have about your body or your life to the way you eat. But so much of this is comorbid, treatable, and I believe preventable. If we can become aware of toxic thought patterns before it becomes a full blown disorder I think this is just as important as bringing awareness to the disorders themselves. My personal struggle started at a very young age. My first “diet” was a bananas and milk diet. I was always uncomfortable in my body when I became aware that other kids weren’t as big as me. I felt like the weird one. I was called names like “Bigfoot” and made fun of for my size like one time I tripped and landed on a kid and he called me a “fat fuck” which was rough because all I wanted to do was play basketball with them. Eventually I kind of grew out of this / into my body but I can remember when I got into fitness it started from a place of wanting to change my body. I was in highschool, around 16 years old. I went through a breakup, looked in the mirror and didn’t like what I saw or how I felt in my body, I felt like I had no control, and I also wondered how much better of an athlete I could be if I did more than just go to practice. So I changed the way I ate and started working out a ton at home. But this is where things weren’t so pretty... I thought I had to workout after every meal I ate. I was afraid that if I didn’t then I would lose progress, gain fat, and not achieve my goals. I also thought I had to earn everything I ate so whether it was 3x1min jumping jacks after a bite of food or a full blown 50min HIIT workout after a meal, I was committed. This was my way of purging. I also wasn’t educated or aware of what was actually right for me or my goals. I put my body through so much. And I was never happy with myself. I also had a diagnosis for depression and anxiety after never-ending suicidal ideations, an attempt, and fear of my own mind that ran through every vein in my body. I felt my nutrition and exercise was the only thing I truly had control over considering I couldn’t even control my own mind. I had realized that no matter what i did though, i was never content or proud of myself. There was always more to demand of myself. So new extremes would be reached. I hired a coach, learned what foods were 'bad' and 'good', trained super hard after finally having money to get a gym membership, and on the weekends I was allowed one meal where I basically just binged and binged until I couldn't eat anymore. Then, right back at it during the week. Eventually I learned this pattern was unhealthy, unsustainable, and causing me a lot of mental and emotional distress while also impacting my day to day life. This time though and these experiences, taught me so much in my life. Aside from discipline that I’m grateful for it also taught me freedom and self love. At the time I had fallen in love with fitness it felt like my therapy, may saving grace, and gave me so much! So, I got my personal trainer certification and started studying to receding a degree in clinical nutrition and dietetics. In 2015 decided to do a bikini competition to see how far I could take my body and see what progress I’ve made and just after treating myself like a guinea pig for so long after falling in love with fitness! I wanted to experience this. But my demons weren’t completely gone. Which became even MORE apparent to me after the show. I had a crazy rebound and the light finally got shone on my darkness with food and my body And it was the pain i needed to discover my true purpose on this earth, to help people BUILD MORE THAN JUST A BODY. And thus, my self love journey began and slowly developed into so much More. I could have sworn I invented intuitive eating as I began diving into the opposite of what I’d done for yours but then I found this was something many people have been through and overcome, I started learning and researching and asking the right questions of myself! I maintained healthy habits but gave myself freedom. I detached from the fear of foods and opened myself up to new beliefs and ideas. I began to heal, truly heal from the inside out. Over this two year period I healed my relationship with food, my body, and my life really. I expanded into personal development, mindset work, holistic practices and beliefs, found and lived by MY truth—not others, and even changed my major to psychology because this is the true work I want to do in the world. I was finally mentally ready to do another bikini competition and what do you know? It didn’t harm me. Nothing surfaced that I hadn’t already worked through. I was mentally stable and loved myself at a level where the choices I was making were not from a disordered or distressed place. They didn’t negatively impact how I functioned on a daily basis. I saw my body as a blessing, not a curse, and I now use the lessons, education, research review, personal breakthroughs and experiences, as well as alllllll my darkness to now bring LIGHT into the world for many people who don’t see it yet. I am at peace. I was able to find peace. I became consciously aware before it became too big of a problem. I saw my pain and went into it, poked it, made it hurt sooooo bad, that the only option I had was to clean it and sew myself back up—so I did. Eating disorders have become more prevalent over the years. Promoting disordered behaviors, the ‘right vs wrong’ mentality, the ‘good bs bad’ labels, the ‘this diet vs that one’ DOES NOT HELP THE CAUSE. I think it is our responsibility in the fitness and health industry to promote; Body positivity AND health Being aware AND treatment Accepting others AND loving ourselves The truth that we are ALL DIFFERENT and just because something worked or didn’t work for you or hurt you or triggered you doesn’t mean it does the same for others. We have a responsibility to promote educating, helpful, and positive messages. I have made my life's work about helping others to align inner work with physical results. I help people to Build More than Just a Body to establish a fulfilling, freeing, and empowering lifestyle. I have created three programs that could be perfect for you if you are going through this: My 4 Week Food Freedom Academy to help anyone breakdown the barriers between themselves and food, improve that relationship, get in touch with their intuitive eater, and find balance. For all the information and to sign up you can click HERE My 8 Week Post-Show Personal Development Program for Bikini Competitors to help you make peace with food, your body, and your new goals while heading into an improvement season. I go deeper than surface level, looking beyond macros, reverse dieting, or accountability check ins and deliver my signature mindset action method to help you find peace deep within you so you NEVER experience the post-show blues again without knowing exactly what to do! This is perfect to enroll in while you are in prep to have for right after the show or if you are currently dealing with the post-show blues this will help you overcome them! You can learn more about it and sign up by clicking HERE My 1:1 Mindset, Self-Love, and Personal Development Mentorship breakthrough coaching packages where we work together privately to overcome your personal limiting beliefs, toxic relationship with yourself, and unhealthy patterns that make you feel less than your absolute most fulfilled and freest. This is personal and customized to each individual. To learn more and inquire about how we could work together and how this works you can apply HERE  YOU CAN DO ANYTHING YOU DESIRE:
🔥Launch Your Business 🔥Write a Best-Selling Book 🔥Get featured 🔥Start a podcast 🔥Fall in Love 🔥Travel 🔥Buy your dream car 🔥Speak on stages in front of 100s of people 🔥Run, lift heavier weights, compete in something 🔥Get a promotion 🔥Be healthy 🔥MAKE A DIFFERENCE Your subconscious programming, conscious choices, & current beliefs are either serving you or limiting you from doing what you want! You might have read this & thought some of this, “I would love to do that but... I don’t have money I suck at x I am afraid of x No one knows me Other people already do that I am too xyz I’ve tried already I won’t make a difference No one will care“ THE LIST COULD GO ON!! If anything like that came up it does NOT mean you are bad or wrong or an excuse maker! I see you as someone with so much potential! I used to have many negative beliefs that held me back from accomplishing all those things. Only when my beliefs, efficacy, esteem, & desire are strong do I actually succeed! A few years ago I hired a mindset mentor, underwent various courses, did tons of my own digging, and was able to effect real change in my life! It opened my eyes to a world I knew existed but couldn’t reach... it allowed me to expand beyond my wildest dreams! I finally put my finger on the service my soul craved to give others! THIS is what I was born to do. I even wrote a book about some major principles that changed my life & I switched my degree to Psychology! Now I help people all over the world with my mindset principles & expertise By healing your relationship with yourself, rewriting your beliefs, & transforming your actions YOU CAN become whoever you want to be! I work with people 1:1 through my breakthrough coaching calls, followed up with notes & specific action steps based on YOUR needs along with follow ups between calls. Want to learn more about how we can work together to create your winning mindset? Send me a message and we can see if we are truly an amazing fit ☺️✨ And of course be sure to get a copy of my best selling book “Believe your way to Badass” on amazon :) |
Celeste Rains-Turk
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