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 I changed my life in so many ways in the last year. I did things for myself that were scary & would change my “norm” but that my soul knew was best for me
I reflected on how much had to shift in me in order to make these shifts in my life I made scary decisions, took leaps of faith, had huge commitments I stuck to, & major moments of really tuning in to my soul & trusting in a higher power that I could make these choices & would be okay Something bodybuilding has taught me which has contributed to this is the inevitability of impermanence (the body is never the same, seasons come & go with expectations, standards…) I’ve come to realize & embrace that nothing is permanent as everything is always evolving in some way. Even energy, which cannot be destroyed, takes on new forms I myself have taken on a new form My life opened up when I decided it was time I honor & value myself in EVERY area I developed a more secure attachment with myself which allowed me to act on the calling to liberate myself from the things which were keeping me stuck in undesirable patterns I faced betrayal, anxiety, confusion, doubt, denial…but felt more prepared to stand up for myself & my needs because: 1- Taking hit after hit in my life with pain & suffering that was unimaginable gave me more endurance & resilience to face difficult realities I lived in 2- I felt comfortable with the idea of letting go because I knew I could support, comfort, & validate myself. Plus, I have a strong support system 3- I consistently live with my values in mind & when they were being deprioritized/ sacrificed due to fears that were coming from other deep rooted beliefs or experiences…I recognized this & ask if I would rather live life as it is & likely continue to feel worse or endure a short sharp & potentially nagging pain that’d ultimately free me once processed 4- I evaluated my needs, desires, & beliefs about myself & I repeated, “I am worthy of what I want & deserve what I desire” so when I wasn’t acting accordingly, it was glaringly obvious The mission is always to #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY ONE decision can change your entire life & provide space to receive all that you truly desire❤️I changed my life in so many ways in the last year. I did things for myself that were scary & would change my “norm” but that my soul knew was best for me
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 In order to know the whole, you must be willing to understand the parts
The entirety of anything is made up of many somethings Some parts may be easily labeled as bad, good, ugly, shameful, celebratory, inspiring, righteous… I say easily because they are often dismissed or placed on a pedestal or even avoided—all easy things to do because it doesn’t require much reflection or seeking perspective I’ve come to learn from myself, without any singular part (whether it’s an experience, identity, belief, value, or something else…) there would be no way to explain who I am now It’s because of all those pieces coming together that I can do my best to understand myself And when it comes to knowing, loving, accepting, & appreciating others…we owe them the same level of respect we might expect For example, we may assume something of ourselves, question the assumption, & then check in for clarity to not pass judgment before understanding the basis of the assumption When talking with someone else we may assume they like certain things or are a certain way because of how we perceive them…but this doesn’t mean it is reality so curiosity is helpful here I often work with or connect with people who judge parts of themselves so harshly… They want to dismiss aspects of who they are in hopes that they can “get rid of” it But the energy will always be there So rather than trying to deny that there can be many sides to you (or someone else), which often leads to suppression or repression of needs & can trigger the avoidance cycle, we might instead try to foster a relationship with every part of ourself with acceptance that each voice or pattern or response within us is a communicator trying to work with other parts of you to support your entire journey Again, it’s easier to dismiss or label than it is to put it under a microscope only to see even more parts It can be painful, vulnerable, or revealing but you deserve to know the depths of yourself & find comfort in exploring the depths of others knowing you may not like everything you find but it will be so worth it for the love & appreciation of the whole through the acceptance of all parts❤️ #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY What’s a growing season without some new clothing that makes you feel bombbb⏳🔥?!
Part of loving your body is dressing your body in a way that helps her feel comfortable and helps you feel confident! Stop trying to squeeze into old clothes or hide away in them Wherever you’re at in your journey, you deserve to feel good! I personally like to challenge myself to wear crop tops on days where I feel more Meh about my body because it helps remind me it’s about how I feel and my comfort and function more than anything! It helps remind me this body is amazing in every phase! I’ve come to learn and appreciate the changes the body goes through season to season in this sport While the intention is not for it to be extreme in nature, as that’s not healthy either (been there done that), it’s important to have a healthy view of yourself as your view on yourself could inform the way you perceive interactions with others, how you show up in important relationships or work, and keep you from living PRESENTLY Your body is a gift that will serve you forever and was built to rise to unimaginable demands that others might try to limit you from pushing yourself to achieve, and your own mind serves as the “reason” but when you put the two together and utilize psychology with your physiology as well as spirituality, you can see that you really benefit most when you #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY If you’re looking for more support in these areas, I have tons of resources on my site from free downloads and courses, low price membership platform with community calls, & even my 1:1 services & programs Now I will say, I love these pieces from @prozis @prozisusa They reached out to me to try some of their fits, food, & accessories & so far so good… I have a few more food items to try before I give them the green light but I definitely liked the protein pudding & a cool looking gold shaker bottle I got. & they sell bulk stevia😍. SHOP HERE #prozis #prozisusa #exceedyourself  A woman can be all things but the best thing a woman can ever be is true to herself
Integrity will allow you to pursue, give, attract, and receive all that’s meant for you While pushing and striving and going for more is important, it is second to being in a state of gratitude, faith, and openness I have spent valuable time “doing” without even being prepared to receive, giving without even being considerate of my own needs, and striving without fostering peace in my heart to celebrate, validate, or acknowledge my effort When I allowed myself to shed old ways, identities, and beliefs I freed my energy and time up to not just create a life I love but LIVE it I have fostered a deeper understanding of myself, who I am to me, what I want, and why I’m worthy of wanting it I’m still learning and I’m certainly not a perfect person but I know what I’ve been through, I know what I’ve accepted and no longer will, I know I have and always will be meant for more and I recognize that one of my greatest gifts is my open heart I have endured things that could have destroyed me and my perspective but my openness has allowed me to “heal”, grow, and overcome or work through / with these experiences I truly believe that it is all part of my path and purpose I know that everything I have been through has given me insight, resilience, and perspective. I have and continue to do so much work to find peace with what has occurred around me, through me, because of me, in spite of me, unexpectedly…you name it I know the woman I want to be & I know that the woman I am is ever-evolving Acceptance in authenticity allows you to live in integrity This comes with the acknowledgement that who you are now isn’t who you were and won’t be who you are becoming but all these parts and versions of you exist to support the inevitability and truth that is change, growth, evolution Women are powerful. I love being one, knowing them, supporting them It may not feel natural to accept “womanhood” as it can come with the definitions, standards, & views of others of what that means But when you shift your energy to embrace the woman you are…there can be more peace & pleasure in the acceptance  Every season you are provided for by a body thats purpose is to support you and keep you alive
No matter how you treat your vessel, she is made to serve you Fostering gratitude and compassion for your body could encourage more loving behavior to support you in supporting your body Judgment, shame, comparison…all screams “not enough” and does not evoke an inspired sense of worthiness whereas “thank you body” inspires an energy and commitment to care for your body Much like when you thank someone in your life, you want them to know how much it truly means so you express it as best you can with presence, warmth, and sometimes a nice returned gesture…. The act of loving your body can look like a nourishing meal, slowing down to breathe, pushing heavier weight, taking a rest, engaging all your senses, giving yourself a massage, wearing clothing that fits… When I have harder days of embracing physique changes, I always remind myself of the power of gratitude and compassion I hope it helps you too :) What’s something you can be grateful to your body for?? #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY  All or nothing thinking is characterized by a dichotomous view of the world. It often sounds like, 'this/that' 'good/bad' 'perfect/failure'
We can live more productively if we prioritize a life of dialectical thinking whereby we recognize multiple ways of thinking can coexist & support us in our life The dichotomous thought process can serve a purpose in quick decision making but if it is the automatic pathway you live by, you may subject yourself to challenges in how you perceive yourself, others, actions, outcomes, & life altogether It is more beneficial to consider all possible perspectives because it can evoke more consideration for every variable & support the use of wise mind when making decisions vs just falling into solely relying on emotion or logic for decision making When considering your goals, it can be easy to fall into this belief that you are a failure if you don’t do things perfectly or to the level of the highest standard which currently exists An approach that would be better than expecting to be the best tomorrow would be to set a small goal that you know is more achievable & use this win to build confidence to win again tomorrow When @healthish sent me this water bottle, I thought about how even drinking h2o can be hard Forming sustainable habits is easier w/ realistic goals (like time markers on the bottle) The company promotes pragmatism & balance which means to favor approaching life with flexible application & acceptance that there’s no one way other than that which someone can use purposefully in their life & even then, an open mind is prioritized All or nothing thinking protects us from the grey area which is scary since its not an absolute which usually give a false sense of control When aiming to move away from all or nothing thinking, consider: what are other possible approaches?, what evidence do I have that this thought is trustworthy?, how could I restate this thought to be considerate of myself & my circumstances? If you’re looking for more support on overcoming all or nothing thinking, you can learn more about the work I do or check out resources code celestial_fit for 10% off the bottle!  You have to look at the most vulnerable parts of yourself in order to even come close to loving yourself fully
The surface level solutions for self love like face masks, bubble baths, a night in, and treating yourself are lovely and can be implemented proactively and as needed But we must also be willing to go into the depths of our soul & meet our demons with acknowledgement, understanding, and acceptance It’s painful to see these parts. Especially if rooted in trauma or hurt or relationship to others Often they reveal to us the things which matter most though…we can see what we value or what we need or what we can better express when we we can pay attention to and respect how we feel when exploring our pain It’s unconditional self-love. One that says I love myself as I am AND I love myself enough to: treat myself better, pursue what I want, set boundaries, be myself, express my desires and needs, rewrite conditioned beliefs, walk away, embrace, nourish, respect all sides of me When we sit with our past it can inform our future but when we avoid things which are hard to acknowledge that we ever did, thought, felt, or experienced, we block ourselves from the human gift of insight! We don’t hold the mirror up to face the darkness and confirm maladaptive beliefs about ourselves that result in more loathing though…we are holding the mirror up to face the darkness & establish that there can be love in spite of it, lessons through it, & a blessing to experience the adventures of life that grant us all permission to let go of perfection & instead embrace vulnerability as a tool for resilience, failure as a lens to growth, doubt as a path to faith, & comfort in the fact that all we truly are is who we are now and there is no guarantee of our own evolution since we don’t know what tomorrow brings but in our ability to future pace we foster a connection to ourselves that can lend beneficial to our connections with others #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY Need some mental support? I have tons of free resources like my mental health card deck, post show blues or food relationship coaching series & more 📸: @gilcoproductions  Self-love, like any love, is not just about what you say, it’s about what you do, how you make yourself feel, and the way you show up for yourself even when it’s hard or even when everything is so scary dark that going into those parts of you requires a level of unconditional support and compassion which demands of us vulnerability & courage
Self-love can be nourishment, movement, connection, reflection, intention, communication, faith, environment, compassion, exploration, education, respect, consistency, healing… What comes to mind when you think of self love? Any of these or anything else?⬇️💘 . If you aren’t sure where to start with self-love, ask yourself what your main love language is and see how it can be applied to your own self-care and consideration each day If you are looking for even greater support, reach out! I’m happy to give some ideas or point you to some resources. I do have a 3 part competitor card deck linked in my bio that you can download digitally and see prompts for affirmations, journaling, and specific action items that can support your journey as an athlete Www.celestial.fit/cards @gilcoproductions 📸 shoot from the @teambossbodiesretreat🔥
Blaming things outside of yourself because you’re dissatisfied with the outcome shows a lack of personal responsibility
This reinforces a narrative that your life is not guided by free will. But if you choose to give up your free will then what will is there to improve yourself or your life? Personal responsibility gives you power & provides insight & drive that comes from deep within you so no matter what the outcome is, you respect yourself because every choice you made was deliberate In bodybuilding you see competitors blame the coach, plan, judges, industry In work you see people blame the economy, customers, employees, boss In relationships you see people blame the partner, childhood, trauma, environment In school it’s the teachers, system, curriculum In mental health it’s society, genetics, upbringing, diet culture, social media People point the finger because It feels good as it relieves the reality that you had something to do with the outcome By not taking responsibility, you don’t have to face those contributing parts of yourself Sure, extrinsic factors absolutely make an impact and matter. But they are not the sole contributing reason for the outcome You have the choice in how you engage with or participate in your story When you decide that every experience in life can be influenced, even simply through perception or reframe, by you then you will have to accept the pain that comes from looking within to heal or change or evaluate where things could have been done better and only then can you accept the relief & joy of choosing growth, reflection, application, pride, power… I learned many times in my journey that there were choices I did (or did not) make that could’ve changed the trajectory of my life dramatically I saw that when I didn’t take personal responsibility, I felt empty which came from doing nothing over something that is meaningful enough to cause inner turmoil or distress When I take responsibility for how I approach bodybuilding, business, relationships, I find relief from shame, others stories, & powerlessness Personal responsibility takes courage but ultimately leads to liberation #BUILDMORETHANJUSTABODY  A fu*king 👸🏻 own it 👏🏻
Recognize your worth, your value, your heart. Command respect from and for yourself and be compassionate with your soul. I’ve learned that if I judge my emotions or my experiences too harshly then I block myself from their purpose in my life. If I am open minded, present, in tune, flexible, soft…I can maneuver them more easily and with less shame It’s not always easy. Especially when you’re a woman who wants what is best for herself and tends to go to great lengths to get as close to the illusion that is perfection Which is what makes letting go and focusing on doing your best right here and now so powerful. I have a quote in my office that supports me in staying grounded “If you fulfill your obligations everyday, you don’t need to worry about the future”- @jordan.b.peterson I love this because it puts more emphasis on the execution of each daily discipline more than anything else. It also eliminates the fixation on the future and allows us to see that what truly matters is the experience we are having or allowing for right NOW which ultimately will catalyze future experiences or processes I currently feel like I’m living the life I always dreamt of. If you read my old journals you’d see I really have brought a vision to life. But this couldn’t have happened without intentional daily effort and belief in myself I share my process in a book I wrote and released in 2016. You can search for “Believe your way to Badass” and order from Amazon, Barnes and Noble, Google, and More. You can get is HERE! |
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