I hear people say all the time “I’m not good enough” or “what if I’m not good enough” or “I don’t know if it’ll be enough”.
And it always brings me to the question of this elusive “enough” and what really is it?
Preconceived beliefs, definitions, standards, examples, judgements, qualities…
To which then I say, how are you NOT enough? And how ARE you enough already?
We can fixate on all that we aren’t and all that we could be but if it’s at the expense of who we are then this will always be true.
You will never be good enough until you define what it means to be enough as you are.
This does not mean you play the “I’m fine as I am and don’t need to change because I’m perfect” game.
That’s not so great either.
You can live in acceptance and peace while also saying I deserve and demand more.
You can choose to have an ideal self who is kind, helpful, and compassionate of who you are now or one who is judgmental and critical.
That voice that you subscribe to can be manipulated by you.
When you say you’re not enough, question what enough is…what enough will be tomorrow and years from now…is there ever an enough?
The fallacy that the end is where we will be happy or that when we get somewhere we will have arrived is detrimental to the empowering nature of striving for more.
Don’t give up your desire for better, give up the criticism and doubt that is upheld by what / who you foresee as “the best version” of yourself and trade it in for a version of you that is really ready for growth, awakening, ideas, and forward momentum.
People who make excuses are in a state of resistance and “I’m just not good enough” is an excuse to not get better.
So what if you were good enough and got better because of it?