Does your spouse support you in your goal to compete?

Competing is not only stepping on stage—it’s really a lifestyle. The discipline, structure, sacrifices… it changes you

But what happens when your partner doesn’t understand or support that journey?

Maybe they don’t get why you measure every meal, why you spend hours training, or why this goal matters so much to you

Some women tell me they feel like they have to hide parts of their routine to avoid tension

It’s painful when the person you love doesn’t seem to support something that’s so important to you

But before resentment builds, it’s worth asking: Do they really not support me, or do they just not understand?

Sometimes, what feels like rejection is actually confusion, concern, or even insecurity. Plus if they haven’t been in the industry or see it the way you do, they might have skewed ideas about it as a whole

Where you see a body as a work of art to keep molding and building upon, they still see a body in a bikini for others to look at

Aside from that, they might miss the old routines you shared, worry about your well-being, or struggle to relate to your level of commitment

It could really be a grieving process for them to watch you take on habits and behaviors that change the dynamic

It’s unfair to assume that because they haven’t adjusted they don’t support you. Of course, if you’ve implemented tons of communication strategies and worked to find means to compromise or see their perspective but it’s still not leading to support, that’s a different discussion

Their lack of support doesn’t mean you should shrink yourself or hide your passion. It means communication is key

Instead of expecting them to just “get it,” try explaining what competing gives you—how it makes you feel, what it means to you, and how their support (even in small ways) could make a difference

You deserve to pursue your goals without shame

It is worth exploring what it would look, sound, and feel like to know they support you & ask them what they need from you too

I have a whole workshop on communication for members of www.celestial.fit/ondemand learn more & sign up at that link