In some of my toughest times, I have felt that I was unworthy of & hard to love

I realize so much of this was rooted in the belief that in order to be lovable I needed;

The perfect attitude, affection, aesthetic…

The best responses, rationalizations, recall…

The most considerate, compassionate, caring…

The more open minded, optimistic, & orderly I could be, the more I would be loved…

When you think you always have to be perfect to be loved, you’ll likely discredit how much your presence alone is lovable & how you were created in love & by the greatest source of love

I think often that it’s easier to justify a negative thought process of not being worthy of love or support or care because this feeds the narrative that is making us feel this way. We dismiss the evidence that this is not true & fixate on evidence that has proven it true

In an effort to overcome it we need to be willing to challenge the contributing thoughts that accompany this belief & work to craft a more healthy narrative

It is not easy because usually this belief serves us in some way… protecting us from potential pain, hurt, rejection by creating it proactively

We can ask;
How am I worth loving now?
What parts of me do I find hard to love or accept?
If I were to love & accept those parts of me, what would it mean about me? how would it look?

You don’t have to tell yourself affirmations that feel like lies. But you need to take the time to identify truths and determine what is real vs what is a perception that has been made in alignment with an unhealthy belief system?

I know firsthand how scary & downright hard it is to re read the book you’ve been writing your whole life only to realize that you need to rewrite the sentences through a lens that you are not so used to looking through but KNOW is clearer, better, healthier, stronger…

Maybe your tendency to avoid changing the narrative is really the desire for your mind to be congruent with the belief that you’re not lovable unless __.

It won’t become first nature right away but with compassion & commitment, you can create a new normal🦋

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