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The way you speak about yourself can be a powerful first step towards a better life & version of yourself!
Many of the people I work with express to me things like:
“That’s just how I’ve always been”
“I am a __ so I could never __”
“Everyone in my family is like this, we are just made this way”
“I’m always going to be __”
But this language sends messages to our mind, reaffirming that we are comfortable & fine with where we are (even if we say and acknowledge we want to change our reality)
Your identity is so powerful and will literally dictate the majority of your emotions and be the root of the majority of your pains
When we constantly affirm to ourselves that we do not have the choice, and therefore the freedom, to change then we are constantly affirming that we don’t need to try because we conclude that it’s just not possible to change
And even if others have changed, it’s not possible for you because that’s just how you’ve “always been” right?
Interesting how we create belief patterns that support us in staying comfortable so we don’t challenge our homeostasis with things like personal development or mindset work
“ahhh no I’m afraid of the dark”-our minds when we try to confront our own limitations & demons
So when we use language that affirms that we are making choices for everything we are & all that we do, we are essentially retraining our mind to be comfortable with the concept of change because we have given ourselves the freedom to pursue it
So, do you have something you ALWAYS identify with that could be holding you back?
Not sure? Pay attention to your common descriptions of yourself this week in casual conversation, they’ll reveal themselves 😉
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BUILD MORE THAN JUST A BODY
The person you’ve become would be helpless without the person you’ve been
And the person you are now is an asset to the person you’re becoming
No matter how hard things get or painful things feel, it’s all having an impact on you
It’s not meant to be a shortcoming that makes you weaker but a preparation for the strength you will need for yourself and for others
It’s easy to feel hopeless in the worst of times
But when you stick it out, you realize those were the times that actually made you who you are today
Because when you commit to a loving, positive, accepting relationship with yourself; your life follows suit
Things that could have been trauma to resolve become instant lessons instead
Things that could have been devastating become part of your mission
Things that are heavy and feel impossible to relieve, become your empathy and your strength
It’s not a matter of what is happening around you, it’s about whats happening within you
When I reflect on some of the hardest times and moments of my life I don’t see the same pain or the same hopelessness
Reflected back is my mission, my purpose, my skillsets, my emotional intelligence, my empathy, my awareness, everything that makes me who I am
I wouldn’t trade a single day of depression, anxiety, body loathing, binging, exercise purging, abusive behavior, confusion, fear, loss, mistakes, never enoughness, or all human issues and experiences for anything
Because if it wasn’t for the person I was and the choices I made or the experiences I had, I wouldn’t be doing what I do now, living the life I live, experiencing and radiating positivity and love, or having a deeper appreciation for peace, happiness, health, and freedom
You’re going to be okay, literally, and when you’re not, you’re going to be better for it
BUILD MORE THAN JUST A BODY
Have you noticed this too?
Self-love is the prerequisite to sustainable, enjoyable, and conscious decision making
Not just in fitness of course, but I’m anything!
I fully believe that when we love ourselves it is easier to take care of ourselves because, well, LOVE
Just like what many of us seek from others, we must provide that to ourselves
So if you want to take care of your body more...ask yourself where you need to heal, love, honor, listen, and support your body more
It’s not a matter of just changing shapes THEN loving your body
It’s about LOVING your body and reaping the reward of the care and consciousness that comes with that
Plus, when you love YOURSELF you’re also going to be more inspired to pursue your goals and make positive decisions to achieve them
If you struggle with this concept just reflect it onto something outside of you and your body
Think of it like you and your significant other
The more you fell in love, the more comfortable and willing you were to care for them, look out for them, cater to them, and make them happy
Simply put, your answer to establishing greater habits comes from loving yourself
Why not just leave it behind us the rest of today? And tomorrow? And the next?
Why not just start flexing those self-love and mindset muscles now so come 2020 the v2.0 of you is already kicking ass?
Not gunna preach when you should or shouldn’t start your goals but I will say if you’ve been battling with these things for a long time, you can change it and you can change it starting now
I have 3 options for you:
1. Join my On-Demand Mindset Coaching Platform to receive instant support and mentorship based on a specific struggle you’re dealing with related to body image, motivation/discipline, goals, negative self-talk, and food relationship (link in comments)
2. Apply for my Food Relationship Healing & Discovery journal program with 1:1 coaching and 24/7 access to me
3. Contact me to discuss how we can work together to take your mindset to the next level focusing on all aspects of your inner world supporting your external experiences so you can show up for yourself every day bringing your best and becoming your best
It’s never “too late” and I don’t believe in “lost causes” so don’t message me asking me if I think you’re a lost cause, I definitely won’t
But do message me letting me know what’s going on for you so I can determine if and how I can help you
When I was overcoming many of my mental challenges I’d ask myself if I still want to have them in 5-10 years and what it would be like if I did
That certainly got my ass in gear every time
I committed to changing my reality day in and day out so one day I wouldn’t have to anymore
Now I am in “maintenance” and “growth” mode. I’m not constantly dealing with the issues that once weighed on me
I just focus on continuing my conscious choices, thoughts, and behaviors WHILE focusing on my next level growth and versions of myself
When you’re feeling MEH about the way your body looks, ask yourself these 2 questions
The first one will help you focus on function over form
The second one will help you reconnect to the importance of living in a way that supports you in having a body that functions optimally
Through nourishing, self-loving action steps we can change our body
Ever notice how the more you pick yourself apart the more of a downward spiral you fall into?
It’s like an evil trap that screams “I hate how I am & want to change but because I hate how I am I do not have the motive or desire to enact that change!”
So you self-sabotage or just wallow in shame and dread for the next time you have to look at your body and sometimes even face the truth that you may not be doing everything you can for her
Also important to note that when you are taking loving & positive actions for your body you’ll be more likely to appreciate and adore her because you are in a higher energy state & feel more autonomous with yourself
Another reason these two questions are some of my go tos?
Your body may not be supporting the way you live or want to live so you may need to change your habits or get help like see a doctor or fix your hormones to help support your body in supporting you
& if you’ve read this far I’ll give you some follow up questions to ponder on
Comment an emoji below when you’ve read them 😉
Is the lifestyle that comes with the body I’m longing for something I am interested in, capable of, or ready to commit to?
Are there other actions I need to take to prepare myself first?
If I committed in the mental space I am in now would I even be able to sustain it? (ie if you have a bad relationship with food you likely wouldn’t sustain an even stricter diet)
Who do I have to become in order to love and embrace my body while also LOVING and EMBRACING my body? (What beliefs, habits, behaviors, etc. would be required if you?)
Hope this helps you as much as it has helped myself and my clients
Need more support?
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BUILD MORE THAN JUST A BODY
You’re not beautiful because of your body, but your body is beautiful because of you
Our bodies are responsible for carrying us around this life to give all of us unique individusouls a human experience?! How amazing is that?
How awesome to know that we can influence & change our body with thoughts, behaviors, & habits?!
The fact that our body has built in self-care signals to say when its time to eat, rest, move, express, literally everything we experience our body gives us the ability to crave more of it, protect ourselves from similar negative experiences, or even give opportunities to transcend the person we thought we were at any given moment is really quite amazing
We have brains going with us everywhere which we can literally tap into & change or can change alone based on experiences In the matter of a moment & impact the rest of our life
Yet we still always have the power to recreate ourselves or our life
WE ARE LITERALLY MAGIC
For the last 6+ years I’ve known that my mission is to increase the level of self-love on this planet
It deeply saddens me to see so many people walking around self-loathing & even creating realities for themselves that are not ideal at all just because on some level they don’t feel worthy, deserving, or capable of MORE
Perspective shifting, knowledge, practice, & a desire are what we each need to continuously grow & enact change in ourselves & as a byproduct, our lives
The days I obsess over how my body look are few & far between because I’m far more focused & committed to seeing & celebrating the unbelievableness that each of us are
It’s taken me time to heal my relationship with my body & it is of course a DAILY commitment
I’ve made conscious choices to shift my thought patterns & create new neural pathways that no longer say “body=not good enough” but now say “body=scarily undefinably more than enough”
I’ve shifted from being hyper focused on the look to being hyper aware of how I feel & the person I am becoming as I shape shift
Of all the ways I’ve freed myself from the wild capacities of my own mind, unconditionally loving my body is 1 of my most cherished ❤️💆🏻♀️
BUILD MORE THAN JUST A BODY
Some people look at themselves in the mirror and see what’s really there
Some of those people are judgmental of what they see and some aren’t
Some people look in the mirror and don’t see reality, but rather a contorted image of themselves
People with body dysmorphia tend to hone in and focus on “flaws” or things that draw their attention and make them out to be way bigger than they really are
For example, some people become so obsessive about how a facial feature looks that they get super self conscious about it, want to change it, feel like everyone is staring at it, or like it’s the first thing people see—this happens a lot with blemishes but can also be seen in people who continue to get surgery without ever finding happiness with that structure
Similarly, people who express body image issues tend to see their body way differently than it is OR obsess on one specific area (let’s take the stomach for example)
They might constantly stare at it, pinch it, think it is huge, check it in the mirror, pull at their clothing, cover it up, deny compliments of any change, and become so concerned with its appearance to others
But how and why is this happening?
While earning my degree in Psychology I learned about perception, which really is everything
Perception is how we take in stimuli, process it, and then do something with it like form a belief or make a statement or take an action
It’s influenced by the sensory input like something smelling a certain way and then experiences, knowledge, thought patterns, environment, conditioning, culture, memory, witnessing others experiences; basically all the ways we experience the world around us so maybe that smell is actually very nostalgic to you but to someone else REEKS of an ex
So the reason some people judge their body differently than others can come from their conditioning or worldview which is not just a product of their own choosing but people, ads, culture, & the things I previously listed all around them weaving into the subconscious & of course past experiences like being called fat by peers at a young age & associating this with being bad, ugly, & undesirable then carrying that with you for life (UNTIL YOU ADDRESS IT OF COURSE—because you can change these things)
But it’s also sometimes genetic, or even because of the way someone brains functions differently than someone else’s
Some studies have shown that people with BDD that leads to disordered eating have different activation in their neural networks & some even show inhibited spatial organization or body orientation
I hope that this provides some perspective and hope for you if you’re struggling to know that even if it feels like something is “wrong with” you or you are exhibiting some of these unhealthy behaviors that you’re only just recently becoming aware of, the good news is YOU CAN CHANGE❤️🧠💆🏻♀️
What if I told you that letting go of control is what will bring you the freedom and peace of mind you’re really looking for?
What if control became associated with conscious decision making rather than consistent restraint?
What if you chose even for a moment to release all the definitions, actions, & thoughts associated with controlling your body, your food, your life...what would be different?
What if the thought of giving up control didn’t make you feel anxious but empowered you instead?
What if you challenged everything you’ve been taught to believe about health, weight, your body, size, shape, food, eating...?
What if when you stand in front of a mirror the reflection you see is actually reality & you realize you’re allowed to love the way you look now?
What if you felt everything in your life so deeply and chose to heal it without stigma, that there was never a need to turn to external sources like food or exercise or restriction to feel in control of your life?
What if you just decided right now to release the rules, expectations, & fears of judgment so you could feel truly free? ❤️
Really, what’s the worst that could happen?
If you’re struggling now, trying the same thing over and over to feel a sense of control, beauty, fulfillment, validation, happiness, or you name it... what harm can really come from committing to a new way of thinking?
What if you changed your thoughts, beliefs, actions, and habits despite the pain, pushback, doubts, fear, and chaos that it can evoke within you and it actually changed the entire course of the rest of your life?
You are SO deserving of more love my friends, give yourself permission to give to yourself and receive it from yourself
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If you created your current reality, you can create a new one
Your normal might consist of being unhappy, sad, ashamed, full of guilt, empty, hurt, angry, or numb
Your normal might be full of unsurprising events with some sort of lusting for a life that “could be but likely never will be”
Your normal might feel uneasy, unpredictable, scary
But it doesn’t always have to be this way and the only way it wouldn’t change is if you don’t
Your next normal could be entirely different from your current narrative
Change the way you think
When you change the way your brain is wired, you’re inevitably going to be changing your actions, when you change your actions your results change and when your results change so does your experience of life
It’s no longer feeling like something so far out of reach but now like something you can always take hold of and steer any which way you desire
I don’t just say this as a psychology and personal development nerd
Despite literature of more reliable case studies, eons of anecdotal evidence, and the mere fact that our brain is literally the epicenter of our functions...
I’ve also witnessed it first hand
I haven’t been deeply depressed or suicidal (something I never thought I’d be able to rid myself of) in years
Because of this my anxiety has also decreased massively as I’m no longer fearful of myself or my thoughts
While I’ve always been a VERY optimistic person (sometimes too much for my own good they say)
My life has dramatically improved since making myself a priority
I always had goals and dreams and chased them relentlessly whether it was athletics or school or career
(Fun fact I even started my first business at 9 years old and carried on with the thought of pursuing that profession until junior year of high school! Can you guess what that was?)
But the difference is now I feel like ME and I love this me because she is such a pure light form of who I’ve always known I could be
When I would get depressed it scared me so much because I knew it “wasn’t me” I can remember being so enamored by the thought of death and yet feeling like I was just trapped in my own sad chemical ridden brain, I’d always give people support for their concern of me by saying “but it’s not me don’t worry it just comes over me, idk what it is”
Even though it wasn’t my fault that this would happen, I had a LOT of responsibility to take
And if I stopped EVERY positive thing I do for my mind now, I know it wouldn’t be long until I regressed to a dark and scary version of me
Want to know some of the things that made the biggest difference for me?
Here’s 10 just to scratch the surface:
Happiness can be tapped into the same way sadness can. This doesn’t mean you never experience any other emotions, it just means your baseline is more content, at peace, happy :)
Imagine what will happen when you start chasing the idea of “being happy” and instead choose to simply become happiness
One of the best parts about improving is that no one can do it for you
Not a coach, therapist, mentor, friend, partner, stranger, not even a crystal ball, card deck, or the moon
You’re going to have to commit to it for yourself, because others can only take you so far!
Whether you’re going to school, working on physique goals, trying to heal yourself internally, making your mindset work for you, improving your relationship with food, changing how you see & talk to yourself, making a relationship better, creating relationships, being comfortable with yourself...
WHATEVER THE GROWTH YOU’RE SEEKING IS; it isn’t going to happen on its own
& again, that’s the best part
You have to implement the help you receive, coaching or mentorship you invest in, events you go to, books you read, journaling or meditation, ALL of it is up to you
AND it’s amazing how just going through the motions isn’t even enough, you have to really frikkin do the work
Growth is in essence the stretching or expansion of yourself in some way shape or form
So it’s not meant to feel “normal” because then it’s probably just maintenance work, not real developmental work
I‘m grateful for the clients I have who see the benefit to implementing the work we do that they invested in
I have so many success stories because I‘m lucky enough to attract clients who aren’t afraid to put the work in
Makes sense since many of them are competitors, moms, military, students, biz owners...ok yep they’re all badass
But the deal is, The clients of mine who genuinely execute(d) between 80-100% of the work we do, I give them, we agree on, or I set them up with in a program, succeed at what appears to others to be mind boggling levels in record time (I don’t mess around lol)
But the ones who sit on their hands, don’t communicate with me, make excuses, tell me they haven’t done the action steps...well it takes a bit longer for them to get to the light at the end of the tunnel & I WISH I could do the work for them but I can’t & it would be the greatest disservice of all
Feeling inspired to make a 🧠 shift? Contact me now to see it & how we can work together 😊❤️☕️💆🏻♀️